In an average human conversation, how much of the verbal content is informative, and how much is subtle?

Question

Anyway, when I talk most of the time, I do not feel like I am telling anyone the way that I feel, but recently I have changed my mind. I think a lot of my speech just aims to hide my feelings towards others, but nonetheless the subtle meaning of all my words end up reflecting my feelings to the other person without me realising it.

I am reading much further into conversations than I used to, and I do not like the impression that I usually get. It seems like there are so many insecure people out there, I have yet to find one that has nothing to say to me that is not self-depreciating or intimidating. And I struggle to find anything that I say which is not like that either.

Answer 1

All human conversation is informative and subtle. It isn't just the words to take into account. It's also the choice of conversation topic, the body language & myriads of other factors. This is what makes it all so fascinating. Welcome aboard! You just need a bit more practice that's all.  Most folk are insecure in some way or another. It's all a question of whether we have the right tools to answer the need - including the drive. How many parasites does anyone want anyway?

Be joyous! ! ! - I am neither self-depreciating or intimidating! ! !

Best wishes on your journey. UK

Answer 2

The last paragraph sounds a bit paranoiac to me. (yes, I like to say things bluntly). I don't know if reading a conversation like that it's a good thing. Sounds a bit frightening. But a little "language detective work" never hurt anyone. You seem to read people easily. But are you sure you are not sometimes exaggerating?