Im so depressed all the time! help??

Question

ok so im only 14 and im always soo depressed ALL the time. Like I'll wake up and I'll be like Ok this is going to be a great day and im going to be in a good mood. and then in like 15 min. ill be sooper depressed. And to add onto all this, I cant get a boyfriend because all the guys i date either like my sisters kimberlyn or kourtney and are just using me to get to them. its the same way with friends. on facebook nobody talks to me or writes on my wall or anything even if i write on their wall and ask whats up? or something. and the worst part is everybody is making these new photo albums that are named "My Friends" and alll of them have pictures of kourtney in them with a caption like I LOVE HER!! I try to be friends with everybody but it just doesnt work. it seems like they all hate me and whenever i do become friends with somebody it seems like kourtney starts talking to them a lot more and becomes best friends with them and then they ditch me. ive talked to her about this but she just laughs at me or get mad and says im overreacting. ugh! im just so sick of everything. ive cut myself a couple times but that doesnt solve anything and so i stopped cuz it was pointless. ive thought about suicide a looooot and thinking the world will do so much better without me. nobody ever talks to me even when i go and try to make conversation with them and i try not to be like a freak and follow them around everywhere. like on msn nobody will talk to me and then i got on my sisters msn (i no her password) and i got like 10 popup conversations within the first 5 minutes. i dont no whats wrong with me. im just very very very depressed. nothing i do matters. nobody cares. and i bet if your reading this right now (which i doubt cuz you pbly dont want to hear about my problems plus its really long) then your pbly thinking omg this girl is a freak no wonder why anybody wants to be her friend or something like that. plz just help. im just starting highschool and im scared im going to get really depressed one day from taking it all in and either hurt myself pretty bad or even commit suicide. please just help me. im so sick of everything. =(

Answer 1

look i know how you feel. i've gone threw it and still am. i've even tried to kill myself before but i just couldnt bring myself to it. you just have to get in with the right kinda friends. like before i ws horribly depressed and then i started hanging out with the emo's, goths rockers or whatever you want to call them, in my school and they are some of the nicest people in the world and have helped me threw some of the worst things i've gone threw. i still think about suicide again but then i think about my friends. also have you ever thought that maybe a boyfriend mightnt be the answer and it might be a girlfriend instead.

i also know what u mean about not being able to get a boyfriend or girlfriend. everyone i've asked out is like: " we should just stay friends" or "i like you but not like that". i know it hurts and all but just try hang on

also cutting yourself is no way to go about this. its silly, u could get an infection from it and also it really doesnt make the problems go away. you'll be better off talking to some one about it

Answer 2

Ok! Here's what you are gonna do!

Change your hairstyle, start dressing sexier, don't wear the teenager type clothes, go for short skirts, heels, use a little makeup, not too much though. Use a mascara, a lipstick, and make sure you do your hair! Change yourself. Totally ignore your sister, i mean talk to her with an attitude like " I'm better than you even if you have many friends" .

Write to me on my email, [e-mail] and I'll give you a bunch of advices. Don't worry! Just forget about the stupid suicide. Only faint people are doing that, You should be strong. Guys love strong girls!

Stay calm and email me!

  

Answer 3

you could see a therapist. that or you could ask your parents is you can get a small pet. I've heard that pets can bring out the best in people. I suggest a hamster or a guinea pig. They're SO cute.

Answer 4

high school is amazing it will be the best thing that will ever happen to you.

make friends with people that interest you not ones that are good looking and popular.

Answer 5

exercise ALWAYS helps no matter what or hang out with friends.

Answer 6

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Answer 7

i hate this new format.

okay but anyways, well why don't you try to be like your sisters. be interested in what they are in and instead of being mad that they talk to everyone, why don't you notice what they are talking about so you know what people like to talk about? why do you have to be different from them? just mix in. either you can  copy them or be looked down upon forever.

it also depends, are you pretty and skinny or okay and chubby. i know it seems rude, but people seem to make friends on appearance a lot.

Answer 8

Growing up as a teenager can be a difficult time with a lot of pressure.  I feel your pain, because I've been there before too.  

Try not to compare yourself with your sister - I know that's easier said than done.  But by doing so, you're basing yourself on another person when you should be building your own foundation based on who YOU are and who you want to grow up to be.  Your sister may be more popular than you, but that's no reason to hurt yourself (I'm glad to know that you had enough sense to stop cutting yourself).  Also, please don't go on your sisters msn - it only further makes you compare yourself to her, and more importantly it's not right.  So, please respect her privacy and don't do that anymore, k?  

