Im so homesick at college and want to leave, please help me?

Question

im 2 hours away and I KNOW ITS TOO EARLY but i really really really wanna go home. i talked to my parents and they're kinda have mixed feelings about it cuz i am the youngest and i call them crying at like 3 times a day. i literally got sick from this. i feel like im gonna throw up.

i feel like i should've gone to a closer school. i hate this. please help, i just need encourgement from you guys to know that it's okay if i made the wrong decision and can go back home to a closer school..please.

and thankyou :/

p.s. i've tried doing stuff to get my mind off of missing home and i have friends there but I JUST DON'T THINK I'M READY. im undecided in my major anyways. plus, i'm a year younger than most everyone, maybe i'm not mature enough to do something like this ?

Answer 1

It's gonna be rough the first couple weeks, but you got to get out there and make friends, and as soon as that happens, you won't want to leave school!

Try doing something that ALWAYS cheers you up. For example, no matter what mood I'm in, watching Friends on DVD and eating peanut butter m&m's makes me feel better. Find something that helps you get your mind off things, whether it's watching a favorite TV or movie, listening to your favorite music, or maybe a physical activity like yoga or volleyball. Soon, you'll begin to feel like college is your home.

Most important though, make friends. That will really help you keep your mind off things. Talk to the people in your hall/cube and go to meals together. Organize volleyball games outside, or a trip off-campus. It'll get better, I promise. Just give it some more time, you may regret it if you leave, and fall behind in your studies.  

Answer 2

Call you family from time to time that will properly get you a little more comfortable ^-^ and i know you want to leave, but dropping out wont do you any good.

Answer 3

It's totally normal for you to feel this way, especially if you do not have much experience being away from home growing up. College is a new experience that not only takes you away from home, but forces new responsibilities on you. This makes for a huge change in your life.

Get out there and meet people. Chances are you will find others who feel the same way. Some colleges have free counselling services to help people with issues like these. Find out if this service exists where you are. They will be able to help you to put things into perspective.

Being only two hours away from home means that you could likely be home for the occasional weekend visit, and that your family is an inexpensive phone call away when you need quick reassurance. I would be willing to bet that if you take advantage of those opportunities, you will find over time that you will need them less and less.

Finally, if it works out that indeed this is not the right time for you to be in college, prepare yourself for next year. Make sure that you feel comfortable managing your own finances, planning & cooking meals, doing laundry, being away from home for a while, and managing your time effectively. If you do all of this from home, you'll feel better about doing it once you're on your own. Good luck.

Answer 4

Keep busy.  Find things to do.  Make friends.  In four years, you'll wish it wasn't over.

Answer 5

Dono, I never had a problem cause I went to sleepaway camps for most of my childhood for months at a time, I was also a very independent child from a young age.

But,  i'd say once you get closer to your friends you won't mind it so much. I assume youre a new freshman. It can be overwhelming... but if youre old enough to be in college, youre probably mature enough to handle it. Think, back a century or two ago, people were completely living on their own at that age.    

You should be devoting most of your time and energy to hanging out with people and finding friends. Go out on the weekends, explore the town, go to parties... once you start having fun you will love the independence.

Answer 6

HEY!  This is very normal.   Being homesick is very normal.  It is scary and uncertain when you first leave home.  But you can do it!  

Stay an undecided major- just take all the required courses and figure out what you want to do- you have plenty of time before you have to declare a major.  Join a group on campus and try keeping busy.  Hangout with your new friends.  I suggest joining a sorority- quick way to meet new friends, and they help and encourage campus activities, scholarship, and community service.  They are a lot of fun and really help you feel unified at school.  (I did it and loved every minute of it- cured my home sickness).

And go home on the weekends to visit- it is only 2 hours away- you can head home after your last class and spend the weekend.  But I urge you to stick it out- at least for your first semester.  If things do not get better- then find another school closer to home.

Leaving home for the first time is very scary- but it will change the longer you are in school.