Im very sheltered?!?!?!?!?

Question

so I use to be pretty happy, lots of friends always out and getting into trouble. But starting 10th grade, My mom got sick of me always gone for days at a time...so now she home-schools me. A lot of my friends are in juvie and just messing up but Ever since then, i lost contact with most of them, i turned extremly shy and sheltered.The only thing I do is go to the boxing club so I can get my p.e credits. Besides that, the only thing i do is homework and computer

I use to go to parties, drink, go everywhere. but now just feel like a LOOSER, like im missing out on all the fun.

I feel really lonely, with just my mom.

Were can I meet new people who aren't so wild or how can I meet new people at all when Im homeschooled?!?

Answer 1

Not knowing what state you live in, I can't be specific, but there are a lot of home school support groups around.  They can be park days to hang out with people of your own age, or outings to events, or even shared learning days.  I would google "home school groups" or "home school support group".  Even if you don't live in California, the California Home School Network has a wealth of information.  I have listed the link below.

I home schooled my son, an only child, his whole life.  He says he wouldn't have it any other way.  He has friends that he met in our homeschool group when he was 7 years old, and they still hang out, and he is 19.

Good luck!

Answer 2

First of all, it sounds like you were more of a loser (not looser-though that might apply as well) before you became homeschooled.

Second, you are only shy, sheltered and lonely if you allow yourself to be.

Join a homeschool association-not only do they get together for field trips, coop classes and the like, but they have get togethers as well-for instance, art clubs, music clubs, etc.

Join community activities that you are interested in-a foreign language?  karate?  Do you not make friends at boxing?

Join a church.  They have great lessons on Sundays and/or Wednesdays, and youth groups-ours get together for bowling, swim parties, the movies.

Volunteer.  Are you interested in workign with animals when you grow up?  Perhaps the local SPCA would interest you.  If you are more interested in nursing when you grow up, why not volunteer at the hospital now?  

Look at it as a good thing that you lost contact with your friends-it is perhaps ONLY your mother's decision to homeschool you that has kept you out of juvenile hall.  Would you rather be there, socializing?

Answer 3

I agree with Stephen, thank goodness your mom saved you... right now you might not think its cool and your think your missing out on all the fun, but what fun is there in JAIL???  none..  besides you can do something for yourself... get your school work done n graduate then go on and do great things for yourself.

Photography is a great way to keep busy.  You can do it digitally now for cheap  or if you got the time n money set up a little dark room and develop film  (warning  its addicting)   but whatever you do stay away from drugs n drinking, won't do ya no good.

Tell your mom you would like to do something else... join a sports team of some kind or bowling or something else.  You will find great friends to stay out of trouble with.  

you could also find a college close to take a class or two in art or anything and that could help.. I believe there are classes called JUMP start... worth looking into

Good luck!

Answer 4

Volunteer in your community and get involved in a church youth group. My sons are busy at least 4 days a week with church activities and volunteering.

-they volunteer with other teens Sat night 5th/6th grader

-go to Sat night church

-Thursday Mornings-service project

-Wed night-games, fun at the Refinery

-Fridays-Free lunch Fridays

Find a big church and you will find that there are a bunch of activities and places to volunteer with other teens. They have a ton of friends and a great social life!

Best of Luck!

Jana

http://www.purehomeschooling.com/

Answer 5

Homeschool groups would be the first thing to look into; you might be able to do a couple of things a week during the day with other homeschoolers. Other ideas: youth groups, teen groups, volunteer opportunities, classes for teens (whatever's available in your community--dance of all kinds, cooking, fitness, other), scouts, sports, just to name a few.

As for feeling like a loser now, you might want to rethink it. Yes, you might be lonely and out of sorts, but those who go out and party and who think life is all about fun and having the most fun you can with little thought to consequences are the real losers. They lose out on caring about themselves and what they do to their bodies, they lose out on true, meaningful friendships that aren't based on partying and drinking, they lose out on having time to think about the life ahead of them... They aren't really living--they're just passing the time. It's not the same.

Answer 6

There are alot af activity clubs out there just beware trouble kids are everywhere so you need to learn to say no when they ask you to go or do something thats wrong i give your mom alot of credit and so should you also find a hobby to keep you out of trouble i do photography its so peasefull and a way to show your fellings youll find whats right for you it might be dance or something like that hope you the best LOL stay clean and out of trouble

Answer 7

I applaude you mom for doing what she did, I wish there were more parents that cared about their kids to make sure they are not drinking, and hanging out with the wrong crowed. Why would you think you are a looser for not being able to go to parties or drink? You not wanting to do those things should make you smart and be thankful that you are not in juvie like the rest of ur peeps at least you have a warm bed and good food to eat. You should thank your mom for doing what she did. you might not see it now but one day you will.