Im such a loner, i sit bymyself at lunch!! what shuld i do tho so i dont look like such a dork?

Question

ok well im such a loner, i have no friends, an d rly could care less what people think of me........ its my second year at this gayass school and i still have no friends so dont tell me eventualy ill make some, i dont need friends anyways..... well last year i would sit in the teachers rooma nd watch tv with some other kids, this year i dont wanna do that, but i duno wat to do at lunchtime.... we have NO cafateria, only tables outside..... and there isnt too man kids at my school, anyways so theres usualy a table open and ill sit bymyself and just sit there like a dork.... i duno why i care i mean im always by myself its just for some reason at lunch i feel like a nerd..... i even refused to go to school, im a senior btw. my mom had a long talk about it with me today and talked me into going back to school, so now i want some sugestions of what i can do! and plz dont tell me to make friends, it isnt going to happen...... o and i cant leave campus or anything...... o and then my grandma thinks im depressed, im not! i told her im not but noone listens to me, she wants me to go to the doctors and get medicine! i dont take medicine....... i cant swallow pills unless there rly small anyways......so u think the pills would help? btw im rly shy, uhg i feel like my life is so pointless right now just cuz i dont have someone to sit with at lunch, and i dont ever want my face to be seen again....... btw i am the only one that sits bymyself, ive checked....... and the reson im not going to the teachers room is cuz too many ppl go, o and we have no library or anything at this school, i hate this school, o and no i cant transfer eaither. and i dont drive or anything like that. yesterday i did sit in the bathroom a long time an dnoone saw me ther, but then i came out cuz i think some girl was wondering why i was in there so long........ uhg i duno wat to do? and i rly dont know why this maters so much to me :(

Answer 1

just relax and be yourself no matter what you never want to be inauthentic to be popular just be yourself and remember that relationships are a give and take the world does nor revolve around one individual see what your hobbies are start there and just talk you have nothing to loose and everything to gain remember people don't care if you are shy or not it's how  you make them feel the end that matters  

Answer 2

I know exactly what you are going thru. You have Social Anxiety Disorder. I suffer with the same thing. altho i am 39, and has NEVER taken any medicine!  There were many a days that i sat alone when i was at lunch...and u know what...i really dint care if anyone was sitting with me...as a matter of fact, it bothered me if someone tried to communicate. i loved being by myself... you know...alone but not lonely..I would put money on you being so creative...talented in some way...right? use that time that u have by yourself the best of your ability. Not being popular doesn't make you a dork either. Makes you human. Most popular people with alot of friends end up drunks drug heads or in trouble pregnant and so on...not saying it couldn't happen to you...but i can tell by the way you are that u have some respect for yourself and perseverance...which u will need in your life...don't ever let your peers change you. when your peers or people look at you. you probably think they are critically looking you over...they are, hon. they are thinking...Man! I could never be that brave to sit by myself and have the whole school looking at me. and you know what, they couldn't. they aren't made of the same stuff that u r me r. They are so worried about what others think of them. I couldn't give a fat rats behind in a cheese factory what anybody thought of me! LOL I mean that. U r n the 12th grade? Goodness look how far you have made it already. As for me...I do have a couple of friends that i hang with...im not comfy around more than ...i guess 3 or 4 people...im happy with that. u have to b. I used to question y i am the way i am...but i learned to love it and appreciate it. I love my solitude...i sometimes joke that i will be a hermit when i am older. Its not that your crazy or strange hon, youre just different...and different is good. I will never forget when i was in the 12th grade and a teacher gave me a gift. i never thanked him...actually because i didnt know how to...and he assumed that i didnt because i wasnt outgoing..."I understand, u arent very outgoing" that kind of hurt me because it wasnt that i wasnt outgoing, it was because i just didnt know how to express myself to him. Girl just try your best to work through understanding this. God made you the way you are for reason. You are strong and can do it! He put you on this earth for a reason. I dont know if you believe in God and prayer. if you do...He is a great outlet to anything that you have that ales you. God bless you, beautiful...and stay strong...O and it seems as if you need to be strong for your mama and granny...cause they just dont get you...lol

Answer 3

sounds like you have social anxiety. I had the same problem. I was like **** it i don't need these g*y *** people

"and the reason I'm not going to the teachers room is cuz too many ppl go"

That is what made me think you had social anxiety. Do you not like this b/c is it uncomfortable for you to be around a large amount of people?

