Im so depressed. im 13 and i HATE my life! please help...?

Question

my parents just broke up about a month ago. within 2 days of them telling us that they were breaking up, my dad moved out.we rarely saw my dad before because he worked so much, now it seems like he wants to be with us every second of every day. i know he does it because he doesnt want to lose us, but its kind of annoying, having to leave your friends house to hang with your dad. now my mom has got a boyfriend, she hasn't told me about him, but i accidently read her txt messages... i dont know what to do, i feel so sad ALL the time. please help.

Answer 1

smoke some weed

Answer 2

Carly :),It is tough whenever parents break up.  I can understand why you feel upset.  The reason why your Dad is doing this now is because he now fears losing you.  Before this break-up,He sort of taken advantage of the fact that he could see you all the time.  So,That's why he felt he could work so much.  Now that he has to move out,He is kicking himself for missing so many precious moments with you.  I'm sure that both your parents still love you.  What you need to do is to confront your mother about this new boyfriend.  It is so very wrong for her to hide this information from you.  You do have a right to know if your parents find someone new in their life.  Especially if these certain people could possibly become part of your family.  I know that this may be hard for you to get over.  It will just take time of getting used to.  Wish I could do something or say something to cheer you up.  I don't like to see young people so sad.  Carly :),Could you do something for me,Please.  Please attempt to be supportive for your parents.  I'm sorry that you feel so sad,But your parents need your love and support right now.  Whenever you feel so sad and depressed,You could contact me if you want.  I'd do anything to cheer you up and bring back that smile to your face again.  My name is David and it's been an honor writing to you.  Hopefully,If and when I see or hear from you next,You will have a nice big smile for me.  You will be okay,Carly :).  Have a goodnight and God bless.  Bye for now.

Answer 3

pray for both of your parents and tell them that your doing so. do not hate them and know that they are going through a world of mixed emotions just like you. stand strong on your own feet and don't be bitter. your school has a psychologist that is there for you. take advantage of that. ask God to fill that emptiness with his love. you must ask and tell your parents you love them.  

Answer 4

the best way to deal with this is to talk to someone

Answer 5

oh sweetie.. I'm 16 and the exact thing happened to me. My dad barely comes around and not cuz he works allot but because he doesnt feel like it. and i found out my dad has a girlfriend basically and he and my mom were still together at the time, not divorced I mean..

sweetie i know everything seems hard now.. and im not gonna lie and tell you I'm perfectly happy.. but with all the h**l I've been thru in the past two years.. there is Hope and I found that out.. even though I thought all I was was trash and a disappointment.. I'm not gonna get preachy but I think the only reason I'm alive right now is because of God..

Answer 6

Well, the teen years suck anyway and now this.  I can understand why you are feeling depressed, considering your situation your feeling sad is really a no-brainer.

You really do need someone to talk to - I would suggest the counselor at school who may be able to help you find a psychologist.  Maybe there is a support group at school for you to get involved with.  (Heads up, it sounds to me like your sadness/depression is coming from your feelings, not from some kind of chemical imbalance - you need talk, NOT meds.)  Ask for help.

At the library look for books for teens with parents are divorcing.  Educate yourself.

Check out the link below - I really hope it can help you.

Remember the people and things that make you happy right now and get involved in them to keep yourself busy - your favorite music, school work (bleah!), hobbies you enjoy, your friends, extended family.  

Focus on what you enjoy to keep your mind from focusing on what makes you feel sad.

Everything is going to be okay, even though right now it doesn't seem that way.  Be patient and be stubborn - refuse to let this whole situation get you down.  (We grown ups are so stupid sometimes and we have so much to learn from kids.)  Most important thing to remember right now is that this situation with your parents is not your fault - it has NOTHING to do with you and you are NOT to blame for any of it.

Answer 7

Maybe your dad wants to spend more time with you so you will realize that he does love you and that you're not going to lose him because of the split up.  My parents divorced when I was 12 and I was depressed, it is normal.  I would have done anything to have been able to spend more time with my father.  He left my mother for another woman who had kids too and I felt like I was losing him to his new family.  Be glad he cares.

Answer 8

If there are any adults that you are close enough to that you would trust telling them what you are going through I would suggest talking to them. Big change at that time in your life is extremely hard to deal with, but it will get better trust me on that I went through close to the same thing. Since your dad is willing to spend so much more time with you I would start trying to open up a line of communication with him and let him know how you are feeling about the whole situation even the small annoying parts of it. Once they know how this is affecting you they may be more willing to work with talking to you and helping you through this time. Your parents love you very much and would hate to see this affect you any more than it already has.  

Answer 9

aww.. i'm sorry

but its better if you talk to someone about it

maybe a good friend

or a trusted adult

Answer 10

I hate my life too. DO NOT ATTEMPT SUICIDE!!!!! Trust me it isn't fun. Get some therapy or tell a friend.