Im miserable plz help!!!???

Question

okay my ex bf and i broke up like 3 months ago and he moved ..it made me feel like he lefted me here to die alone ..i broke up with him cuz he didn't call talk to me or anything for 3 weeks and he sorta a player but we went out 4 like 7 months ...well like 2 months later i gota call saying he wanted to see me he came to my house and we made out he told me he loved me ...he lefted again..no calls....2 or 3 weeks later ..i gota call he wanted to see me and i didnt say anything ..he said wat u dont like me anymore ..i said im sorry(lie im was just trying to not get hurt anymore by him i was fighting back the tears while i said this )and acted like he had to get off the fone so fast ...

2weeks later he called accteditaly and said he would call bac and he did i didnt have service tho so it didnt ring i just got a viocemail with him and a friend saying f*** [prolly trying to make me laugh] he called again the next nite at 11 i was tired from running all day tht i went to sleep at 10 ...and now while im sitting in class and thinking bout him and how much i love him ..and the problem is tht i have been through tons of boys trying to get over him and at the momnet im going out with best friend and i dont wanna hurt him yea i like him i liked them all but my ex always pops in my head and i wanna be over him but my mind and emotions wont let me

plz help???

plzplzplz!!!

=[im miserable!!

Answer 1

This shouldn't happen if you are dating a new boyfriend, if you don't have your new boyfriend in your head, but have your ex, it means you love him more.

But, I think, REMEMBER IT'S JUST MY OPINION, that maybe you shouldn't have broke up with him. I think your relationship was going smoothly and breaking up due to the fact that he sets dates monthly probably wasn't such a good reason ( he just probably doesn't have time like me, I set dates every 4 weeks also, and my girlfriend understand).

And maybe, you thought he was a player, did you have proof? By seeing how much he is trying to get back with you makes me feel like he wouldn't stab you in the back, but this is just me. I personally think he wants to know if you still love him so that way he can decide if he has to move on or not ( I think the same way after breakups).

So overall, I think you should decide based on whether or not you like him more than your new boyfriend. If you like him more, let him know you still have feeling for him so he can feel so relieved and not move on. Sure he lives far away, but considering how much he loves you, this seems like it will be a healthy relationship.