I say you should go to the doctor but don't just go and get drugs like every in this wold seems to think is the right thing to do.

Try therapy. your therapist can decide whether your issues are severe enough for meds.

Answer 4

i really think you should join a club and be yourself try being outgoing OR do a sport then you will have some things in common with ppl or try going up to some1 that looks nice and ask to sit with them during lunch. sense you are a senor just think you wont have to deal with it next year:p

i hope i helped good luck!

Answer 5

Last year i went to a new high school in the middle of a semester and i didnt know anyone. I'm also really shy and sat by myself for a few days. Then i started to think about how much fun i had at my previous school just because i had friends, and realized that i wasnt going to go back to my old school and i just had to make the best of what i had.

Lunch time is when everyones in groups, but during classes friends end up getting split up and even sometimes people end up in a class with no one they know, i decided to just go up to people and introduce myself, i figured that i would rather people know who i am, then being invisible. Thats how i made all my friends, they still make fun of how stupid i sounded introducing myself , but they always admit that they're happy i did.

You cant just expect things to happen, you have to go for it and MAKE things happen. High school can be amazing when you have friends to help you and be with you during it. I know exactly how you feel, and i would be in your position if i didnt take a chance.  

Answer 6

u have social anxiety period. NO ur still young so u do not understand the true value of friendship. Sure u may think u dont need it now but later on in gr12, as u mature u ll understand having friendds really completes u in life. I dont think u have reach to level severe enought to experience the lonliness emotion. Lonliness is painful, later on in life u suffer this one way or another if dont have friends. U see ppl partying having a life in weekend while u stay home being sad.

i used to have social anxiety in HS with the mindset that friendship is not important to me. Im alone now while i see some of the remaining friends i still have, enjoyin life everyday constantly checkin messages on phone to plan this party and tat party.

i just started first yr college and have pretty ok start, but im goin to exceed my expectation   .

u can message me if u need advice

Answer 7

let me understand this. u dont like ur school because u have no friends? but u say u dont care and u dont need them but u obviously do cus it bothers u to eat by urself.

so basically u dont want to eat by urself but u dont want to make friends either? wus ur problem son

Answer 8

Why don't you start drawing while you eat your lunch, or do something that makes you busy so that you aren't just sitting there.  It might also be a good time to get some sleep! Isn't there a bell that will wake you up when lunch is over.  Don't feel so bad, it's just the way you are.  At least you aren't fake and pretending to be someone you are not just so that you don't feel like a dork.  Anyways, girls love dorks! It may not seem like that now, just wait until your out of high school, you won't even remember how stupid high school was.  Just go to class, do your homework, and go home.  Be yourself, and you can't go wrong!

Answer 9

This is good, your feeling some sort of pain looking like a dork right?

You will adapt to that situation somehow and make a friend, nature my friend.

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anyways, hope that part helped

try ditching at lunch. I wish I could help somehow

but look, your in conflict with yourself, you have a problem and you have to admit you need at least one friend. I know you say you will never make a friend and all that ****, but you have to get out of that mindframe, or you really will never make a friend, once you get out of that mindframe you can start working to making a friend. Its easy man, it all depends on your state of mind

Answer 10

First you say you don't care what people think of you then you say it matters to you....make up your mind....First of all you should start talking with some of your class mates....if that doesn't work then you only have the rest of this year left....bring books and read them at lunch or your Ipod.....or just walk around school for your whole lunch....or cut class (lunch) you really don't have that many options...