Im so <span title="ANGRY.........................">ANGRY.......................</span> Need some advice?

Question

Too make a long story short ive been TTC 1 and 1/2. My BF was pregnant 1 and i was happy yet sad becuz i wasn't. Well she is going through a lot of problems with her fiance, they've even called off the wedding. shes fighting with the family and since I'm trying to be there for her, it came out that she ABORTED!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

when i heard this i almost started crying, she never told me because as she put it " i would hate her forever". I do i can't believe she would do that, she murdered her baby!!!

Now what? What can i tell her? I just want to never speak to her. Ive been trying so hard conceive and she did and killed her baby.

Please help we've been friends for 10 yrs (or supposedly) How can i talk to her?

Answer 1

Firstly, everybody has to make their own choice.  

It&#039;s so sad that she aborted the baby but just because you are desperately trying (which is hard, trust me, I know!!)  doesn&#039;t mean she should have kept her baby if it wasn&#039;t right for her.

Don&#039;t be too hard on her for not telling you, it was probably because she didn&#039;t want to upset you considering your position.

Do you really expect her to make such a commitment if she isn&#039;t ready just because you want a baby??

You need each other right now, remember that.

Good luck with trying in the future! xx

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Answer 2

I can sooo understand why your upset I probably wouldn&#039;t talk to her either.its hard to sit here and tell you to forgive and forget when she was so ignorant to kill her baby just cause it didn&#039;t work out for her and her man.  

Answer 3

I can understand why your so upset but shes your friend and a far back one. You need to regret her for what she has done, she probably will forget it, it was her choice after all and i think you one day will concieve with a beautiful baby, but she just didnt want to keep hers, i dont agree with it, but its done and im telling you one day she will regret it.

Answer 4

All in all its her descision regardless wether you agree or not.  Explain to her why your hurt and see what she has to say.  Hope things work out for you good luck :)

Answer 5

I don&#039;t believe in abortion either. And I have had several friends have them. I felt just as sad and angry as you. It sounds like to me that she needs you more then ever. It&#039;s not going to be easy, but she is in a really rough time in her life. I had a falling out with a friend a year and a half ago, I am still angry at her and we don&#039;t talk. But there are times when I think &quot;Man, I wish I could call her and tell her about this, or that, or I wish I could talk about old times with her.&quot;

You don&#039;t have to love what she did, but love her. She needs you.