In a wedding party, aside from money dance, what other idea can you give to raise some funds for the newly wed

Question

In order for the newly wedded couple to have a good start in their married life, i wanted to raise some funds for them during their wedding party, what idea can you share, which may not sound/look like as if we are begging for alms?

Answer 1

Um i would suggest rallying off something and chargin a dollar for a ticket. Biut something someone would be interested in not anything stupid.

Answer 2

You could raffle off the centerpieces (depending on what they are) or do an auction type thing for the bouquet and garter.

I would only do one money raising thing though, i'm sure people dont bring that much money to weddings and if they do its alreay in the couples wedding card.

Answer 3

Well... at my cousins 18th we had a "Money tree" which was a small plant - possibly bonsai? on the centre of the table there was a small bowl of golden twisty ties next to it and each guest rolled some notes and tied it to the tree and throughout the evening it appeared to "grow/flower" money! It was a sweet idea and out of 30-40 people (some were familys) he made about $500 as well as gifts. I suppose you could put the money tree on the gifts table and as people arrived and place their gifts they can also tie some money to it.

This is also quite good because it is very secretive in the sense that nobody really knows how much each guest puts on the tree and therefore they cannot be judged for putting too much or too little.

Good luck!

p.s you may want to tell people prior to the wedding about your money raising idea- not many people bring money to weddings if it is a surprise for the bride and groom make sure the guests know.

btw: The Money tree was entirely my/his aunts (the host) idea.

Answer 4

While begging for money at a wedding is tacky, I did go to a wedding where they hid the bride in another room and told the groom that his new wife has been kidnapped and he has to pay a ransom to get her back. The groom "begs" the guests to help him out money wise, but he might have to entertain the guests to get the money. ie. the guest may say sing me a song and I'll give you $20.

Answer 5

Sorry, but I have to agree w/the majority of posters.  Asking for money at a wedding is asking for money and is not considered polite.  The reason people give gifts is to help them off to a good start.  If they'd rather have cash, they simply should not register anywhere.

I know how hard it is getting started in life, but it's something that most of us have to go through - living paycheck to paycheck, then having a little left over, then having a savings account,  moving from a tiny apartment to something nicer and eventually  a home of our own....   that's what happens as we grow up and mature.  It's part of life.

Answer 6

you can't make it look like they are not begging because that is exactly what it is!!

Answer 7

Guests are not there to fund the wedding couple. They are there to celebrate the joining of the two into marriage. Guests can bring a gift to the wedding if they choose. But to ask for money or play a game for money for the bride and groom is just plain wrong.

The money dance is an old Polish tradition that I haven't seen done in years.

Answer 8

it is called a bridal shower and wedding gifts.. you should not look at your wedding guests as money donors, but as people that you care about and want them to be there for this day. They are already giving you more than enough with shower gifts and wedding gifts.. I also think the dollar dance is a bit tacky but people seem to accept it..

They will get what they need in gifts.. it is not the job of the guests to make sure they are financially stable.. A wedding is not a charity event.. it is a celebration... don't make guest feell like they are cheap or feel obligated to bid for centerpieces or something.. it is just tacky.

Answer 9

Instead of invitations, sell tickets to the wedding.  That's much more to the point.  Sheesh.

Answer 10

Tell the couple to not set up a registry anywhere, most people know that if there is no registry, the couple wants money.   Do not have a money dance or raffle or anything like that, asking for money at the wedding.  Tacky, tacky, tacky!

Answer 11

WOW!

You can hide it with cutesy games and whatnot, but in the end you ARE begging for money.

It is not your responsiblity to "raise funds" for the newly married couple.  The point of a wedding is not to make money for the new couple, but to celebrate this new chapter in their life and their union.  If they cannot afford a wedding or afford to start their new life together, it is not their guests' responsibility to fund that.  I think people have some nerve to ask that of their wedding guests--people they invited to help them celebrate a marriage...not a fundraiser.

Answer 12

THIS IS NOT A FUNDRAISER!!!!

This is not a way for them to stock up or recover the cost of the wedding.  Jeez.

Why not just charge a cover and be done with it!

**oh,  I just had an idea...have a cash bar, jack up the prices and then charge to use the toilet!  I think it's just brilliant.

Do you see how absurd it is to *fundraise* at a wedding when guests are already bringing gifts?.

