Im pregnant, Partner doesnt want it.. ADVICE PLEASE..?

Question

Ok so ive just found out that im pregnant again.. Ive been pregnant a few years ago and I had a termination.. I felt forced into it by my partner and ive regretted it every day.. Then at the start of this year I got pregnant again but miscarried.. NOW im pregnant my third time and my partner keeps making it really clear he doesnt want it.. He goes on about now he has to be all serious and h**l loose all his money.. He will come round to my place and pretty much just go to bed and ignore me.. He is putting so much stress on me and I know that i cant go through with another termination but at the same time I need my partner to give me a break.. I really dont know what to do at all in this situation!! Please help..

Answer 1

keep your baby and if he's too immature to be there for you and be a father. Kick him to the curb and file for child support. Now he'll know the meaning of losing all his money. I hope he comes around for you though. Good luck with the baby.

Answer 2

Kick him to the curb and file for child support

Answer 3

Have it,and you do not need him. He can pay child support!

Answer 4

Do you think you can take care of the baby on your own? Its both of your decision but if he wants to be an *** the ball is in your court. Hopefully if you keep the baby he will come around. Please make the right decision for you and ESPECIALLY for your unborn baby!

Answer 5

i bet not too many people will say this to you.  been there, done that.  i was dating a guy for 2 years.  i got pregnancy accidentally.  initially he said ill do whatever, no matter what il be there.  all the while he was suggesting pretty heavily that i should abort.  i made the appointment, got up on the bed, had an ultrasound to date the pregnancy and found out i was about 4 months along.  it was still legal then, but i just couldnt stomach the thought.  what kind of human would i be if i terminated my pregnancy at this stage, and for that matter, ever???  After this, he said he was still there.  a short 2 months later, he finally came out with saying place the baby for adoption, or leave.  i found an adoptive family, and cried for days upon weeks.  finally, i stood up for the woman who i knew i was, and for my  unborn child. i decided no JERK will push me around, and tell me what to do with my body, and MY CHILD.  shortly there after, i left him. i moved home with my folks (whom i have no relationship with mind you) and with nealry NO HELP i got my life back together.  i am now living on my own, successful, happy and a single mother to the most beautiful baby girl ive ever seen.  she will be a year in september and its been the best year of my life.  she changed me forever.  i know now that i am a whole person, with out the "help" of any worthless man who would try to intimidate me into making a bad choice for the wrong reasons.  i am PRO CHOICE mind you, its your body YOUR CHOICE.  that being said, YOU CHOSE to terminate the pregnancy.  if this is your choice, OWN your decision.  i am not here to judge.  no one is.  make this choice for you, and your child should you chose to be blessed with him or her in your life.  i wish you all the best.

Answer 6

Keep the baby it is a gift from God. Make him understand what you are going through. Was the boyfriend complaing when the baby was being mabe. The boyfriend is a looser bump him!

Answer 7

if the only reason you are considering aborting the baby is because of your relationship with him than i suggest you take time to think of what you want, would you still want the baby if he did too? a baby is an important thing and is not to be taken lightly but its your baby no one Else's and even if he is not ready for one you not obligated to even consider what he wants.

ps. i would look carfully at a relationship with someone who doesnt want to start a family with you because he doesnt want to grow up in the end the sacrafices you make for your children will always be worth it  

Answer 8

Ithink u should keep it. and if you dont wont it put it up for adoption. I mean its  a baby. Do u no how they killed the first one?

When the baby is this young, doctors use the Saline Method, where they inject a salty saline solution into the mother's womb. You would think it would just poison the baby, but it actually burns it to death. Even though the baby is so young, on ultrasounds of the abortion, the fetus is seen pulling away from the poison as it is injected...obviously wanting to stay alive. The baby is intelligent enough to move away from the pain...but the child can't escape it.

Answer 9

your partner does not seem like a positive aspect of your life.

this question is much too personal, and i dont have enough knowledge to know whether YOU should keep the baby or not. its your decision. youl have to live with it forever. so you make it based on what your heart tells you.

Answer 10

Just raise the baby yourself because your partner is a very selfish person. A life is life and you can't play aroung with that  

Answer 11

Just think about what you want. Men come and go, your baby will love you no matter what! too many abortions can really do damage emotionally and physically to a woman.

Answer 12

Your partner doesn't seem like the loving-type... And it is clear to me you want this child. I'd advise you to lose some "dead-weight"(aka selfish partner) and start with a clean slate, for your sake, and your baby's. You deserve better, so does your child who will do much better with only a mother who is strong than with an unhappy mom and a poor excuse for a father.

Be strong!!! And good luck!

