Im very depressed someone help :[

Question

I am a 14 year old girl, im really depressed and just feel really worthless.

i feel like all my friends secretly hate me.

i feel very unattractive.

i feel that people find me boring and im always left out.

even when its me and my two best friends hanging out, its always the two of them leaving me out meanwhile im the one that introuduced them to eachother.

i just hate myself and my life cant get any better.

Im also going into highschool in september and im so afraid that im going to be picked on and my friend told me theres a couple of bullies in that school. i know no one will like me.

any advice? :[

Answer 1

im 14 and going into highschool to as far as advice goes, maybe just hang out with one of your best friends at a time, and as far as bullies, most of them turn out to be depressed or be dealing with issued themselves, i think bullies should be the least of your worries. good luck and i hope you can resolve everything.

Answer 2

Go to highschool with the attitude to study hard! Who cares about what others say-what you think about yourself is much more important. Also, you should do some extracurricular activities like clubs or other organisations...this would look great on your transcripts and your future resume...I suggest that you concentrate on bettering yourself..the social politics will take care of itself. Have fun!

Answer 3

when you dwell on what you dont like about your life...your situation will be much worse. I went through the same thing when i was younger...but i finally realized that it wasnt the people disliking me that caused me the most pain- it was me not appreciating myself. learn to love yourself and be comfortable in your own skin and people will learn to do the same.  

Answer 4

You couuuld see a therapist. But if you want you can contact me on AIM and we'll talk. Catisqueen101 (I know I shouldn't be givin' that out but whatev.)

;) Dun worry, I'm sure you're just scared about High School. It's not as scary as it sounds, trust me.  

Answer 5

There is bullies in every school and every body gets picked on at one point in time. If you are yourself and relax then you will make new friends.. sometimes even when you don't want them. There should be clubs and sports to get involved in and meet people/ friends. Looks have very little to do with being attractive, it is much more about confidence. Those chicks that plaster their faces on everymorning they have confidence that their make up is hiding the fact that they are superficial freaks. Have confidence that you are more than that.

Listen to Saving Jane and Avril Lavirgne they are great female confidence boosters.  

Answer 6

Hey! you're talking about me!  Thats exactly how I felt when I was your age.

E X A C T L Y!

its hard. if people respond to you and say "oh just be yourself", thats a bunch of c**p because its hard to be 'yourself' when you feel like no one likes you.  right!?? right.

its just a one day at a time thing. one day at a time.  it gets better in time, i promise.

Answer 7

Stop it. Focus on the good things in life and see how good you have it.  Your Family situation is likely better than millions of peoples, You actually have friends.  If bullies pick on you, report the losers.

Cheer up!

Answer 8

I'm almost 14, and I know that as we get around this age, we start getting major self-esteem issues.

But the truth is, you really aren't as unattractive as you think you are.

And if you feel that way around your friends, talk to them about it! I'm sure they would understand.

Find something you love. Something that just makes you forget about everything else. For me, it was sewing and baking. I have to pay a lot of attention, so my mind cant focus on anything else.

Get some exercise. Endorphins! (Is that how you spell it?)

You'll do fine in high school. If you do get picked on, do not be afraid to tell a teacher. You're not a tattle-tale if you are worried about getting beat up.

Hope that helped =]

Answer 9

I think we all go through these periods of self doubt. I'm 36 now and as a kid in high school i got picked on also. Just apart of life. whats important if that you know your a good person, attractive, interesting person  and it will all fall into place eventually. as far as the bullies, don't be afraid to report anything happening to you and if its an option maybe change schools for a fresh start. Good luck.

Answer 10

Don't let the simple things bring you down. You need to be positive and like yourself for who you are. Besides, when you're in high school people change and you meet new people. You'll make plenty of friends that will like you for who you are. You'll probably become the cool person in high school if you're positive about yourself. You may feel unattractive, but you're just maturing into a young woman. It's the person you mature into that becomes beautiful. Everyone is unattractive when they're young. I used to be overweight and now I work out and wear contacts. You can take a guess on what I may look like.  

