In a strictly christian point of view of marriage?

Question

as in, if you believe that husband and wife cannot divorce unless one has been unfaithful, what do you do in the matter of verbal, emotional and mental abuse? and 2 young children are in the home though they have not been hurt in any way.

Answer 1

I'd leave

Answer 2

No one should remain in an abusive marriage whether they are Christians or not.  

Answer 3

I was raised christian.  Your story is very close to my story.  Any abuse is cause for divorce.  Just because you cannot see the physical bruises or scars - does not mean that abuse is not present.  No one should be forced to accept any kind of abuse - "christians" are no exception.  My sons were 3 & 6 when I left their father - for the 4th and final time.  I was able to check into a "family violence center".  I was allowed to stay for 2 months - but my sons and I were outa there in 2 weeks.  Coincidentally I left my husband the day that OJ killed his wife Nicole.  Everything was in the news at the time about "abuse" - verbal, emotional, mental - these usually  lead to physical - which I experienced as well.  Dont wait around until that happens - because then it may be too late.  And just because your children have not been hurt "in any way" - they are aware of what is going on - and at some point they will experience it as well.  My son's father started the emotional abuse on him.  Your children's father will start on them.  Please dont let the "christian" reasons stop you from protecting you and your children from his abuse.

Answer 4

Even if the verbal, emotional and mental abuse wasn't directed at them, THEY ARE STILL HURT BY IT!!!

They hear and see their mother abused by their dad and they'll grow up believing that how marriage is supposed to be!!

You're first priority is THE KIDS!!!!  Everything decision you make should be for the sake of THE KIDS!!!

Answer 5

Wives are not the 'head' of the house and are not to make their own decisions let alone deciding to destroy the family.

You should pray for your husband and seek God yourself.

Also, the Bible does not allow divorce after adultery. The Bible allows divorce if you discover your wife is not a virgin on your marriage night (she is a fornicator) and after that day he's stuck with her. Other than on the marriage night there is no divorce allowed at all, ever!

Answer 6

   Where do you get the idea that infidelity is the only Christian reason for divorce?  The Bible sights 5 reasons a Christian may divorce.  One of which is you discover that the person you married is not a Christian.  A Christian does not beat his wife.  And on the thought that the children are not being hurt-  Just because no one has hit them doesn't mean they aren't being hurt.  The damage done to them psychologically in this type of situation is worse than any fist could ever inflict.  And check out the national program DivorceCare. It will help you through the divorce from a Christian perspective.

Answer 7

Ok, from a Catholic point of view:

My mother admitted that, 4 days after their wedding, she knew that my dad was not the person she should have married.  She and he went on to have four children during their 19 years of marriage.  The marriage was riddled with addictive behaviors for both (alcohol and gambling for Dad, food and cigarettes for Mom).  My dad was also verbally and emotionally abusive.  After my mother was hit by a car just as she was exiting her car in front our church, my dad was more concerned with the condition of her vehicle, rather than the 300+ stitches in her scalp and her fractured skull.

It was the Pastor of our Church who told my mother to kick my father out.

Now, if there are children involved and one or both parents are being emotionally abusive toward each other, it WILL hurt the children at some point (regardless of how young the children are) .

Answer 8

Seek marriage counseling.