Answer 13

dump the guy raise ur baby right

Answer 14

I think he has a say in this decision, not to force a termination but to have a child. If you want this child have it, put father unknown on birth certificate, leave him and tell him to keep it in his pants until he is prepared for the reality, good luck

Answer 15

Ask yourself one question: Who means more to you? Your child or some guy?

You can raise a child yourself.

Just remember you already kill one of your kids because of him dont make it 2.

Answer 16

I think its important to have the support of your partner, if not and you want to keep it then i would get some support from my family.  I think support is very important especialy throu those very emotional times    - trust me-  

           When i found out i was pregnant my partner wasnt very happy but he came around after a while.  If your partner isnt paying much attention to you then get rid of him.  i would go to my family and get support! if youve always wanted a child don't let this man stop you, Are you seriously gonna go all your life without a child just because HE decided you wernt going to have one? Its a HUGE gift.  Good luck and congraddulations!

P.s. was your first termination and the miscarriage all with the same man?  If yes, after this experiance (weather you have it or not) please don't let yourself into this situation again with the same man.  Use protection!

Answer 17

do not worry about ur partner hun

Answer 18

Well as far as I can see he keeps getting you pregnant as much as you get pregnant. I think that he needs to face up to his responsibilities. If you want this child then DO NOT let anyone force you to abort it! If you are married he will just have to deal. If you are not he will just have to pay. That's how I see it anyways. I am a bit of a hard-nose though. Life is about choices, he chose to take the chance to sleep with you and possibly get pregnant and that was ok with him. Nice, but not fair at all!  If you already know you can't deal with another termination then please don't do it! He wants his cake and to eat it too..time to grow up buddy!

Good Luck and I hope you keep your baby =)

Answer 19

He doesn't sound like a very good partner.

Have your baby.  If he doesn't want it, let him leave.

Make sure you get child support.

Answer 20

Dont have the abortion. You must stand firm for yourself and your baby. Let him know that you are going to have the baby. If he sticks around try to get him involved. My husband had a real problem with my being pregnant with our last child. I got him to go with me to my 11 week ultrasound and he was in tears when he saw our daughter, She is now daddy's little princess (she is 5 now) so there is hope there. Just please let your baby live.  

Answer 21

He is pouting to force you to go his way.  Just like a 3 year old that wants a toy.  This is extremely common.  You have to understand though, at this point, it sounds like it's the baby or him. I must say, the first time, you chose him.  The second time, God chose the baby (yes, I'm religious)  The thrid time, what's it going to be?  Him or the baby.  I can honestly say that it will be a lifetime of toughness having his child and being tied to him for the rest of your life.  Look at the last 18 years of your life.  Think about going through the next 18 years with him being the father of your child.  Now think of going through the next 18 years without him, but with the child.  Now think of trying to make it the next 18 years with him, with no children.  See how this works?

It's hard.  No one can tell you what is right or wrong, but I sure would look to a pregnancy crisis center before aborting.  How I would love to be in your shoes.  I cannot have children and am struggling to adopt a second child.  You have my dream, but it seems to be a struggle for you. Funny how these things work out.

But I wish you best.

Answer 22

He is probably just scared of the thought of raising a child.  Maybe give him some time and take him to ultrasounds and doctor appointments with you.  If even after you give him time then  say "to h**l with you" and dump him!  When the baby is born, take him to court and make sure you get the proper child support you deserve.  But I can almost guarantee you that once he holds his little one he will be completely in love!

Answer 23

Please go back and re-read what you have written. Love does not force you to do something you do not want to do. Please think about what is right for you and the baby-even if it means giving the baby up after you have it.

Selfish men do not make good fathers. This man apparently does not care about you or the tiny lives you've created together nor does he have to live with the guilt after the decision is made.  

Answer 24

If you still regret the other abortion and you get another one, you may never be the same mentally. dont do it to yourself. Keep the baby, but consider adoption if possible. And i would let go of your partner as he should be supportive in whatever decision YOU want and should never force you to have an abortion. good luck hun

Answer 25

loose the guy. Its your choice, your body, your life, and its your baby...

If he loved you he would either tell you to go on and be with someone that wanted kids or would be finding a way to support you and take care of you. Instead of stressing you out. Leave him and start enjoying your pregnancy. And do you really want a baby around someone like that. You need to think about that baby now, even if your not going to think about yourself.

Answer 26

well my ex partner put me through the same situation. I chose to keep the baby and he is choosing to act like a complete ***... You dont need him, its his loss not yours. You should never do anything that you dont feel is right. I decided that the best decision was to keep my baby and get rid of the father and I am happy for it.