Answer 13

Weddings are not fundraisers!

Anything you do to "raise some funds" will come off as begging...and rude.

Answer 14

Real Answer:

I have to agree with the other posters...the wedding isn't a fundraiser.  If two people aren't responsible enough to manage their money and plan for a solid future, they probably aren't mature enough to get married in the first place.

Fun Answer:

Charge a cover at the door.

Give the guests a bill after they eat.

When doing the dollar dance, make it a TWENTY dollar dance.

Answer 15

Tell them to get jobs.

It's not the guest's responsability to fund their married life.

Answer 16

If you are having to raise money for the newly married maybe cut out a big wedding and tell them to get married at the courthouse. In my opinion if money needs to be raised for them then they shouldn't be having a huge wedding. That money spent on the wedding could help them. Regardless of where they get married, it will still be a legal ceremony.

Answer 17

dont do it at the wedding, its tacky!

Insrtead have a testimonial to raise money.  Some food, music, sell tickets, do a 50/50 raffle, basket raffle if people are willing to make them and things like that!

Answer 18

There  is nothing you can do. Weddings are not fundraisers. In this day and age if the married couple does not have somewhat of a start in their careers etc.  that is  really their problem. Everything will look as though you are begging for alms and would be in the poorest taste. Even the money dance fits that category except for Mexican or Polish or a few other ethnic weddings where it is ALWAYS done.

Sorry.  Like I said -- weddings are not fundraisers and making it into one is in really bad taste. The wedding gifts are supposed to help the couple start their households. They can set up a wedding website and register.  They can even register at a place where it is easy to return gifts for cash refunds. They cannot of course put anything about gifts or registry on the invitation.

They could also only register for a very few things and if anyone asks the word could be spread that cash would be appreciated.

They can have a wishing well at the reception for gifts of money.

That is the extreme limit of fundraising at weddings.

Answer 19

i really do admire you for your concern for the newly wedds.  I'm sure you are a very good/dear friend to both the bride and groom that you want to raise funds for them so that they will have a good start in their married life.

in the Philippines, its a tradition that the bride and groom perform the wedding dance and friends and relatives of the newly wedds gives money as a gift.   Another tradition is you can give some goodies - cakes, pastries and other native delicacies to the guests during the reception, in exchange for an amount of money... and you sure can collect a good amount out of this for your dear newly wedded friends.

Good luck and may God bless your good heart always!

Answer 20

The savings plan that the couple should be implimenting, and the gifts given at the bridal shower & wedding are what the couple needs for a good start....fund raising? That is NOT for weddings...charities and political campaigns, yes. A wedding is neither. if the money dance is traditional to their region or family then fine, but if not and is being used  NOT because of tradition but to squeeze more money out of guests it then becomes very poor taste.....and yes, it is begging. You might as well pass a hat, set up a collection coin jar, charge admission or raffle off the table centerpeices, the bouquet, the bride's gown, sell candy, raffle off a gift basket....do NOT expect people not to be offended by this...they will be.

Answer 21

Are you planning to feed the poor after?

A wedding is not a fundraising event. A wedding is to celebrate the union and commitment of two people. Anything other than that would be deemed unclassy and quite rude.

All the best.

Answer 22

I thought the money dance was a Greek thing. To be honest I never heard of raising money for the couple aside from monetary gifts. If they need the money that bad, they should not register but list on the invites they would prefer monetary gifts, or however you can tactfully list something like that. I would give a gift plus money. You get one or the other. I really dont know how you can go about this. Sorry I dont have a better answer other than my opinion.

Answer 23

A wedding is not a fundraiser, it is a celebration of love.  People already bring a gift, they are not there to be solicited for money.  If you want to bring them extra things, host a shower so they can receive gifts.  Anything other than that is seriously tacky.

Answer 24

"In order for the newly wedded couple to have a good start in their married life" does not necessarily mean $$$$$.  They should look around at their guests & count their blessings to have the love & support of those people.

Having a wedding to raise funds is the most disgusting, absurd thing I've ever heard.  It amazes me that people that would consider doing this really do exist.  Thank god they aren't in my social circle.

Answer 25

That is incredibly tacky. Guests are GUESTS, not a source of income. There is no classy way to encourage guests to donate money to the couple. Those who want to give money as a gift will do so, no one else should be pressured into it. Asking for money is tacky at best, greedy at worst.