In general do you think it's true that women will not marry someone who isn't more succsessful then them?

Question

And why?

Answer 1

i like being successful, i do not want a provider as i want my children t be brought up with good morals especially my daughter.

Answer 2

I don't think it's true. When we first started out we were making the same amount of money, which was peanuts by today's standards. I really don't care about that stuff. As long as we can pay the bills, out food on the table and go on little vacations every once in while, I can live with less. I don't want stuff. I want him.  

Answer 3

I assume by the tone of this question that by "successful" you mean of course that he has a higher income.

Going with that assumption, my answer would be that this doesn't bother me at all. I don't make much money, but I typically make more than my partner simply because I've always worked to support myself through school and my partners typically work less. The reverse situation has happened to me as well, in which case it also doesn't bother me. I don't pay attention to that.

Going with a different definition of success, as defined by self-awareness, a desire for growth and meaningful connection with others as well as self-actualisation, then yes I would definitely say I would go for someone who is either more or equally successful as myself.

Although I doubt most people define success that way.

Answer 4

how are you/we defining success?  goals? happiness? career? money? education?

I think when it comes for goals and career's, if a women hardworking and ambitions. She will become aggravated with a slacker who is hanging out on the couch.  Yet some men will put up with this, from women why idk.

Education, often "crowds" will be pared up by education.  If you have a four year degree it's likely a lot of your friends do as well.  I cant say I actively looked for a man with a degree but I sure hung out and dated a lot of them.  

Money, I highly disagree with the women will marry a guy for money.  No they all wont.  Sure a few gold diggers, but far far from all.  Broke up with an owner of a mortgage company(big money) to get back with my now hubby who is military(little money).    

Answer 5

Honestly, yes.  This isn't true of all women, but I do think it's true in a lot of cases.  I haven't seen too many construction workers marrying doctors, for instance.

I like to see that women on here aren't like this, but I honestly don't see that very often around here.

Answer 6

I can personally attest that I did not marry any of my husbands for any other reason than I loved them.  And simply put, I was the bread winner in every relationship except one in the very beginning and then it leveled out.  

Answer 7

Nope.  Not true at all.  In 1/3 of American Households, the woman makes more than the man.  

Answer 8

murphdogg4,

Don't get to comfortable with the answers here. I admit that many of the answers here surprise me, but keep in mind, dating is not equivalent to marriage. More women are remaining single longer than ever in human history. One of those reasons is women often do not marry beneath themselves. Just look at college educated women. The overwhelming majority marry other college educated men. It makes perfect sense. If a woman spends all day in her career surrounded by other professionals, the chances are good that a woman will marry one of them. I'm not saying things are changing. I am saying that history says otherwise. Modern women have higher expectations of the man they are going to marry than men have of women. Women desire security far more than men do. Successful (Wealthy) men provide that security.  

Answer 9

Not a younger attractive woman.

Answer 10

Although it's true of many women, this is changing.

In the not-so-distant past, it was assumed that the family would live on the man's earnings, and the woman wouldn't work outside the home. Thus, it was hard to find a man LESS successful than the women who had no jobs at all.

These days, it's more varied. A lot of women want a man who's in the same range as they are; some want "more successful" others are happy with less successful, still others don't care.

Answer 11

No.  You can't just measure success by how much money someone makes.  I would want him to have a vocation, even if it was staying at home with our kids.

Answer 12

If you are referring to career and money, then in general, possibly. But one would have to find legitimate stats.

However, times have changed, more women are career-minded and independent, and not concerned with their partners' income, as they can pull their own weight... there are also those whom are more traditionally minded and want differently, and so on...

Personally, neither of my exes were considered "successful" (by this society's standards) at what they did. My last ex was a professor who worked here in the U.S. and occasionally third world countries. After we moved in together, he decided to pursue his passion (I was supportive), which did not produce the same income, so I was making more than him, but that didn't matter to either one of us. We were both working, doing what we love and content with that arrangement, both contributing and benefiting from the same.

Answer 13

It depends on the definition of success.

Does money make you successful? Do big houses and nice cars make you successful? Does doing a job you love make you successful? Does overall happiness in life make you successful?

I'm studying to become a veterinarian and while I definitely won't be making the most money out of all the doctors, I will be making a substantial living. I would consider a man only making 30,000 a year as say a teacher, very successful. He's doing a tough job, that he loves, by educating young minds.

Answer 14

Well, it's not something I've ever really thought about, but as I was never succesful it would have been rather difficult for me to marry someone less succesful than me, unless I'd married someone unemployed and homeless I suppose.

However, if you see a woman as less succesful than you as a 'burden', then it would certainly be wise for you to look for someone succesful to marry.

Answer 15

A lot of the guys I date are worse off than me, I sometimes feel like their mother but I don't mind taking care of them if I'm in love :)

Answer 16

Kind of disagree with view that women will will not marry a less successful man. Reason:  you are just beginning to see women gain the earnings power that was traditionally "reserved" for males.  Example:  medical schools are increasingly producing more female docs than a generation ago.  The Information Age probably is a greater contributing factor to my conclusion than the feminist movement.  But, I guess that is beyond the scope of your question.  

Answer 17

HA HA HA HA HA

I have never had this problem. Every guy I have dated has been less successful than me. But what´s success? More money? Who cares? I just want to be with somebody who loves what they do.

Answer 18

No.  I married a poor student.   He had potential of course.  he was in law school.   I had my education, an inheritance, a job, etc.  I think we were equals.    

Answer 19

It depends on what individuals think successful is we have the obvious one which is make more money but there are many forms of success.