Im pregnant with my ex-boyfriends child and very much in love with him but..?

Question

im not sure how he feels about me anymore. We broke up cuz he was jealous & immature & because our friends kept causing drama in our relationship & i just couldnt take it anymore so i broke it off (this was b4 i knew i was preg)

After i told him i was preg, we started to have s*x again & i think thats what my problem is. Im letting myself get attached 2 him again emotionally & thats exactly what i did NOT want 2 do, especially since our relationship now is basically friends with benefits.

The thing is, he has no ride to work, so i give him a ride to work everyday out of the goodness of my heart. LAst week tho, after we had just had s*x i was taking him 2 work and a female called him (i heard her voice thru the phone) and he asked could they hook-up later [WHILE I WAS RIGHT N FRONT OF HIM]

He claims he love me & still wants to b with me but I feel like... well i pretty much kno that he's using me but would i b wrong 2 not give him a ride 2 work anymore...

& any other advice PLEASE!

Answer 1

What a horrible situation! I was reading your question and everything sounded so sweet and cute and I thought that you guys could make things work...until I read the part about him asking some other girl if they could hook up...that made me so angry for you! I definitely don't think that it would be wrong for you to stop giving him a ride to work. He is causing you unncessary stress during your pregnancy which should be the most beautiful time of your life. Please, for you and your child, tell him that your child deserves better than that and so do you. Good luck!

Answer 2

Well, it's obvious he doesn't love you. BUT, giving him a ride to work is a good thing, and you should continue to do it for as long as you can because it will benefit  YOU if he works. He needs to work TO SUPPORT HIS BABY. You tell him that whether or not you are together when the baby arrives, the child is his and he needs to grow up and act like a father. He needs to BE THERE to visit with the child, change diapers, play with the child, and financially support the child. He can agree to that willingly, or you can take him to court and get a support/visitation order. But he's about to be a FATHER and he'd best get his act together. He will have to pay you money every week to take care of his child. Go over to Domestics Relations at your local court house and find out how much he will have to pay you. (Find out what he earns every week; that will help them determine his obligtation to you and the child.)

Answer 3

ok move on.... how old are you?? you need someone that's going to be there for you. and he's not.... emotionally and support you all the way. He should be working it out with you. But that's what happens..................another child in this world....... you should move on..

Answer 4

Friends with benefits is not what you want.  He thinks he has you trapped.  He thinks your pregnancy will make you desperate enough to put up with him.  Be honest with your self.  This isn't what you want so don't do it.  If he is mature enough for the truth then tell him you want a monogamous relationship or to be simply cordial co-parents.  

If he is not mature enough to handle that much honesty then don't explain all your feelings just break up AGAIN.  Tell him you would like for the baby to have a relationship with him but you do not want to be caught in the way of his next relationship (or fling).  Additionally you can not afford to take chances with your gynaecological health.  Having s*x with him while he is "hooking" up with others puts you at risk for sexually transmitted infection.  That is unsafe for you and your baby.  You only went back to him for the baby.  That is not the kind of relationship you nor your baby need.  If he sincerely loves you he will recognise your value and you two will work it out.

Answer 5

Not giving him rides anymore is a really good idea, it's not going to make you a bad person if you take care of your own needs first. You know he's not worth it. Focus on taking care of yourself and your baby don't let this loser play you for a fool. Goodluck!

Answer 6

nope, he's a big boy-- let him find his own ride.

Don't let him treat you like dirt. you are the mother of his child, not his play thing.

stand up for yourself and your baby. be someone the baby would be proud of.

if you don't stand up for you-- who will?

good luck-- and drop that dude.

Answer 7

I am in the same exact situation as you. The problem is he is USING you for only one thing. You need to cut everything off you had for him, and just keep it as PG-13 ish. I was emotionally attach too, but what can you do? Eventually you're gonna get tired of the same old S**t, and can't take it no more. Soon, you will realize you deserve more than than. He is not the only man in this lifetime that you can find like that. If you find one like him there's plenty more fishes in the sea! He is just full of BS. Its plain to see that he wants only one thing. He is not thinking with his head! Just his other head! Ha ha if you know what I mean! Anyways, its his loss. If you keep on giving him what you want, thats you. Its like his getting all his cake and eat it all. I know its hard, but you have to do whats BEST FOR YOU and the baby!!!!!!!

Answer 8

Get a good lawyer and dump his lowly ***.  He can get his own ride - he needs to learn to be responsible.

Answer 9

Did you talk about your relationship with him? What did he say when you told him you are pregnant? Did he promise you something for the sake of your baby? If nothing at all then he is just taking advantage of you. You dont deserve him. Leave him soon or else your life will become miserable. You can have your baby less your boyfriend.

Answer 10

you know deep down in your heart that you are only hurting yourself. so i will tell you: stop this madness