In reality , can a psychologist or psychiatrist actually free my mind?

Question

i have been refered but not been yet ,

the smallest problem is debt,

but the main problem is the woman i love , we split 3 years back,

she was the woman of my dreams,

we were engaged to marry and she said she loved me,

i caught her messing with two of her ex-s, and i suspected more,

she then left for a different man who ran the local pub, he had his fun and ditched her , she then asked me back, and i caught her in bed with a different man again,

since the split i learned from friends that she has 12 regular benefit friends , she slept with all my mates behind my back, and now she has group s*x with her 15 year old sons budys whilst her kids are at school,

she is 44 and she goes down town twice a week now and sleeps with different young men every week.

this has mentaly and emotionally ruined me. i cant get it out of my mind and heart, i am the most honest and loving man ever , i never lied and never cheated ,

and as much as i hate to admit it , i still love her, and i never want another girl , nobody else will do,

i cried everyday for years and i still cry now,

i cant function properly , and i dont trust anybody in the world,

Answer 1

I would very mush advise a meeting with a psychiatrists it does not mean that they are going to section you .

I was suicidal and to the point of no return last year and hated the thought of opening up to anyone because I thought they would just find me a time waster but I made an appointment with a community counsellor.. that because my gp health authority waiting list was 6 months !!! i spent the 1 st hour crying and then slowly as the next 6 sessions progressed I had to face up to some horrid realisations about things and people in my life and situations from my passed but I felt as though I cleared all the muddles closets within my head and heart thrown away unwanted junk and put other thoughts back there in a more organised order I still get mithered about things from time to time but I get hem off my chest asap and I have left things and people behind even though I loved their bones we deserve better  hope this makes sense and helps and feel free to e mail me I am a qualified nurse also but I will not patronise or mess you about good luck and take care  

Answer 2

hmm not really.. they're job is to listen and try to connect things to you.. you are the one who must make move and understand things

Answer 3

first of all if you say you don't trust anybody in the world, i can tell you that your question is useless. well, in my opinion it's maybe a good thing, because you're the only one who really can help yourself, if your smart enough.. but you maybe have really serious problem, if you love woman who cheated on you so many times.. to be honest this is somehow scary.. well, psychiatrist just load you up with pills that make you feel fake happiness or fake whatever.. and as i've mentioned if you don't believe to anyone, i think you can't believe to a psychologist and only belief can heal you.

Answer 4

It actually sounds like she has a mental/emotional problem herself, perhaps bipolar disorder or a serious sexual addiction. She is seeking fulfillment through her encounters and may actually NOT be able to help herself.

So try to let go of your hurt and anger towards her, this will help you to move on.  

Answer 5

OH MY GOD!! She is a girl (I am too) but she obviously can not be faithful so if you can't deal with her sexual misgivings, then you need to get over it. I have a male friend who is like her. He can not be faithful to his wife for anything, but she loves him madly and they have kids together. They came to an agreement years ago. He cheats and she won't sleep with him. She doesn't want to get whatever he may catch because of his issues, but she loves him madly and they are really good together.

His kids are getting older now though and starting to suspect that daddy is a bit over the top, and I am sure they will deal with that too. Listen my boyfriend has gone through a lot of girls and never really been faithful. In 7 years he has only cheated on me once, that I am officially aware of, but I have lasteed longer than any other girlfriend.

He asys girls lie and cheat, you just cheat back or trade them in. It sounds like your girl has a problem, and if you can't GROW UP! then you need more than medical help. If she is 44 how old are you? By this point in life you had to have figured out that there are some people that can not be helped. They will be who they are and WILL NOT change. She sounds like that one. Let her be and move on.  

Answer 6

Firstly, please don't go anywhere near a psychiatrist unless you are frankly suicidal. They will only prescribe medication which is not the answer. Some type of psychological/counselling help may indeed help. But it needs to be someone who will help you move forward and get on with the rest of your life - not dwell on your past misfortunes. Someone skilled, experienced, caring and intelligent can point you in the right direction. It doesn't have to be a professional, but sometimes an objective view can help you see the way out more clearly. Hope your referral goes well.

Answer 7

I am sorry you have been let down, some women do not care about anyone other than themselves, sorry to say.

I know it hurts a lot inside but seeing a shrink will make it worse, not better. They do not have a cure for a broken heart any more than anyone else does, they deal in mental illness, you need someone to talk to who will listen, Psychiatrists do not have the time, all they know is diagnosis and prescription, their love lives are worse than yours, believe me.

Answer 8

Dont believe any woman. They all have same bases with different faces. You move forward. Woman is not everything in this world.

Good luck

Answer 9

Hi Mike,

        With the story what you have narrated it shows that she is really a ***** and doesnt have or maintain any relation i mean honest relationship with anyone. I know its not so easy to forget a person whom you love so deeply and truly but you have to do that else you cant lead your life where she is leading with all the pleasures and happiness ofcourse which doesnt matter... I advice you to go to a Psychiatrist and get ridoff all the bloody stuff out of your mind.Am sure that you will get free mind once you visit a psychiatrist..

So please visit him and forget her as she has already ditched you...