Im pregnat MY BOYFRIEND IS AN A HOLE, I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO.I DONT WANT MY BABY TO BE WITHOUT A DAD?

Question

HE HAS BEEN GIVING ME A HARD TIME THROUGH MY PREGNACY .IVE BEEN CRYING SO MUCH .I DONT THINK HE LOVES ME.HE DOSENT LISTEN TO ME WHEN I TELL HIM TO NOT TALK TO THE WOMEN HE WORKS WITH .BECAUSE HE DOSENT EVEN LET ME TALK TO NO GUY.AND I RESPECT THAT AND I HAVENT BEEN DOING THAT.I DONT KNOW WHY HE THINKS HE CAN DO THINGS THAT I CANT EVEN BE DOING.HE HAS A HIGH TEMPER .IM SCARED HE MIGHT HURT ME PHYSICALLY . MY BABY IS ABOUT TO BEBORN IN OCT 1ST

Answer 1

Are you really not allowing each other to even talk with people of the opposite s*x? That is ridiculous, first of all. Definitely NOT typical of a healthy relationship.

That aside - if your boyfriend is really an ****** as you say, and he has a high temper that scares you enough into even wondering if he may hurt you - then you need to leave him.

Of course you don't want your child to be without a father, but isn't no father better than a dangerous one? Millions of women raise children as single mothers, and you could do it too. And someday, hopefully you would come across a wonderful partner who could be the father figure in your child's life.

Answer 2

if your afraid of him.. then i think there are signs of abuse in your relationship..you must be happy in order to give your baby a good life...

i think that him not letting you talk to any males its stupid...you should talk to who ever you want, but still have respectt your relationship as to not cross cheatingboundariess..second of all at work he shud be allowed to talk to his co-workers no matter wut gender, as long as its work related and also respecting your relationship....honestly talk to him, but try to prevent anger, sadness, or stuberness get the best of both of you...

Answer 3

If you think he's gonna hurt you physically, I wouldn't stay around, if he might hurt you then he might hurt your baby. I wouldn't stay with him for yours and your babys safety

Answer 4

If you think he is going to hurt you i wouldn't make it a habit to be around him. For the sake of your baby you should really stop and think. That always helps me to make important decisions  

Answer 5

Honey in all honesty, both you and your baby will be okay without the a*****e.  You don't deserve this and neither does your child - wise the h**l up and get out of that abusive relationoship.  Just think how much harder it will be with the a*****e - just picture the future with him, now, picture the future without him - you know it looks a h**l of a lot better - lose the loser.  God Bless.

Answer 6

you sound like as much of a loser as he is. it would probably be better to give your baby up for adoption as opposed to being with someone like him or you. sorry, but that is how i feel.  

Answer 7

Better your baby have one happy parent than two that fight and are living in a controlling and negative environment.  Get support from your family and friends around you - and get out now.  Don't let him cut you off from anyone - especially if you think he might hurt you physically.  Move out when he's not home if you have to.  Your baby doesn't need a father that controls and hurts his/her mum - it will only teach the child that that sort of behaviour is okay, and will either copy it or go for a relationship when they are older that is similar.  Give you and your baby a fresh start with positive role models - one day if he decides to ever change - which sounds unlikely then maybe he can prove to you that he can be a good dad, but don't stay with him just for the baby especially if he doesn't love you or respect you.

Answer 8

For a realtionshop to work, you need to give each other room to breath. Everybody needs some time on their own from time to time, no matter how much they love the other person. Therefore, by not letting him talk to people of the oposit s*x, your suffocating him and he takes all his anger out on you.

You should maybe take a break from each other for awhile. You should be focusing on your baby, and you don't need any added stress or pain. How about you talk as friends from time to time for maybe 2 or 3 weeks, then slowly when you're both ready, remodel into a realtionship.

You said you're afraid this guy would hurt you. A person who loves you, truly loves you, would NEVER intentionally hurt you, physically or mentally. So, you're right to question his feelings.

For now you should focus on the baby and yourself, if he loves you and wants to be a part of his childs life, he should should be the one to make the moves.

Good luck, and congrats on the baby.

Answer 9

dump that b*****d! fu(k him! he doesn't deserve nice S**t from you!

Answer 10

if it wasnt going to be to much i would find your own place or best of all go to a womens shelter who will support you and find a house for you and furnish it and support you while you get back on your feet,