Imagine you were the parent of a 14 year old daughter and you are having a serious talk with her about s*x.?

Question

She tells you that she is not having intercourse with anyone, but she has been doing other sexual things with boys. What do you think your response would be to this and what information would you want to provide her with? **Don't get mad over this question...I am just curious of how other parents would react in this type of situation.**

Answer 1

I would sit my child down and I would tell her everything that she needs to know about s*x. And don't hold back because if you hold back on information then she will probably try to find out herself which you don't want her to do.

You should let her know of ALL the std risk. Tell her how condoms don't prevent herpes and genital warts and let her know about how many kids around her age range have that. And Aids and let her know about teen pregnancy and how hard it is.

A lot of young girls are pressured to have s*x and be the best their first time so they may feel uncomfortable or they may feel compelled to have s*x to keep up with other people or because she is being pressured too and you need to teach her all of this and talk to you about it so she knows that you understand how it is for her.

You should also have her be comfortable and tell her that the best part of starting to have s*x is waiting for somebody special and them two getting to learn together so that she doesn't feel pressured to find out things on her own and regret it.

Answer 2

First, your child needs to have ALL the information.  All the info about stds, condoms, birth control, AND abstinence.  She needs to know proper anatomy (some girls this age dont....  I remember one girl talk conversation where my 16 year old friend didnt know there was a difference between the urethra and v****a)

She needs to be told and understand that s*x is not love...  I need you is NOT I love you.

If you punish her or start h**l fire and brimstone talk, she may never come to you about this stuff again.

And then maybe you need to monitor her activities and supervision a lil more for a while.

Answer 3

I can imagine this easily, since I have a 14 year old daughter.  I have always answered her questions about s*x honestly, and age appropriately, which is kind of difficult for me as a Dad.  However, having said that, I would rather my daughter have factual, correct information on the subject rather than stick my head in the sand, leave it up to the school, and hope for the best.  I have given my daughter the plain truth and facts concerning what boys her age are really thinking about, and have always made a point of reinforcing to her that s*x is great, fun, and great fun, but falling ***-over-heels backward into bed with whoever comes along is not the way to go.  s*x is special on a level above anything else.  You're giving the gift of the most intimate part of yourself to another, and if you give that away willy-nilly, without any regard for it, you cheapen and demean that gift as well as yourself and your reputation.  I'm not just talking about intercourse here, but s*x in general.  Also, there's all those special words boys have for little girls who do that kind of thing.  Real nice, sweet words, like "s**t", "w***e", "easy", etc.  And don't think for a second that they don't spread the word amongst themselves like wildfire.  Trust me.  I was one of those boys once upon a time, and it's not something I'm proud of, but it still remains that I was like that back then.  One last thing:  Where the h**l are you at in her life?  If she's got the opportunity to do these things, you're giving her way the h**l too much freedom.  As a parent you absolutely have to stay involved in her life.  You have to know who her friends are, and you have to know the parents.  You don't have to be in the same social circles, but you have to know who they are, and what they're about.  Children have a tendency to emulate the parents' behaviors, and this situation is no exception.  Stay open and available to her, without judgement, but be firm and stand by what you say.      

Answer 4

I would ask her would it be real or just joking