In our desire to avoid loneliness, we sometimes settle for second best. discuss

Question

i need help on this topic!

reference to the play bombshells and the poem book 'sometimes gladness' would be absolutley awsume if you could :)

Answer 1

All efforts to avoid loneliness can only create loneliness.

It might be a good idea to work on building up self-esteem, table manners, dress sense, how to smile, and so on.  Check to see if you are a grouch, and if so do something about it.  After all that spend a little time writing an essay on what you think the ideal friends would be like if you had any.  That ought to keep the lonely person occupied constructively for a good while and the problem of choosing inferior situations will disappear.  

Answer 2

I'm going through that right now, kind of. My girlfriend cheated on me while she was on vacation and I wa infuriated. I suffered for days as she kept 'doing her thing' in California. I agreed for the sake of my sanity and happiness that I would settle for forgetting about it and going on. The best choice in this dilemma would have been to ask her what happened and settle it that way, but with my pitiful fear of the truth I settled with the second best.

Great philosophical approach to psychology! 5 stars!

Answer 3

I think you have discussed it enough for the rest of us. After all, where is your question mark?

Answer 4

You must be really desperate to ask something so obscure here... I advise you try to think if you have ever settled for second best to avoid loneliness. Then read the play and the book and try and relate them to your own experiences. If you have never settled for second best, then you will have to empathise with someone you know who has.

Maybe you should also think about why the question says 'sometimes'.  Think about the temporariness of relationships that the word 'sometimes' alludes to and how it is in opposition to 'settle', which is a more permanent concept. Good luck!

Answer 5

What is there to discuss? It is only logical to strike for the second best when "first" best is out of reach.

Answer 6

Yes, i do agree with what you are saying, some people would prefer to settle for 2nd best than spend their life alone. Loneliness can be very daunting and the prospect of not having someone to share your life with makes us do certain things to satisfy that loneliness, including settling for 2nd best.

Answer 7

what actually your question is?

Answer 8

I don't know why we seem to do that. I think that everyone wants to be loved and desires to be loved. And we pretty much take what we can get, even if it is not want we really want just to avoid being lonely. I think that is our greatest fear..being alone.  Though some people will not admit to that.

Answer 9

Do your own homework :P

Answer 10

We always settle for second best, the best being our alone-ness, but we equate that with loneliness.

Answer 11

Yes we do settle, and sometimes it saves our lives on so many levels, but still  you wonder what would have happened if I'd turned left instead of right. In my case it wasn't so much loneliness it was anger and pain.

In my case my other choice was to leave the country and just disappear

Answer 12

Yes! most people I know settle for 2nd best!!!! I don't understand why. I know that sometimes what you want isn't what you really want but I CAN'T do that it's not my nature. I know it might seem dumb because second best could be whats better for you in the long run or always was or is better then nothing but I'd rather have what I want or nothing. I don't know why I'm like that? I get lonely sometimes but hardly I'm too busy reveling in my misery. I've had what I wanted before, so I'll probably have it again. I don't really like to 'make it happen' cause if I'm aware of it happening then it just ruins everything and the situation is too contrived. So I'll sit here and wait, surprise me. What do you think?

Answer 13

I CAN NOT relate to your references but I can RELATE to the topic.

Here's my 2 cents. People normally strive to be happy seeking the wrong avenue. People THINK sometimes that happiness is getting an extra paycheck. Others think it's having a dear friend over for lunch or just chat. Still others just want the world to acknowledge their being.

However, the truly HAPPY people are those who strive to reach the STARS knowing full well they may not get there but the GOAL will give them the motivation to keep trying and perhaps they reached "2nd best" but that's life.