It sounds like you're trying too hard to be liked.  Don't take this wrong way, but it sounds like you're kind of sucking up to people - like compromising who you are to other's expectations so that you'll be liked.  In my experience, I've found that people will like and respect you more when you don't do that.  Instead, just be yourself.  Be grounded in who you are, stay centered, and learn to recognize what are appropriate boundaries of behavior within each of your relationships.  I know that sounds like a lot of self-work to do, but believe me - if you do the work to truly learn and know about yourself, then you will be on a very good path in life in becoming a powerful individual in charge of your own life.  A good way to start is to keep a journal to write down your thoughts (but make sure it's for your eyes only).

So, I say keep waking up with the attitude that it's going to be a great day.  Know that somewhere, there is a great guy who you will meet and who will love you for who you are.  Be friendly and talk to people as you have been doing - but don't feel you have to be liked by everyone (and don't feel you have to bend yourself for other people).  Some people will like you, some will not - that's life.  But sooner or later you'll realize that what's most important is what you think about yourself - not other people.  Going into high school, this is a great opportunity to put this new attitude into action and I'm sure you'll make some new friends.  Just try to make friends with people who you feel are more "your type" of people.

It'll be okay.  You do matter.  I care about you.  The Universe adores you.  It'll be okay.  Everything always works out in the end.  (Like I said, I've been where you are and I can relate to how you feel.  But just know that life is long and you are just getting started!!!  10 years from now when you're all happy and successful, you'll probably look back at this time and kind of chuckle over how emotionally worked up you got over these types of things.)

You will be just fine.  =)

Answer 9

Before I say anything, I want to say  that since you've mentioned feeling suicidal more than once...PLEASE MAKE SURE IF YOU ARE FELLING LIKE DOING ANYTHING TO HURT YOURSELF, GO SOMEPLACE SAFE!  ANY WHERE, AN EMERGENCY ROOM, A FAMILY MEMBER, OR ANY FRIEND YOU CAN GET TO... OR CALL A CRISIS LINE! I hope you have talked to somebody besides putting the question on Yahoo! I'm sure you will find that A LOT more people care about you than you think. I believe that (if depression doesn't run in your family) you may have situational depression. That is depression due to things going on in your life and around you. In your case, sounds like most EVERYTHING right now. You are 14 yrs. old and that is a difficult age for everyone. Female hormones are probably playing a big role too. I know that it's a lot more difficult being a teenager in our society than it ever has been. It may seem like this is all you have to look forward to in life and that it's going to last forever...but IT'S NOT! You WILL grow up and then you'll find that all those so called popular people, even your sisters will be doing other things in life and may not be as popular as they thought they were in high school! Find SOMEONE healthy and safe to talk to,find people to be friends with, who make you feel good about yourself, give you encouragement and make you smile. Give yourself a break, do what you can to take care of yourself.There is help out there, real professional help, you may need that if nothing else works. BE GOOD TO YOURSELF OK. I know you've probably heard this before but SUICIDE IS PERMANENT, NO TURNING BACK! YOU WILL NEVER KNOW WHAT YOU COULD HAVE BEEN OR DONE W/ YOUR LIFE! You will also hurt A LOT of people who love you if you do that. Again...TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF...OK.

Answer 10

Go see a therapist and try cognitive behavior therapy. It helps with negative thinking. And ask if you may need to see a psychiatrist to evaluate you. Which isn't as scary as it sounds. i promise

It works. try it

Answer 11

This might help.  There is a website called dailystrength.org.  It's an online support group, for all sorts of things.  It's really a great place to talk to others and people in your situation can share what has worked for them, and what didn't.  It's gotten me through a very tough time in my life, and I've made some wonderful friends there.  They NEVER judge, just help.  Check it out, and I hope your feeling like yourself soon!

