In a family can others be allowed to question on the way I and my wife live?

Question

I have 4 sisters and they haev certain expectations on the way I and my wife have to behave. I struggled for 2 years to meet up to their expectation but failed miserably..and that had really led to lot of issues. Now I have decided not to bother any one else and live life only for my wife and my son... these again I am happy at my Family end but my Sisters and Parents are against it..I am the only SSon..your answers and suggestion will help me a lot...

Answer 1

if your happy to what you are now ,go ahead,even you're the only son,you have your own thinking and disposition,be man of your family,isn't it nice to struggle life with your wife and son?

Answer 2

Be yourselves, what don't they actually like about you and your wife? Let them know if everybody went by the same standards this world would fall apart. If they don't approve of you and how you live your life that's tuff. You and your wife can live how you want to live as long as your happy!! WHO CARES!! It's your life, love it and don't worry about anyone else!

Answer 3

You can only live for your wife and your son, once you got married they became your top priority and if your sisters and parents really love you they will learn to accept it

Answer 4

You'll get better answers if you tell what your sisters/parents are so against.

Example- If you are smoking pot in the house with your kid, then you are totally in the wrong.  If they don't like that you don't eat enough organic food, then they should mind their own business.

Can you elaborate???

Answer 5

It's hard to answer without knowing what their expectations are.  Are they reasonable expectations or what?

Answer 6

WELL I COULD KINDA UNDERSTAND IM THE ONLY GIRL AND 10 BROTHER. AND THEY FELT THE SAME WAY AND LIKE U I FAILED TOO. THEN I JUST WENT OFF I TOLD MY FAMILY THAT I LOVE THEM ALL BUT IM HAPPY WITH MY HUSBAND AND MY KIDS ARE HAPPY AND THAT ALL THAT MATTERS. AND IF THEY LOVE ME THEY WOULD UNDERSTAND. IM NOT SAYING GO OFF BUT SIT THEM DOWN AND HAVE A FAMILY TALK. I HOPE IT HELPS.

Answer 7

well, you have the right to live on your own and the way you want, specially when u have a son too ...

u didnt reallly epxlain what issues ur family members are creating ...

these things will get iokay once ur sisters get married.  

Answer 8

Me and my husband in the same situation but He has 6 sisters! Im from another country so they are didn't accept me well enough. Telling my husband that im too controling and married him just cause of a status.

The thing is...if you both have each other and you love each other do not let anybody to put you and your family down. Do not let anybody to ruin what you are building with your wife. You and your wife became the center of the universe when you got married. Keep your personal life out of your sisters and parents. Do not let them even make a single comment!

Someday they will leave you along! Don't give up!

Answer 9

Your sisters sound like b*****s.

Answer 10

Ha ha! Families can say what they like, because there is no way to stop them!! This does not mean you have to pay any attention. Of course they will not like that, but you don't have to listen to their complaints. Usually, these issues are easier for men. Once you bulk up your confidence and start laying down boundaries, your relatives will probably back off. Women can do the same, and they still cop it because "acting like a man" isn't really something anyone is going to respect from a woman.

Pleasing your wife is a better use of your time. She's the one who will divorce you if she isn't happy. Basically, if you behave as though your responsibility as a man involves doing the best for yourself, wife and child, there isn't any logical argument they can give and you all have better things to do than listent to their illogical whingings. "Yes, Sister, I understand your position, but I am making the best decision for my family just as you do for yours." Repeat often enough and they'll get sick of hearing it and stop bothering you.

Answer 11

Sure they can question until they are blue in the face.  What matters is what you do, and since you've decided to focus on what you, your wife and son require to be happy that is all that matters.  

As long as you aren't borrowing money from them, using drugs, have legal issues, they should mind their own lives.

Answer 12

you and your wife have every right to live life the way you both see fit. every family household is unique and if you are happy the way that you live then the heck with what anybody else has to say. sounds like your sisters are trying to control how you live and what you should be doing on the basis of what they may lack. i would tell them exactly how you feel and to be supportive of what and how you live.  

Answer 13

How do you and your wife behave?  

If they don't like you for whom you are, don't bother talking to them.  

Answer 14

You shouldn't worry about what your family thinks. As long as you aren't hurting anybody financially, emotionally, or physically. They shouldn't question you.

Answer 15

Look, I'm an only son as well. I tried for 18 years trying to live my life the way my family thought I should and make them happy, all the while I was miserable. Is that right? h**l no. My family were Jehovah's witness and when they disowned me I knew then it was time to live for myself, I now have a great family, job, and love my life. They finally came around to talking to me 10 years later.

But at least I was not miserable for them ten years and I moved on with my life like you should. Be respectful but live your life.