Im really depressed, just had my second mc?

Question

im really really down, had my second mc at less that 6 weeks.

whats going on? why is it so hard for me? its really taking its emotional toll on me....my gp said she wont test me until 3 miscarriages... plz tell me some stories of hope.... thanks...

Answer 1

sorry for your loss

i had 2 m/c then fell prenant and had a healthy boy then 2yr later had another m/c then had a girl straight away

Answer 2

Hi, sorry for your loss, i know exactly how you are feeling.  I suffered my 2nd m/c 4wks ago.  1st m/c April'08, natural m/c at 5wks, blighted ovumn, 2nd m/c, missed m/c at 12wks, d&c required, was only measuring 8wks and no longer a heartbeat (had seen and heard h/b at 7wks).  I was completely devastated and to be honest i still am.  Apparently 2 m/c's in a row are considered as being 'normal' and our chances of having a healthy pregnancy the next time round are as good as if we never had a m/c.  I am a firm believer in that everything happens for a reason, through time we will be pregnant again and it will work out for us, just don't give up hope.

Answer 3

I am so sorry to hear your story.  I read so many stories here, but your one just touched me - I don't know why.... I have been trying to conceive too, one year on still nothing .....nobody knows what it's like unless they are going through it themselves.  I have never been pregnant so I don't know exactly how you feel.

I will keep you in my thoughts - and i hope that you will be blessed with your little Baby soon!!!!

good luck sweetie x

Answer 4

I have an 8yr. old son & a 2yr. old daughter. We  had 2 miscarriages before we had our daughter. (2 in 1yr.) When we found out we were preg. AGAIN, I told my husband, if we lose this one, I'm done. I couldn't stand the thought of any more heartache. Well, we went in for our 1st ultrasound(approx. 10 weeks) and there she was!!!

All things considered, the pregnancy went pretty well. I went into pre-term labor @ 33 weeks. They had to give me this shot to stop it. I made it full term. I only gained 11 lbs. with that pregnancy. Her heart rate dropped during delivery, so they put me on oxygen.(No big deal)

I was induced, and was @ the hospital less than 8hrs. before I had this beautiful 6lb.11oz. beautiful baby girl. (She has NO health probs.)

We are now pregnant w/ our 3rd. (Due 1/29/09) He/she is so far so good.

I know it's hard. You think it's the end of the world. And you'll never find happiness. But you do. I love my children w/ all my heart, but I'm not gonna lie. There are still times I'll go somewhere like the grocery or something, & see kids that would have been my other kids' age. It's hard, but you learn to smile and hug the ones you have a little harder.

It'll happen for you. I believe everything happens when it's supposed to. And remember, you'll get thru it and you'll be a stronger person because of it.

Best wishes. I'm blowing baby dust your way! :-)

Answer 5

Don't give up hope, and remember that it is nothing that you have done personally to cause this emotional turmoil. Even though you had a miscarriage at less than six weeks, your body is still in "pregnancy mode". Your hormone level is still boosted, which may take weeks to level out. This, in turn, will cause you to have the same emotional effects of pregnancy, sometimes lasting months. All of these problems will subside, and you will become pregnant again, carrying the child to full term. It may be beneficial (for you and your body) to wait at least three months before trying to conceive again. This will help your body and mind heal from the previous trauma. On a lighter note, are you familiar with the term: Third times the charm? A full term pregnancy will happen. Stay positive and good luck with everything!    

Answer 6

Hi,

(((BIG HUGS)))

I am so sorry to hear of your lost. I know right now you feeling upset, angry and depressed.

I was 21 when I first fell pregnant with my first baby, it was a shock but I was so happy and my partner at the time was happy too. I got a letter in post to go for a scan and 2 days before scan I went shopping with partner at it was our 2nd anniversary of being a couple and we splashed out on baby things.

Day of our FIRST routine scan came along and we found out that sadly baby had no heartbeat and had died in womb, I was 18 weeks pregnant.

That relationship sadly ended.

I then met another guy and we dated and lo and behold I fell pregnant again! I took test and seeing 2 lines was scary. I cried for days as I was emotional and upset. I begged doctors for reassurance scan and luckily then did one at 9 weeks and I saw his little heartbeat.

I then had a good pregnancy and gave birth to a healthy little boy Caden. He is adorable. However his dad walked out 2 days after I gave birth to be with my friend so that wasn't good.

I know right now life seems **** but trust me it will and can happen.

I hope you don't mind but I have included a poem that helped me when I lost my baby ...

WHAT MAKES A MOTHER?

I thought of you and closed my eyes

And prayed to God today

I asked "What makes a Mother?"

And I know I heard Him say.

"A Mother has a baby"

This we know is true

"But God can you be a Mother,

When your baby's not with you?"

"Yes, you can," He replied

With confidence in His voice

"I give many women babies,

When they leave is not their choice.

Some I send for a lifetime,

And others for the day.

And some I send to feel your womb,

But there's no need to stay."

"I just don't understand this God

I want my baby to be here."

He took a deep breath and cleared His throat,

And then I saw the tear.

"I wish I could show you,

What your child is doing today.

If you could see your child's smile,

With all the other children and say...

'We go to Earth to learn our lessons,

Of love and life and fear.

My Mummy loved me oh so much,

I got to come straight here.

I feel so lucky to have a Mum,

Who had so much love for me.

I learned my lessons very quickly,

My Mummy set me free.

I miss my Mummy oh so much,

But I visit her every day.

When she goes to sleep,

On her pillow's where I lay

I stroke her hair and kiss her cheek,

And whisper in her ear.

Mummy don't be sad today,

I'm your baby and I'm here.'

"So you see my dear sweet ones,

your children are okay.

Your babies are born here in My home,

And this is where they'll stay.

They'll wait for you with Me,

Until your lesson's through.

And on the day that you come home

they'll be at the gates for you.

So now you see what makes a Mother,

It's the feeling in your heart

it's the love you had so much of

Right from the very start

Though some on earth may not realize,

you are a Mother.

Until their time is done.

They'll be up here with Me one day

and know that you are the best one!

Prayers to you and your partner at this sad time.

God bless now little one, sleep tight x*x

Answer 7

so sorry to hear that but god knows why. A friend of mine had 5 mc the dr told her she need to be stitched so she was admitted and had that stitch done so to hold the baby but at the same time she was required not to have s*x throughout her pregnancy. After all she had a problem on the last month but by god's will she has a healthy baby now.