In laws are filthy, and they babysit my child! Help

Question

My parents and my in-laws take turns babysititng my 5 mnth old daughter. My parents keep a clean house,but my in laws are filthy. It wasnt untill the other night when i decided to spend the night at their home that I decided that I had it. I went to the restroom and roaches and other bugs were all over the floor. Thier couches are literally 15 years old, or more, disgusting and dirtly papers clutter everywhere, it's just bad. I cant describe the rest. I dont feel comfortable with my daugter over there. lord knows what under all that clutter. They are pack rats, scared to let things go. My dads brother died of a rat bite at 5 months, I cant let that happen to my daughter. How do I tell them that I cant have my child over there anymore untill the house gets cleaned, lysol, the whole works. they will be mad but my childs safety comes first.what would u do?

Answer 1

You're asking??? You're kidding!!!

Answer 2

Put them in daycare for awhile

Answer 3

Put your child in daycare. No excuses required. It's an unsafe, unsanitary environment for your child.  Don't worry about them - they'll either bounce back or not - either way you can't leave your daughter there.

Answer 4

Say no to the in- laws fro baby-sitting my child, until they clean up their house!Your child is the most important item, in your life, God gave to you, and He doesn't plan to take home with Him too soon, so if they want to live like that, so be it, BUT YOUR DAUGHTER WILL NOT BE COMING BACK TO THEIR HOUSE UNTIL IT IS CLEAN!That's exactly what I would tell them in no certain terms! You do not live like this, and your daughter ISN'T GOING TO BE PUT IN A PLACE LIKE THAT!STAND YOUR GROUND!I would be petrified that she would get bit and no one know it, until it was too late! No, Keep her in your house, and your parents house! Its one thing to live in a home that looks lived in, and there quite a difference, when the house is filthy, and a health hazard!

Answer 5

You need to sit down and talk to them. I'm sure they will understand that you want you daughter to be in a clean enviornment. Tell them that they need to keep their house clean or else you don't want your daughter over there any more. If they won't clean their you can always just have them come to your house to baby sit or just hirer a babysitter. Good Luck

Answer 6

That really is disgusting.

You are stuck between a rock and a hard place here.

Try to work out other babysitting options maybe with your parents, but then you are also going to need to work out some way for your inlaws to have time with the baby as well-only away from their house. I dont blame you for not wanting your baby there.

One more thing, you mentioned your dads brother dying of a rat-bite. Well im not saying that rats are clean but that probably was a 1 in a million fluke. I really doubt if very many people die from that.Im not saying rat bites are ok of course, im just trying to set your mind at ease a little.  

Answer 7

Just like you said, your childs safety comes first. Roaches carry all kinds of nasty diseases and at 5 mths old shes probably not being held the entire time, which means -EEK- shes bound to be put on that nasty floor bugs and all. Talk to them. They cant think that this is ok to live like that. Think of your baby's safety. They'll get over it and hopefully clean up their act.

Answer 8

i would have never let my child over there to begin with if you knew this. take your child out of the house  and flat out tell them y u are doing it.