Im only 15,am i too young to think about marriage?

Question

ive always wanted a family,since i was younger,and idk why.

i just think its a beautiful thing.

but i think whenever i bring up having a family w/ my g/f she might get pressured or scared!!should i stop doing that??

Answer 1

you are only 15 and the chances of you marrying your gf now is very slim.  You will date a lot more girls and its way too early.  There is nothing wrong with wanting a family but live life first and than consume a marriage.  Its more work than most of people your age know.  

Answer 2

ha! yes!  

Answer 3

As a teenager it seems like if you don't get on with life its going to pass you by and you'll miss out.

Think back as many years as you can remember.  Maybe you were age 5?  OK then you can remember 10 years.  Think of how long it took you to get from age five to fifteen.  All that stuff that happened.  I know most of you can't remember but concentrate on the time frame.

Now you should easily live to 75.  That means you got all those 10 years you remember and you get to repeat them 6 more times.  Wow 60 years yet to go.

You got a lot of time to consider marriage.  No its not wrong to talk about it.  How else are you going to learn and get other peoples opinions?  If someone is shocked at you talking about it just assure them you're not serious about doing anything.

Look at the women you know in their 20's.  The smart ones aren't married yet are they?  That tells you something.  

Answer 4

Yea I wouldn't say anything to your girlfriend about that. Your 15 with your whole life ahead of you. You have plenty of time to have a wife and kids later. Just be a kid and have fun. You don't have to forget about what you want but don't run your girlfriend off because of it. I do not know any 15 year olds ready for marriage.  

Answer 5

If I were you I would hold off on the 15 year old engagement planning.

I was in the same boat you are...ever since I decided boys didn't have cooties I wanted to be married and have kids.  

My boyfriend was I was16 and I talked about getting married.  Then the next boyfriend when I was 17.  Then the next when I was 19.  Now, the current when I am 21.

Now, I'm feeling scared of getting married...I'm realizing how much time I spent waiting for the day I could start my family I forgot to start me.

What I mean is...try to remember that the family thing will come in due time.  Think about yourself for now.  Figure out you, then in a few years you can figure out the you plus someone else.

Good luck!

And, try not to scare away your girlfriend. :)

Answer 6

YES! you should stop.

its ok for you to want a family and think about what your future holds (key word, future!) but keep those thoughts to yourself, talking to your girlfriend about it may make her feel uncomfortable, as she may not have the same thoughts about it as you do.

Answer 7

You have your whole life ahead of you, you have plenty of time to think about it.

Answer 8

no way dude and you should have 6 kids too,cause that job at mcdonalds will be an awesome way to support your family.

Answer 9

Think about? No.

Get married? Yes.

Answer 10

It's ok...i do that too.

Answer 11

Your not too young to think about it, but don't talk about it with your girlfriend if she gets too freaked about it.

Answer 12

iiT'S OK TO THiiNK ABOUT iiT ...JUST DON'T TELL YOUR GF ...OR ANYONE ELSE! THAT WiiLL PROB SCARE HER AWAY

Answer 13

i wouldnt bring it up around her... that would b kinda weird  

Answer 14

Bring it up and see how she feels if it makes her uncomfortable then stop.  Also you can think about it and want it all you want but don't get married and start a family until you are financially ready.  Though it is unlikely you'll be with the same girl when that time comes it's not impossible...  My fiance and I started talking about getting married one day when I was 14 and we just began dating.  We some how just knew that this was it this was right.  We held off on actualy getting married though, I will be 22 years old and he will be 25 when we get married.  Take things slow.