Im so lonley and carnt take it anymore.?

Question

I suffer with anxiety really bad, and feel uncomfortable around people. So if im not with my botfriend im on my own with my son. I try to do things and keep him occupied but sometimes its hard, like right now.

I dont feel apart of anything or anyone. I push people away coz i feel to boring and misserable to be around them, so people dont bother to vist me and if they do there gone after 10-15 minutes coz they can see im uncomfortable. I just dont feel good enough for anyone.

Its Sunday and my boyfriends gone out into town (Liverpool festerval) wiht his mates and left me here. Im not feeling sorry for myself im just finding life so unfair and pointless right now. No one seems to care about me and my son. Its so heart breaking coz i know it will be affecting my son but i dont know anyother way to be.

Answer 1

Theres this great book: You can heal your life by Louise Hay get it from your local library or dead cheap 2nd hand on amazon. It will help you for defo. It sounds like a lot of the issue you have is how you feel about yourself and how you are perceiving things.  All that can be changed with a little help in the right direction. Your not alone in how you feel, there are lots of people who feel that way too at times. Please get the book, I KNOW IT WILL HELP U!  

Answer 2

How can you say no one seems to care for you or your son when you wont even try and communicate with other people? People cant care for you if you make it uncomfortable to be around. Just loosen up, go out and do stuff.

Answer 3

get an appointment with your GP and ask for a referral to your c m h t for help with this, they will help you out loads

Answer 4

If you are not on meds maybe you should give them a try they help. Then go and join a parent club so you and your son can meet knew people and start enjoying life better and feel like you matter. You are isolating yourself and it's not that people don't care it is that you are keeping yourself inside your own little box and you can't see past the walls to see how many people really do care. And if you get out of your little "box" then you can also go to their house and see that there is more to life then just you and your son and boyfriend. Just a little tip if people didnt care they wouldn't even come over for 10min people who I don't care about I don't bother to see, people who I do care about I pop in every once and a while just to show I didnt forget about them (just a thought to think about)

Answer 5

I'm so sorry to hear that you're feeling this way. I found that the way to get over anxiety was to go out and force myself to do things for other people. This year I worked with disabled children who will never get the opportunity to do the things I will and I feel very lucky for it.

You might not be able to get a job because of your son and other commitments, so I suggest you take a class in something? Or join a club? Your boyfriend may be able to look after your son for you?

This way you will get to know more people and grow confidence wise. Wish I could help you more...I've been there, done that, there are people out there who care..

Most importantly enjoy what you have and enjoy living in the moment with your son.

I wish you luck

Answer 6

Sounds like you really need to learn to relax around other people otherwise your boyfriend is going to end up meeting someone new eventually & you'll be out of the picture permanently.  Try & seek help if you can't overcome your anxiety on your own.  Cause wouldn't you rather be out at that festival having fun with your boyfriend now instead of feeling the way you are now?

Answer 7

i suffer from depression too, do what makes YOU happy.

I know it sounds selfish but, i also never bother with people that bring me down, or don't mean that much to me.

life is however you portray it, some see life as an open book, others see it as something in the balance.

Remember to have a place of your own, where you can reflect.

never let others get you down, if you want something done you do it for yourself and no-one else. separate work from home. enjoy every minute.

and if you feel my words aren't enough contact your doctor,plenty of people are prescribed on antidepressants just don't let it get worse