Im so confused?

Question

me and my ex was together for a year until we broke up, and this is when i turned 16, and when he turned 16 too, we met up as friends and we got really well, but one thing led to another and we had s*x, it was our first time, he is good mate so i don't really mind, but i forgot to take my pill that day, so, i gave birth too our daughter, i asked him if he'd like us to get back togehter, and he said no, but he'll be there for his little girl, wont it just work out better if we was together?.

Answer 1

Your ex is a SOB, make sure he pays, get as much money of him as possible for leaving you. hope it works out. He gives men a bad name

Answer 2

Just because you have a child together doesn't mean you should be together.  Even though that is what seems to be best for the child it isn't always the case if the two people involved don't love each other.  You may love him but if he doesn't love you then there is no point in being together.

Answer 3

It isn't always better to be together. It may just make it harder. It was much easier for me to be single when my son was born. You feel better knowing you can do it yourself without his help. Being a single mother is hard and trying but you will feel better and more accomplished knowing you can do it alone. I always felt like I  had more to worry about than a relationship.

Answer 4

Well first of all you can't hold a relationship together just because you have kids, it destroys you and them. If you both don't equally want the relationship then it will not work and your child is stuck in the middle watching you suffer 24/7. If you can get along raise the kid in your own way, while working together for your child.

Answer 5

Nope!

You have enough to take care of.  Concentrate on yourself and your new baby.

Answer 6

oh baby girl im so sorry.  it hurts doesnt it when u look into ur babys eyes and u see the love that they have for u.  and u think about how good it would be if sitting behind u, holding u, was their father, seeing what ur seeing....honestly what they are missing is absolutely priceless but what can u do if they choose to be not there with u?  it may be the best thing really for u and for ur child.  Seriously no child can flourish and grow as a little human being if they are in a family without love.  Two parents must love each other before they can love a child.  ur baby will be fine with just u, believe it because its true.  i had a baby boy 8 years ago, his daddy did not want me though we wanted him.  i was a single mummy for 7 years. many men wanted us but all for the wrong reasons.  then i met a guy who was a real man and now we have a 4 month old. my 8 year old and i were happy when it was just us, we had lots of love. but now we have grown.  u  can too.  dont rush it just be u and ur baby. love her/him cos they adore u. The daddy is just missing out on so much but thats their problem.  he wont know the meaning of family.  but u and ur baby will!

love to u

Answer 7

you be o.k.love.

Answer 8

well, being single is hard. Try amd try, and when everything doesnt work, then give up.

Answer 9

Think of the child. She is gonna grow up knowing that her parents don't love each other, so she is gonna have a difficult time to learn to love a guy. Plus, its at all good to have one parent in one house and another in a different house; the kid then won't know which one is actually 'home'. And if your boyfriend doesn't want to be together with you, but still wants to be with his kid, he will eventually find a girlfriend. At this rate, your child will be confused about alot of things. You guys need to sort out your problems and grow up a little bit. Get back together and raise this child as parents and not parent to parent.

Answer 10

not always if he dosent love you it could be worse for you to be with him it can be bad for your kid if all yall do is fight

Answer 11

You wouldn't have gotten pregnant from missing 1 pill.  Regardless of that, people should only stay together if they want to be together.  Staying together because of a child is a bad idea.

Answer 12

don't force it.

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Answer 13

well i would have to say that if you guys are used to each other then make a special dinner or just gie him choclotate and flowers or goon a date. There's so many speacial things that you an you ex should do.