In a joint custody situation, should both parents be allowed to volunteer in the child's classroom?

Question

The primary parent bullies the school and the superintendents office. Primary parents threatens to have people fired, etc.

Answer 1

yes both parents should have the opportunity

Answer 2

Yes they both should be able to.

Answer 3

as long as the court found the second parent to be fit to be with the kid than school is fare game if the parents arent comfortable then they need to deal with that on there own time but i dont see what the worry would be over volentering

Answer 4

i would think you could volunteer in the class room. if it's joint custody the primary parent can't withhold a visit can they? i mean with out a court order or whatever? talk to a lawyer (chances are you already have one in a custody battle anyway)

Answer 5

Yes.

Answer 6

You can't automatically volunteer in the classroom.  You have to both have a CORI check.  As long as your CORI forms are both clear the school doesn't care if either/both of you volunteer.  This is assuming neither of you have restraining orders in place.  If you two can't stand to be in the same room together, that's something else.  The school might have an opinion about that; it'll disrupt the harmony in the classroom, not to mention the child's well being.

Answer 7

As long as there isn't any restraining order involved. and if the primary parent has to be there while the secondary parent visits with the child, then the secondary parent could not volunteer without the primary parent being present.

Answer 8

At our school, both parents would be allowed to volunteer if there is joint custody, no mater who has primary custody.  

Answer 9

Before I had my baby I was a teacher and I loved it when parents came and volunteered. There was a family with joint custody and both parents volunteered in my classroom quite frequently. It was never a problem! I think it was good for their son to have both of them help out.  

Answer 10

Yes both parents should be allowed to volunteer. As long as there's no custody papers stating against visitation rights. But if you both have custody of the child there should be no problem.  

Answer 11

Primary parent is being an ***. Especially since secondary parent passed all criminal and s*x offender screen and jumped through all other hoops, there's no reason for the school to prevent s.parent from volunteering. S.P. should make an appointment to see the principal/ headmaster and bring the court order stating about the "other days."

Many co-parents volunteer in the classroom, though they might serve on committees for different parties/other tasks so they do not see each other.

Answer 12

Yes, you should both be able to work in the classroom. My parents did.

Answer 13

My older brother is going through a very similar situation. The fact is that the primary custodial parent may be able to get away with this. As it was in my brothers case for almost 5 years. It comes down to what the court orders are. Is there anything in the court orders saying that the secondary parent can only see the child on asigned days? Or that they have to have supervised visits? Those are the only stipulations I can think of that would prohibit the parent from participating in volenteering. I think that both of those guidelines would be waived in this case, unless the parent was an endangerment to the child. If the parent has any questions about their actual right, they should write a letter to the judge that worked the custody case. Or contact that court house and get information. A phone call or personal visit may even be allowed. To have that in writing from a judge would save their behind if the other parent tried to say they weren't allowed to participate in school activities. It is also in that parents best interest to have a copy of the paperwork from the court hearing. It will have all the rights on it. If lost, or never recieved, they can also obtain that from the court house where court was held. I would suggest that the parent that is having issues talks honestly to their child's teacher. Telling him/her about what is going on. Maybe the teacher can arrange some sort of plan, so that the parents take turns with the activities. Them both being there at the same time really doesn't seem healthy since they can't get along and respect eachother. But they both do need to be involved in the child's schooling. The secondary parent could also let the teacher know that he/she would appreciate all the child's report cards and information sent out is also mailed to him since they are seperated. That is what my brother did, since it's his daughters first year in school. He wants to know how she is doing, so that he can help if she needs it. The school should be more then willing to respect that wish. Hope that helped some. :)

Answer 14

If the court papers say joint custody, both parents are equally involved in the child's life, which means school is a big part of it.  If the child is happy to have either parent help out, the school should be as accommodating as possible to the secondary parent, making them feel welcomed and valued.

Answer 15

Yes both parents should be allowed to volunteer.

Answer 16

To play it safe the "secondary" parent could work in the class on his/her visitation days.

"Primary" parent should be glad "secondary" is willing to be active in their child's life.

If "primary" wants to be overly protective he/she should have the court order specifically state what visitation rights are, or have a notarized agreement signed by each parent to avoid the whole he said she said argument. "Secondary" could suggest this as safety measure so "Primary" cannot make false accusations about visitations rights.

Answer 17

Absolutely!

If both parents have custody of the child, they should both be allowed to volunteer in their child's classroom (as the school allows).

Being present in your child's classroom helps them to see that you are invested in the experience they have in the classroom. It also allows the parent to make connections with their child's friends and classmates that will have a positive affect in their later lives as they start to experience peer pressure.

It is only hurting the child if both parents are not allowed to participate in their education, given that both parents have custody.