Im sooo AGGRAVATED :( ! Any advice or help???

Question

First, for those who dont know what Capoeira is: its a brazilian martial art which is like the dance fight. So yesterday my Capoeira group had this big ceremony where everyone goes up for their next rank. I wasn´t able to attend it because I´m in another country for vacation, but all of my other friends were there. I was really aggravated because not only was I not there to enjoy this awesome day but all of my friends rubbed it in my face on how they got their new ranks. I really cant help but be jealous even though they´re friends but its just how they did that, that made me mad. Today I found out how many other ppl I know got their next ranks and it´s just been really to not have bad feelings about it. I just feel really down about this and I just cant stop thinking about it and how I wont be able to get my next rank until december... can anyone help me?

Answer 1

That is rough watching everyone else move up in rank when you don't get to, especially when people rub it in your face. I honestly believe though that they will stop rubbing it in eventually, things like that get old really quick even to the ones doing it.

Just remind yourself that while you may not have gotten to move up in rank that doesn't make you any less skilled, it just means you were unable to attend a ceremony. Also think about this, you had a chance to go to another country and experience another culture, how many people can say they did that? Not may unfortunately. I think that someday you will be grateful you got to go to another country and you wont mind that you had to wait another couple of months to move up in rank.

peace and luck.

Answer 2

Just be glad you're somewhere else having a nice vacation while everyone else you know only has their class to keep them occupied.

Answer 3

Concentrate on all the fun things you did on your trip that they did not get to see or do.  Did you ever consider that they may be a little jealous of you?  

Come December time, you will not only have the rank advancement, but all the memories from the great trip you got to take.

Also remember, a true friend will put their own issues in the background and be happy for their friends success.  Show real maturity, and tell them that you think it is great that they did so well.