Answer 11

Step 1: Ensure your emotion is controlled daily. Don't over reacted, stay calm and don't get worry easily

Step 2: Think before your action. Don't repeat her past experience on herself. Remind herself from time to time.

Step 3: Be confident to yourselves. Remember everyone is the winner. "Only One sperms out of millions fertilize an egg"

Step 4: Get a group of close friends to share your experience and get some activities that would occupied your time

Step 5: Increase scope of life. Meaning that she should involve in more social activities like dancing, outing and others.

Step 6: Put a rubberband on the wrist. If there is a negative thought, Tighten the rubber band and release it. Hence the effect of the pain would be able to reduce the possibility of negative thought.

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Answer 12

I believe you need to talk to someone who you are close to like a parent or somebody..Being depressed is a very scary thing for anybody.Tell whoever it is. what you said here and how you feel about everything.

Answer 13

I have suffered from depression/anxiety for two years, so i know what your talking about.  think that you need to get some self esteem and confidence. Once you truely have confidence in who you are as a person, you will feel better with yourself. You won't feel unattractive, you will feel less left out and you won't be so paranoid about what people really think of you. I know when you feel depressed and not very attractive, i know how hard it is to feel somewhat positive about yourself but i think you need to believe that your not worthless. You need to believe that your friends don't hate you, believe that you are worth something. Once you believe in yourself, you will see a difference in the way you are treated and the way you treat yourself  

Answer 14

I know this is going to be hard to do but you need to pull yourself together.  This is a tough age but a new beginning.  Go into school with your head held high.  Put your best positive face on and dress nice.  Smile and say hi to people and get to know them.  You can only make friends if you are feeling good about yourself and are a good listener.  Try to find what people are interested in and show an interest.  If your unable to do this you may need a doctor's help.  Just remember these people don't know you and this is a good chance to turn over a new leaf.

Answer 15

First of all, you've got to change your perspective. I am sure people like you. For fourteen you can type and spell a lot better than some of the adults on this forum. There is something right there. Stop worrying about if other people like you and make sure that YOU like YOU. Thats the most important thing, really. Be yourself. Imitation is suicide.

Have fun. Its only school...remember at the end of the day its not your INTIRE life. Join groups and stuff that you enjoy but don't be forced into anything.

Plus, anyone who picks on you feels TWICE as bad as you do about yourself. Trust me.

Hang in there. It gets better.

Answer 16

If you do have depression issues, talk to your parents and get to see a counselor and/or go on meds. If your just in a downer mood, cheer up. Your 14, you have the world in front of you. Make some new friends since your starting high school, get involved in some clubs that you enjoy

Answer 17

Don't worry, be happy.

Judging by the fact that you don't "typ lik dis yo", we know you're not worthless =)

Going to a new school presents an opportunity to come out of your shell and be whoever you want. I highly doubt that everyone secretly hates you, although some people truly are total &$#@s. Life goes on, and you've gotta find your own ways to be satisfied with yourself and keep yourself happy!

Really, don't hate yourself. You don't sound like an evil person, but I guess I could be wrong.

Answer 18

go running.. i know it sounds weird but its proven to make things better. Also have a positive outlook on things. im 14 ftw:) we have similar problems almost everything really.

i would also just figure it this way not like ur ever going to see them once ur 18 n therer probably going to work at mc d. or just be a loser. dont let it bother you:)

Answer 19

Poeple like people who like them self look in the mirror and teel ur slef all the thing u hate about ur self then go back and tell urself all the thing u do like.Chances are there are more positives than negatives. if u can't find any  ask ur friends for help and if u still feel horrible talk 2 ur parent u need someone 2 talk 2 .