Answer 12

Girly, you are going to be ok! It is a phase and it will pass. You know, school was hard for me too. I am the older sister but my younger sister always was more popular than me. It always seemed as if everyone purposely ignored me. I did have some friends but I focused so much on the ones that weren't I found ways for it to bother me. You know when you grow out of your sisters shadows and become stronger for doing so, you can help others with the same problem. One day they will be out of the house pursuing their own things and you will be on your own. I even had to cope with learning how to be ok with having minimal or no friends. You know it wasnt that bad. I had bad strings of relationships too. And now I am married and he is my best friend. I dont need anyone else. I just had to be patient and wait for my turn. Enough about me... you will be fine. Have a little more confidence in yourself. I know it is hard now but you will get through it. Listen to Mariah Carey! She always made me feel better. You will make it "Through the Rain"  :)

Answer 13

Talk to a counselor or therapist. Depression is a serious condition and needs to be addressed. It won't just go away on its own. I had severe depression starting from age 8 to age 19 before I gave in and went to a doctor. I wish I had gone much earlier because I missed out on a lot. There's nothing shameful about having depression, and there's nothing wrong with admitting you need help.

http://www.depression.com/  

Answer 14

Don't be an ignorant Eyore be a Terrific tigger! And I f you weren't so negative about everything you would be ok so stop!

Answer 15

one of the great things about starting a new school is that not a lot of people know you our your sisters.

i know what its like trying to live up to your sisters shadow. it really sucks cause no one sees the real you. and so yur always known as the little sister (it gets super annoying after a while)

i think your putting yourself down to much. i think you should find somthing about yourself that makes you different from your sisters, make you standout.

try getting your frustration out through music. thats what i do, i write songs and play guitar. read. also its a great way to connect to people, thorugh music.

Answer 16

When you get busy, you get better.

You need to immerse yourself in activities that give to others, and in the end, you will feel better about yourself. For example, volunteer for any charity or event to which you feel as if you would like to devote your time, or call around to nursing homes in your area and ask if there are any residents who never receive visitors (there are many many in every facility that never see any relatives or loved ones). Then go visit one or two of them on Sundays -- or any other day -- and read to them, sing to them (don't worry, even if you THINK you CAN'T, sing, you can :), play a game or do a puzzle with them, or just ask them about their week. You will find that there are treasures just waiting to be discovered, and they are within YOU :)

You want to get better or you wouldn't be asking for help. I hope you realize you are a child of God and He loves you; you are worthy of being loved, and loving yourself is a good start. I am certain that other people have probably told you not to worry about your sisters and their popularity, and apparently you cannot ignore that, so my suggestion is that in order to 'forget' about them, you need to just get outside of yourSELF and give OF yourself to someone who has no sisters to be envious of, no friends to talk to (even if they are mean or lacking in interest) and who have nobody to even give them five minutes of one day of the week.  If you give to others, you will start this wonderful healing process and you'll feel better soon!

I wish you all the best. You are very young and have a whole exciting life ahead of you.  Being 14 is tough, so I'm not minimizing your anguish; I am just trying to help you get over the hump and begin to heal.  It is possible!  

Answer 17

Counseling. Nuff said.

Answer 18

Start taking up some hobbies, or join a club at school; something to get your mind off of it.

Answer 19

I urge you to discuss this with a doctor or counselor. There may well be a medical explanation for your feelings. In the meantime, get some exercise and hang in there!

Good luck!

Answer 20

XANAX

Answer 21

See a psychiatrist.  They can work through things with you.  Sometimes it takes a prescription drug, too.  They can prescribe whatever they think is necessary.

Answer 22

from personal expirience I would have to say

That Jesus Christ is the only cure. Going to

Church always makes me feel so happy!!!!

Try listening to up-lifting music if Youu don't

Already. Music has a wayy of setting yourr

Mood. Always think possitive things for your

Self. Kick out all negative thoughts. Instead

Of focusing on other people && what they

Have that youu don't. Realize what youu

Havee that they don't. &&. Thankful. If your

Friends are more concerned with guyys than

Your friendship; youu should probably find

Some different friends. Don't go looking for

A man. Let him discover youu. K ow what

Youu want && don't settle for less. Be your

Self. Dontt change to fit in or be popular. Itts

Just problems && drama. On top of that it only

Lasts for a season. The computer is fake and

A waist of time. Get out. Learn new things &&

People.hopee this helps. Smilee. Jesus love

Youu. (:

Answer 23

I think you need to talk to a shrink rather than yahoo answers tbh.

What do Facebook and MSN mean? Nothing. You're 14, it's not the end of the world.  

Answer 24

sometimes I feel the same way but theres a little something that can help you out only if you use it once a month!

AND HIGH SCHOOL IS REALLY g*y AND BORING

XTC!

I BET YOU ANYTHING THE PERSON WHO GAVE ME A THUMBS DOWN NEVER TRIED DRUGS!