In a catholic marriage, is there such a thing as indecent s*x?

Question

If you're catholic and married in the Catholic Church and follow and believe all of Its teachings, are there things you shouldn't do sexually?

For ex, give your husband a lap dance (hahaha), would something like this be innapropriate?

Answer 1

Morally, the Catholic Church "allows" quite a lot in terms of s*x between spouses.

For example, if the wife wanted to do a lap dance for her husband - nothing wrong with that.

Still, s*x between spouses CAN BE abused.

If you want the "skinny" on Catholic teaching as it pertains to s*x, I recommend the book, "Holy s*x!: A Catholic Guide to Toe-Curling, Mind-Blowing, Infallible Loving" by Gregory K. Popcak.

  

Answer 2

if all s*x is unclean and dirty

why did god give it to us?

Answer 3

Only that which goes against the wishes of the spouse should be considered indecent - ie abusive.

Whatever you two agree upon with each other is not condemned - short of injuring each other. S&M are frowned upon as injurious to the person and indicative of emotional problems.

Otherwise, lapdances, lingerie, whatever marital aids you require are pretty much allowed.

Answer 4

A threesome with another woman or man would be inapropriate.

Answer 5

We Catholics see marriage as a sacred bond between a man and a woman. s*x is meant to be within the marriage, and is part of that sacred bond.

Any s*x that is not between husband and wife would be considered indecent. We also believe that contraception is wrong, because a married couple, when engaging in the marriage act, should be open to the possibility of new life, which begins at conception.

That's not to say that we don't believe in family planning. Natural family planning, using a combination of symptom checking and calendar checking, has actually been shown to be just as effective as proper condom or hormonal contraceptive use, and much safer. It also involves a much higher level of trust regarding your partner, because you are trusting your spouse to be there no matter what happens.

For further reference, might I recommend a book called "How to Survive Being Married to a Catholic"? You can find it on Amazon. It's an easy, quick read, even entertaining, and explains everything we believe about s*x and marriage, amongst other things.  

Answer 6

I believe that according to the Catholic Church's teachings any s*x that a) is not between a married man and woman and b) does not have the intentions of procreation,  is considered sinful. Soooo... I would guess that any foreplay that leads to s*x without the use of a contraceptive would be okay.

Answer 7

In Catholic marriage all s*x is indecent if you read the bible all s*x is dirty unclean

Answer 8

The Catholic Church teaches that every sexual act must be between a married man and woman and be open to the possibility of conceiving life. If there is no possibility for procreation then the sexual act is forbidden by the Church.

Answer 9

I went to a Catholic school and was taught in religion class that you could not perform oral s*x. That was the main thing...besides following not committing adultery. But hey....if you are married....ur married...have oral!!  

Answer 10

There are a few rules.  

1.  Only you and your husband should be present.

2.  Only ejaculate in the v****a.

3.  Other people will always come into your mind.  It`s normal.  Just push that thought away and continue.  Maybe PUSH wasn`t the best word to use.

Google for the Catholic Catechism.

Answer 11

Hispanics are mostly Catholic and they are generally sexually promiscuous (nearly 50% of Hispanic births in America are from un-wed mothers). Obviously, the Catholic religion isn't as "pure" as it's purported to be (just take one look at the sexual habits of its followers - i.e. the Hispanics - and this fact is quite obvious).

Oh, and do you have any idea how much money has been spent on s*x-abuse law-suits against the Catholic Church? It may only be 1% to 2% of the Roman Cathololic priests who rape young boys and girls, but considering that they comprise 1.1 billion+ people, 1% to 2% is a lot more than it sounds on the surface.

But regardless of all the promicuity in the Catholic populace and the sexual perversion of some of their priests, you should still be faithful to your husband.

The Bible says that s*x is something to be enjoyed between a man and wife, not repressed as a necessary evil. Haven't you read "Song of Songs"?

Answer 12

who the h**l cares? You bought the cow now milk it sister!

Answer 13

Yes.

Judeo-Christian tradition has taught for thousands of years that it is God's will that:

• Single people should be celibate.

• Married people should be faithful to each other (adultery is wrong).

The Catholic Church recognizes the power of s*x when it teaches, "Sexuality affects all aspects of the human person in the unity of his body and soul."

Chastity means the successful integration of sexuality within the person. A chaste person's body and spirit lives in unity and opposes any behavior that would impair that unity.

The Catholic Church does not have an official stance which types of s*x are allowable when a man and woman are married as long as it is consensual and done in moderation.

The purpose of s*x is to bring a husband and wife closer and to create human life.

For more information, see the Catechism of the Catholic Church, section 2337 and following: http://www.usccb.org/catechism/text/pt3s...

With love in Christ.

Answer 14

as long as your married and with your husband anything goes as long as it is just the two of you.GOD created s*x for people to enjoy and for making kids. in the confines of marriage only.

Answer 15

Who cares?  Just give up your religion.

Whoa Nick K!  That must've been some awesome s*x you had getting it on with God!

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Answer 16

No, anything goes for a Catholic couple as long as the acts do not degrade or humiliate the other person. In other words you should never do anything that is dehumanizing or unloving, that allows the other to be used or objectified.

The only other requirement i is that the s*x act be open to life. You cannot do anything that would render the act sterile.

Other than that, you can show your love and desire for each other in any way you please.

Answer 17

s*x between spouses is holy and should be enjoyed.  But we do believe that s*x acts should be open to life.  So basically, in order for s*x acts to be FULLY open to life, they should be COMPLETE.

So, we need to finish what we start or we're just using God's gift of sexuality for our own selfish purposes.

In your example, lap dance between spouses is fine as long as it's eventually followed by vaginal intercourse.