In Adoption: Ever notice that it's usually the APs, not the adoptees who have their Q&As priviate?

Question

Why do you think that is?

Answer 1

No I did not notice that.  I did notice that you don't allow any emails.....why is that???

Answer 2

Not an AP and my Q and A's are private. So what's your point?

No one should have to justify that to you.

Answer 3

For the record , I intended to give Cam a Big Thumbs UP and with my fumble fingers accidentally gave her a thumbs Down. So Sorry Cam, I  respect your opinions quite often.

Answer 4

MIne aren't private.  Feel free to have a look.

Answer 5

Mine are open. I also allow email.

Answer 6

Who knows. Maybe they aren't as comfortable with where they stand on the issues. Maybe they have irrational invasion of privacy fears. Maybe they are nutters or maybe they just don't want to share.

Mine are open because I am well aware that my story is somewhat "unbelievable" to some. So that way, if they are so inclined, people can go back and see that my story never changes. After numerous "your story smells like bs" emails I figure why the heck should I have to sift through them all. They can do it!

Answer 7

Is this an adoption question? So what if someone chooses to have their Q&A's private. It's an option on Y!A and some folks prefer to use it. This is the internet after all.

But I don't think your question will be satisfied until someone answers that us AP's are selfish, greedy people who steal kids from their mothers and want to hide our evidence.

Quite frankly Sunny, other questions that I ask and answer are simply none of your business. But if you want to look at them then go right ahead. I usually avoid you but respond to you now because while I've learned to respect and learn from most adoptees here, your tone is always that of disrespect and I think your question is a perfect example of it.

Answer 8

I keep mine private because I had a stalker back when I hung out in the Newborn & Baby section.  I also agree with most of the above reasons to stay private.  My contacts can still see anything I ask/answer...  and I, too, allow e-mail.

*Man, I've never wanted to 'thumbs down' a question so badly.  Did you have to add that extra dig?  Really?  I thought for a moment there this area might be starting to learn to respect others.  Guess some of us aren't.

Answer 9

I'm not sure what you are implying, but I am an adoptee and my Q's and A's are private.  

The reason is that my teen kids use the same account in different sections and I am protecting THEIR privacy.  When you have girls Trolls are a real concern and we've had many.  Plus, I don't want people thinking their answers are mine.  I'm really not that into Zac Ephron.

Anyway, there are many reasons people block their answers.  Let's not jump to conclusions.

P.S.  I do allow e-mail.

Answer 10

Maybe, IDK I haven't look at others Os that often, but I can tell you why.

I ask Qs related to my business ( like if my website was user friendly) and location (like what other pay for services in my area) and with all that info, I don't know If I want just anyone to get it. Especially those who have sent me hate e-mail. (one in particualr in religion) I figure they're all searchable anyway. that's all.

ETA ------

I do wish some people would allow e-mail.

Answer 11

Yes, I've noticed that too.  Not in all cases but an awful lot.

Dear Cowboy, you're answer made me giggle!  glad you're learning, none of us ever stop learning when it comes to parenting!

Answer 12

I'm an adoptee, and my Q & A is private, due to a 'stalker' a few months back in a diferent category.

He/she is still around, so I keep them private, for my network's sake.

I don't think it's always a conspirational thing.

Answer 13

This is one AP that doesn't have her questions private, but then again, I also have my email open.  

Did you ever notice how most adoptees who bait and attack don't have their email open?  Why do you think that is? Hmmm.  Sure makes one wonder.

Answer 14

Mine have always been open.  I've got nothing to hide.  I am who I am.  I'm guessing a lot of APs keep their Q&A's private because so many insults fly on this site more than any other forum that I've seen.  Insults are particularly thrown at AP's.

Answer 15

I keep mine private because I've asked dumb parenting questions before. Now that I look back on them, I see how stupid they are as I've gained more experience. I don't want people holding that over my head.

Also, you can probably easily gage a lot about me based on my questions and answers and I don't want strangers knowing that much about me. I do allow e-mail though.