In Rhodes is there a...?

Question

Ok, this may sound like a strange and maybe a stupid question, but, is there a couples therapist or marriage counsellor in Rhodes? I ask because I wouldnt have a clue to say either of those in Greek to call up '11 08 80" I do speak enough Greek to get by though.

Anyway, my husband and I are having quite a lot of marital problems and even though he would probably laugh in my face when I suggest going to one....because it seems therapy is not really Greece's thing. Maybe I'm wrong. But anyway....does anybody know of one in Rhodes?

Please....helpful answers only. If you want to make fun or tell me off for some reason....there are plenty of other questions to attack. My husband just headbutted me in the face like I was a football player...so Im very upset.

Answer 1

I am very sorry to hear about your troubles. Most phone operators speak English, and there is an option for English speakers.

Attitude towards therapy is widely varied in Greece, but you really shouldn't care about it.

My advice? Leave the SOB, right now. Just pack your things, and go. Right now.

Answer 2

there is not

Answer 3

1. You shouldn't put up with violence from your husband. If you pretend it is not happening, it will happen again for sure.

2. I don't know if there is a marriage counsellor in Rhodes, but you can find a psychologist or a psychiatrist, for sure. They usually deal with such problems or they can refer you to someone else.

3.Your husband needs a psychiatric evaluation if he did such a thing, and you should make it happen by court order (eisaggeliki entolh) if he is not accepting it. Go to he police or the eisaggeleas if you must, it is for his own good, you are not protecting him by staying silent.

Asimenia, I am sure this type of behaviour does happen, in Greece as in other places, but I can also assure you that it is NOT considered that the woman deserves it or that the man has the right to do it. Slapping is a "dramatic" way of showing contempt or to respond to an offense in t.v. series, sure, but it is not considered as acceptable behaviour. The fact that it happens on TV does not mean that a greek person would consider it normal in real life, so she should talk to any friend or lawyer, greek or foreign, just not her husband's family. And to lighten up the atmosphere a bit, a frind of mine, who is a lawyer (female), slapped the opposite lawyer  (male) who had offended her once, and she was sued by him.

Anyway, to the person who posted the question, I haven't seen any other questions from you, but if this has happened before, I also advise you to take the child and go. Pretend you are going to visit your parents or sth., so that he won't obstruct you taking the baby, but go home and stay there!

asimenia, I agree that it is wrong to give that message on TV by slapping, I agree that the girl will probably find no help from her husband's family, I also agree she must leave him. Still, a slap is not like the things this guy did, this is much worse than a slap. I was slapped by my father once, when I was a teenager, I believe it was wrong and I haven't forgiven him, but I was not abused or anything. This guy will definitely abuse his daughter, who will grow up watching her mum beaten up. It is sad.

Answer 4

I have read your other questions - and my advice to you is get your child and leave! You can find violence in many societies but unfortunately in parts of Greece - it's still looked on as 'the woman deserves it' and 'she's his so he can do what he wants'.  As a foreigner I am sure that you won't find many locals that are willing to take your side. I have seen slaps given out a lot in Greece( even to friends. Thankfully I have never received one - his life wouldn't be worth living if he laid a hand on me or my kids) to women 'who deserve it' - please do you and baby a favour and leave. He won't change - it will get worse. Protect your child and leave - I hope you have a passport ready for your baby - if not bide your time - get the passport sorted before you make any major moves - you will need his signatures.

Sorry if my advice is not want you or users on here want to hear - but I have seen this happen to foreign wives and Greek wives!

Anyone who thinks your husband will go see a marriage counsellor has never lived in a small community where no one is going to fuel gossip mongers!

Do you have any foreign friends you can speak to there?  

Surely you've seen Greek drama series on TV where it's the norm to slap the woman across the face! ... and vice versa

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Please don't read my answer wrongly - I know this happens - I do not want to give the impression that Greeks (or foreign) women should put up with this as it's normal - it is NOT and they SHOULDN'T and of course I am not referring to ALL Greeks - or ONLY Greeks - this happens worldwide! - however I still stand by my comments that it does happen and you are unlikely to find help within the man's family or neighbours. I still stand by my advice 'LEAVE'.

My comments on the slaps on TV - I can't understand why this is written into shows so often - I even saw it the other day on Constantinos and Eleni (at 3pm - albeit playful - but a slap nethertheless) ... for God's sake! This is not a message we want to give our kids!