In a relationship with his kids and my kids, help?

Question

I'm in a relationship where he has one and I have some. Together he and I, we are great. The problems come when it comes to parenting the other children. This guy is great, and everything with the relationship is great with that exception. Should I cut my loses because this will never be a success under the circumstances, or should I stick it out and potentially consider marriage in the future? Other than the kids the relationship is next to perfect.

Answer 1

Once time i heard a woman call her husband and said, "Honey, my kids and your kids beat the **** out of our kid."

When it come to relationship is not easy. When come to kids is worse, even you have kid together. Because he want to raise the kid this way and you want the different way.

WHen come to your kid and his kid is the very hard part. Every one have to learn to adjust. This is your life and you make your choice so you should adjust to new life. But the kids on both side they did not choose this life so you can not tell them that.

If you two want to continue with this relation ship than you two should learn to adjust. Beside that  you have to work on your children and hope they understand. IT take time and how long would it take no one can tell you that.

Wish you with luck and wish you become a big happy family

Answer 2

other than the kids, the relationship is perfect?  Gosh, the KIDS are a major part of the relationship......why don't the two of you sit down and talk about it; you don't mention the problem with the  kids, but I'm gathering it has to do with discipline.....the two of you need to be on the same page with his kids, your kids and any kids the two of you have......if you can't talk it out, you have to move on..Good Luck

Answer 3

Shanette,

        Let me sum this up for you and help you solve this problem.

  The man you have has one and you have some. Well what you

do is call for a family meeting. You both have to say We love all

of you kids. You tell his child, You are not replacing thier Mother.

But tell them you can call me Mom or Shanette, Whatever they feel

comfortable with, with respect.Then the man is suppose to say that

to your children the same thing. Then go on and tell them lets all try

to get along. Let them know everyone will get the same love. No other

child is better than the other one.Bring Jesus into your home and say

a prayer.Then tell them lets have a family night starting tonight. Then

you all go out for pizza. Try to do family things and give hugs to each

and everyone of them. Go to church on sunday and Praise the lord.

Family counseling is in deed needed in this family adventure to make it work. So go for it. Love the lord and love your new husband and most of all love every child there. God Bless You. The change starts with the both of you. Be positive roll model and want to do this.  

Answer 4

Your kids come first...if you think that eventually you 2 can come to an agreement then i say stick it out