Im trying to help my grandma find her son she had to give up for adoption.?

Question

My grandma wants me to try to help find her son that she had to give up for adoption in 1960. She has very little information because her mother never gave her any papers. The only thing she knows is that the adoption agency was Lutheran Social Services in Beloit Wisconsin. His birth name was Leroy Allen Fairbert born April 2, 1960 and that he was adopted by a lawyer in the Milwaukee area. If anyone can help with any sort of information or website that help locate him would be greatly appreciated.

Answer 1

Have you tried contacting the agency?  I'm adopted.  I found my birth mother through the agency that I was adopted from.  Perhaps they can give you a name to start with.  You have good information.  You have his birth date, his birth name, where he was adopted.  They can narrow it down considerably.

I wish you the best of luck, however do not be disappointed if you can't find him.  Sometimes a child who has been adopted does not want to be found.  I know this too because I'm dating a guy who was adopted and doesn't want to find his parents, and the same goes for my adopted brother.

Answer 2

well u could probably do some searches with the agency then find it that way. i was adopted but i know my birth mother and stuff so i never had to do anything like that.

Answer 3

she can feel how she wants. The BSE is NOTHING to take lightly and thats exactly what your grandmother was a part of. Loss of a child is NOTHING to be told to "not be dissappointed about" especially during that time when they were taken the way they were. I suggest "the girls who went away" by ann fessler, for you and your grandmother.

Please ask her to submit a waiver of release of her information through the state. Here is some information that will be helpful.

Wisconsin

Who May Access Information

Citation: Ann. Stat. §§ 48.432; 48.433

Nonidentifying information may be provided to:

The adopted person who is age 18 years or older

The adoptive parent

The guardian or legal custodian of an adopted person

The offspring of an adopted person if the requester is age 18 years or older

An agency or social worker assigned to provide services to the adopted person or place the child for

adoption

Identifying information may be accessed by the adopted person who is age 21 or older.

Access to Nonidentifying Information

Citation: Ann. Stat. §§ 48.432; 48.433

Whenever any person listed above wishes to obtain medical and genetic information about a birth parent who

consented to his or her child’s adoption before 2-1-1982, and the information is not on file with the department or

agency, the person may request that the department or agency conduct a search for the birth parents to obtain the

information. The request shall be accompanied by a statement from a physician certifying either that the individual

has or may have acquired a genetically-transferable disease or that the individual’s medical condition requires access

to the information.

If a birth parent is located but refuses to provide the information requested, the department or agency shall notify

the requester, without disclosing the birth parents identity or location, and the requester may petition the circuit

court to order the birth parent to disclose the information. If the department or another agency that maintains

records relating to the adoption receives a report from a physician stating that a birth parent or another offspring

of the birth parent has acquired or may have a genetically transferable disease, the department or agency shall

notify the adopted person of the existence of the disease, if he or she is age 18 years or older, or notify the adopted

person’s guardian or adoptive parent if he or she is under age 18.

If the department or agency may not disclose the identifying information requested per § 48.433, it shall provide the

requester with any nonidentifying social history information about either of the birth parents that it has on file.

Mutual Access to Identifying Information

Citation: Ann. Stat. § 48.433

The birth parent may file an affidavit authorizing the release of any available information about the birth parent’s

identity and location. An affidavit may be revoked at any time by notifying the department or agency in writing.

An adopted person who is age 21 or older may request any available information regarding the identity and location

of his or her birth parents. The requested information may be disclosed if the department or agency has on file

unrevoked affidavits from both birth parents or, if one of the birth parents was unknown and the known birth parent

has filed an unrevoked affidavit.

If the department or agency does not have on file an affidavit from each known birth parent, it shall, within 3 months

after the date of the original request, search for each birth parent who has not filed an affidavit. If the birth parent

is contacted and files an affidavit, the department shall disclose the requested information. If the birth parent does

not file the affidavit, the department may not disclose the information. If, after a search, a known birth parent cannot

be located, the department may disclose the requested information if the other birth parent has filed an unrevoked

affidavit.

If a birth parent is known to be dead and has not filed an unrevoked affidavit, the department shall so inform the

requester. The department may not release the identity of that parent, but shall release any available information

regarding the identity and location of the other birth parent if the other birth parent has filed an unrevoked affidavit

and 1year has elapsed since the death of the deceased birth parent.

The requester may petition the court to order the release of any information that may not be disclosed under this

section.

Access to Original Birth Certificate

Citation: Ann. Stat. § 48.433

The original birth certificate is available upon request to the adopted person who is age 21 or older if the birth

parents have filed affidavits authorizing disclosure.

Where the Information Can Be Located

Adoption Records Search Program

Answer 4

First off, she can write the adoption agency and ask for the non-identifying information.  They will send her a form to fill out and likely notarize.  

Secondly, there are many places that you can list the information.  Type in 'adoption search' in google and you will likely find registries for Wisconsin.

Be aware that, in general, boys are less likely to search for their birth parents.  You may get a hit on the registries, but you may need a 'search angel' to further help you.

Answer 5

Gershom is the searching WIZ!! Look into all the links she gave you.

Your grandmother has EVERY RIGHT to look for her son.

You never stop being a child's mother.

Only an adoptive/prospective adoptive parent would EVER sprout garbage to the contrary. What an ignorant fool to deny a child it's rightful heritage - and a mother the knowledge of her child.

Answer 6

why dont u go to the next police station and tell them that ir missing someone...they'll find him for u real quick thru the machine/computer whatever they use...give them all the info u guys have...every little thing can help..but i think all they need is the first & last name and birthday!! but then of course, if ur granny or whoever gave him up for adoption, then the ppl who adopted him may have changed his name when he was little..i mean thats almost 50 years ago...so I wish u guys good luck..i really do..and if u find out what his social security number is, then u really shouldnt have any problems finding him

Good Luck

Answer 7

Listen to what Gershom says.  The next step is put yourself on every registry possible.  A volunteer search angel or geneologist can help you as well.  They love solving adoptee/natural parent mysteries.   Contact the agency along with the vital statistics office.  Put yourself out there. He will find you.  I guarantee you.  He has thought of her through the years.

Answer 8

She should just leave him alone, he's not her son anymore.

Answer 9

Talk to someone with the agency and see what info they have.  Could be that he has signed up for info also, but you won't know that until you ask.  If you both have requested info, they will reunite you both.  Also ask for your nonidentifying information.  This will include all of the information about the adoptive parents except for names.  Where to go from there just depends on the info you find.  There are a lot of websites that do reunions if you both are registered.  This is a hard way since there are so many.  I found a search angel to find my mother.  My birthname was Gwendolyn Ann Wolfe.  One of the happiest days of my life was when I found my mom.  Hopefully your grandmother will be lucky too.  Have you done searches of the newspapers in that area?   A lot of times (at least back then) they put announcements of adoptions and births in the newspaper.  Sometimes you can narrow down your search area with the nonidentifying info.  THat's what made it so easy with mine.  The info had that my mother and her siblings went to a county high school.  Well, in my area (South Carolina) there are not any county high schools and north carolina is too far away for the day trip that was indicated in my info so that left Georgia.  My search angel lucked up and found a yearbook of one of the high schools in georgia.  It was like looking at my twin when I saw the picture.  There was no denying who I was.  I tell you this to give you some idea of what to look for.  But, the nonidentifying info is the first step.

Answer 10

Lutheran Social Service

737 Bluff St

Beloit, WI 53511

Phone: [phone]

This is a site to help you find someone: http://omnitrace.com/Birth-Family.html?O...

http://www.zabasearch.com/query2_zaba.ph...