Answer 20

first,be more optimistic of yourself..maybe its sounds weird for you,but its really normal to feel that way,i always a bit scared everytime the school start cause i thought nobody would like me..

about your 2 friends,i think the problem is just that you are not really have anything incommon with them so they kinda left you out,you should try to make more friends and be comfortable with who you are...

true friend would never let you down..and i'm sure not all your friends secretly hate you,just learn to love yourself (but don't be so arrogant tho)

good luck!

Answer 21

First stop downing yourself.

Everything will work itself out. Every single person that was 14 and getting ready to go to high school went thru the exact same emotions that you are right now.

As far as your friends, most times when there are 3 girls together, one of them is gonna get left out some. That is just the dynamics of it.

Just believe in yourself. Take a deep breath, and be yourself. By the end of September you will be loving high school!!!

Answer 22

Honey, you have a very low self esteem. Don't worry about what other people think of you...If they don't like you that's their loss! You know who you are and what you stand for, you don't have to prove yourself to anybody! Just be you and don't be afraid of being you. Voice your opinions and thoughts to your friends. Maby they don't realize whats going on inside of you. If their really your friends, they will listen. And think of yourself as a Princess! you deserve to be treated well and if some one doesn't treat you right, erase them from your life...and move on! Good luck Princess!

Answer 23

honestly i think it's the time in you're life..

when i was your age i was too very depressed and down a lot..but as i got older i gained self confidence and realized how blessed iam to be living..

no matter what you think...people care about you!

Answer 24

Just keep your head up! your a human being its natural too have these feelings. h**l i get them sometimes, but its usually cause im indoors on a boring day and i feel like p**p. You are special in every sense of the word. I cant even begin too tell you how much people i have meet that treat themselves like this, when really they are so cool.

Stay positive!  

Answer 25

Here's a great song :)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ioAQTwc8O...

you're only 14 cheer up :)

Answer 26

Be positive! Do things YOU like. If you do things you wanna do, you can meet people who will actually like you. It doesn't matter what you look like. Tell yourself things you like to hear! Don't make it harder on yourself by feeling so depressed. If nothing helps, you can always go to a psychiatrist. You're not weird if you need some therapy, you just have some problems that you can't work out on your own. If you keep trying to solve your problems, eventually you will have a breakthrough.

Answer 27

im 14 and im going to be a sophemore in high school what can i say most teens go through a lot off problems these days and my advise is to just be your self start out new in high school this could be a chance for you to make new friends meet new ppl that you have things in comon with and dont hate your self and if your friends ditch you then dont mind it just try to join sports and stuff at school well thats the best advise i have well hope it helps and good luck in high shcool  

Answer 28

Don't worry honey..We have all been in your place when we were younger..You are at that age where you think everything is wrong in the world and you get depressed easily..Just calm down...and do fun things that you like..it will calm you and you will see it will get easier as time goes..things always turn out better than you think. :)

Answer 29

You are only 14 years old, you have a lot of life to live... I know what if feels like to seem out of place, but as much as you think that life wont get any better it really will... I know it seems hard now, but it will get easier with time. High school is a very tricky place, but it also a place where you get to start over, make new friends. Just try and find people you think will really care about you. And with your two best friends you are only as left out as you make yourself. If they are really your best friends then that wont mind including you, you just have to stop putting yourself outside of the circle and put yourself back in the circle.... I mean if you think about it they became your friends for some reason and they are probably still your friends for that reason.

Answer 30

You're 14 so I don't think it's serious yet, the depression.

But be careful with it, it's temporary that's good :)

saying that your friends secretly hate you -that's twisting the truth. you can't know that for sure. I'd advice to also keep your friends but in the meantime, let the door open for some new friends as well :)

good luck and sorry to hear how you feel.

Answer 31

being at your age is tough i'm only 17 and stuff like that used to happen all the time i mean it was only a few years ago for me if you'd like help on depression and stuff send me an email at [e-mail] being at your age and a first year in highschool is real tough i was the same way and suicidal at that age but don't ever let it get to you don't ever give up let me know how things work out for you