In a really difficult positon, please help what would you do?

Question

I have recently started seeing an older man. I'm 20 next year and he's 34. Thing is, he has three children, the oldest being a girl who is 8. I really like him, we get on so well. But after he had his youngest his wife told him to get the snip. He did it hesitantly, but after they got divorced she had another child with another man! He cant get his snip reversed because his daughter dropped a cup or something on him after he had it and it caused internal bleeding. Ive always been the maternal type and I really would love to experience having children of my own one day. So i dont know what i should do:(

Answer 1

you can get a sperm donor... or adopt, but i know how it feels to want to actually be pregnant... my husband has a child from a previous relationship and it made it kind of difficult bc i didnt think he would want another, and having someone elses isnt the same!!! i would go to a sperm donor....  

Answer 2

Wow! You are in a tough spot. With relationships come baggage. With your relationship comes previous marriage and family. I understand your concern. Have you told him you want children? What is his response? If he wants to be done having children (because he already has 3) than maybe this relationship isnt right for either of you. However, what about adoption? There are many babies or older children out there in this country and others who need good families. I myself hope to adopt someday. This may be right for you. You can also talk with yours/his doctors and see what other options are out there. I hope it works out for you. Keep in mind that if you really want to be a parent and it isnt possible with him you may regret keeping up this relationship. Sorry you are in this position.  

Answer 3

mmm you could always get a donor when it comes time....Wow thats pretty old no hard feelings though thats just crazy sorry

Answer 4

i think you need to ask you self how much you want children of your own a friend of mine was in a similar situation and it made her so resentful of him they ended up breaking up anyway so unless you Can just accept that the only kids you will raise are him then it might be best to end it before it gets too serious

hope thing helps and good luck with your decision