Im sooo hurt.What should i do?

Question

My husband thinks im cheating on him,and im NOT. he alwayssay im cheating on him. i dont have any friends and i hate that he always say i dont want to be with you any more for something i didnt do.I love this man more then any thing in this world. and i dont see myself without him. what can i do? i feel soo alone and i need someone to talk to.PLEASE help me.

Answer 1

I'm married and i have a big family and ive seen this behavior before usually this mean he has a guilty conscience hes probably doing it to you sit him down talk about it its the only way

Answer 2

Maybe he is the one that is cheating and that is his way of keeping you off guard. Maybe it is his guilty conscience talking.

Answer 3

smoke screen.... ever hear the phrase the persons that's always quick to accuse you of a bad deed may just be doing that very deed themselves? He may be cheating and to ease his guilt he's finding any reason to blame you.

Answer 4

Have you cheated on him in the past? Are you always distracted and unhappy? Something must be driving this.

Answer 5

wonder why he thinks that? did you do something in the past?

Answer 6

maybe he feels insecure about something

Answer 7

Are you giving him any reason whatsoever to think that you are cheating on him?  If not, he is turned on by drama and quite possibly has some major trust issues.  Why don't you addess each and every one of his concerns - have him sit down with you and write out one by one each reason he thinks you are cheating and then discount them with your facts.  If he keeps it up, tell him it's time to seek counseling because his mistrust is hurting you too bad.

Answer 8

Well they say the accuser is always guilty, a guilty conscious speaks for itself

Answer 9

now this is the time you youe sit your man down tell just be row open with him tell ervey thing you let him know how much you care and love him and is hurt  to know you are try hard to show how much you love him and he's just makeing it hard for u. you need to fine out why he thinks that ask him why he think that or maybe he's doin something that shouh not be doin

Answer 10

It seems like he is using these accusations in a way , so that you'll  have to constantly  reassure him of your love. He is probably insecure and uses that as a crutch to keep you focused. Talk to him and tell him that you are tired of these ridiculous accusations, and that unless he has some solid proof, then he needs to stop, because you dont plan to continue to defend yourself for something you are not guilty of. Also, tell him that it offends you that he thinks that, because if he really believed this was happening, then why is he still there? Call his bluff, that'll teach him!

Answer 11

I agree with everyone else. If he keeps accusing you of cheating he may be trying to drive you away so you wont find out about him.  Good luck.

Answer 12

Most men, myself included, are horrible at communication, but it sounds like there is more to the story than just his inability to communicate.  You need to sit down with him and be very clear as to the point you want to get across.  Remember, you cannot force someone else to love you.  If you've done nothing wrong, it's hard to understand that somethings in life just aren't meant to be no matter how much we want them.

Perhaps you two can seek counseling for your marriage?

You need to have friends, they bridge the gap for you when life gets rough...

Best of Luck

Answer 13

Marriage counseling may help,but maybe HE is the one cheating and is trying to keep you upset so you won't see what he is up to.Or it could be that he is very insecure,but i feel that you both should have a honest talk and seek marriage counseling,if possible.Good luck.

Answer 14

From what I have learnt in the past is that men accuse their wives of cheating when they have a guilty conscience... Maybe he is the 1 doing it...