In a relationship is it important to reveal everything of your past?

Question

Is it a good thing to do or should you keep that to yourself?

Answer 1

It depends. If you're comfortable with sharing those things with your companion, go for it. If not, keep it to yourself until you feel ready to notify them of it. There are things that you feel absolutely unecessary to tell, which is okay. The point is getting to know each other better, spending time together. Your past is your past. Only share what is necessary, not every bit of it.

Answer 2

No. Because some things might irreparably jeopardise your relationship in the future.

Answer 3

well, not always, but then again, don't not tell the other person, just let those subjects come up and out when they're ready to be discussed, or just when you feel like it, you know?

Answer 4

No, some secrets are better left in the closet, forever, there's no point in bringing up a past that you can't change when it's only going to damage your future relationship and inevitably lead to fighting and discomfort.

Answer 5

You should be honest with them, if something makes you uncomfortable, then it's okay.

Good luck!

Answer 6

Only if it will become a factor that could affect your relationship.  Don't hide it, but it isn't neccessary to reveal everything either.  Let's not forgetting the most important factor, the other person in your relationship.  Some wants to know everything about their partner, others chooses not to know anyhing or as little as possible.  Discuss it with the person you are in the relationship with.

Answer 7

I say somethings are better left unsaid in relationships when dealing with the past.

Answer 8

I think it is, I told my husband everything but then I am that kind of a person, i do not think he has any secrets from me as well, I am to good to make people talk about themselves.........

Answer 9

I would like total honesty from my partner.  I would not like details, unless it can make a major difference when someone else reveal information.  It does not need to be a confession session, but may be revealed in general conversation as well.

Answer 10

I always had a "don't ask, don't tell" policy about that stuff. Revelations have never done anything positive for a relationship. If someone asks a direct question, then don't like, but I am against volunteering info that will just feed the monster.

Answer 11

I agree with Bull.

Answer 12

It really depends...

Some people would rather not know and live for the current. Some of us didnt really have a choice as my bf was my friend first and knew all about my past before starting a more intimate relationship with me. So I was lucky in the sense that despite what it is he knew he still wnated to be with me.

It may hinder some relationships though... so its bets to be sure as it doesnt always work out so well with other people.

Answer 13

well i wouldn't reveal to much about past relationships it could cause jealousy and insecurity in the relationship otherwise you should share your past because your past is what makes you who you are today

Answer 14

Honesty is very important  - i would rather know immediately than feeling betrayed later