Im worried that mt 5 yr old son is not getting along with kids at school?

Question

my son tattles alot and may make other kids dislike him. i went to eat lunch with him at school one day and in the lunch line i saw a little boy push tyler(my 5 yr old). He started crying. Im concerned about him not having any friends. i want to see for my self how he is acts with other kids. WHAT SHOULD I DO?

Answer 1

I would try to have playdates - and observe how he acts. You dont want him to be pushed around....but at the same time he needs to learn to tolerate other kids just being annoying.   Keep teaching that tolerance is a great, strong attribute to have.  Teach him to smile and accept others - even when he is frustrated.  He will mature over the next year quite a bit and will be able to tolerate more.  by having playdates, you will be present to witness things and can help redirect his emotions.   Good luck, but he will be fine. Kids need to work through these things somewhat on their own..dont put too much pressur on him to make friends - just let him get through this with some redirecting from you

Answer 2

talk to his teachers and maybe his friends parents and show them your concerns. im getting harrassed by my sons school and some of thier staff are morons. your better trying to help him yourself.

Answer 3

I'm an early childhood educator, and it's normal for children to be learning about social behaviours at this age. Usually 'friends' are just whoever is playing with the same thing as them at the same time. Tell his teacher that you are concerned, and ask for her opinion - does she think it is normal, or is he struggling socially? Don't ask her to e-mail you each day - as if a teacher has time to do that for every child every day! Ask him each day about who/ what he played with, and give him tips about social behaviors.

Answer 4

Every kindergarten  or preschooler goes through a phase like that, My parents told me a few weeks ago, that I used to do the same thing and toward the end of preschool, I had tons of friends. But if you are to worried about the situation, then get him into a daycamp or afterschool bookclub,reading hour, or maybe even summer camp!

But really don't worry he is perfectly fine :):):):):)!

Answer 5

give him tips how to get some

and about the pushing in line boys act like that all the time

Answer 6

I don't think it's really serious now - 5 years is Pre-K, or Kindergarten, right?

Maybe try teaching him social skills by setting an example? At Pre-K, it shouldn't be a big issue.

If it continues when he's in 2nd or 3rd grade, OR it gets overboard now, you have to stop it. No teacher likes a kid "tattling" on every single small thing, so teach him to handle situations on his own - if he tells on other kids for really small and trivial reasons, then he may have trouble dealing with problems.

Anyways, good luck.

Answer 7

Ask the teacher to email you about him everyday about his friend problems. Then tell him a little about not tattleing ect.

Answer 8

Tell your son that unless someone is getting hurt that he should not be tattling on his classmates. Talk to the teacher and maybe have her tell him the same thing. Maybe she should make it a point to tell her whole class the best ways to make friends so it doesn't seem like he is being singled out. Maybe have the teacher also match him up for projects with another child that is having problems making friends.