In relationship are women interested in men that tell the truth and are honest about all things?

Question

what about a man that expressed is true feelings, and told you honestly how and what he felt and wanted

would the relationship survive?

Answer 1

I'm not sure, to be honest. I think I'll never completely understand women! I've just had so many weird experiences. Like for example that one time. One of my best friends (a girl) loves to say stuff like "everybody has be honest!" or "I ONLY want to have friends and a boyfriend that is 100% honest with me" or "I hate people who lie with me" and stuff like that. So, this one time she came from the hairdresser and she asked me if I liked her new style. "Well" I thought "I'm sure she would hate me telling some lie to her". So I said: "You know hun, to be honest, my personal opinion is, that it looks kinda weird. I think you're really pretty and cute, but I liked your hair before much better"

Guess what the result of this was? She quit talking to me for 2 freakin' days!

Oh and by the way, I've had many others of such experiences with all kinds of girls.

So you see, I love women, but sometimes I just can't keep from shaking my head and thinking stuff like: "what the heck did I do wrong?"

Answer 2

Yes, the relationship would survive if it was inline with what the other person wanted, this is why so many divorces happen; people try to pick up spilled milk.  

Answer 3

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Answer 4

I would. I hate lying and can honestly respect someone for having the courage to tell me the truth. Long as you aren't so blunt about it that you don't care what my feelings are you know? Some people are like that.  

Answer 5

Yes.

But both parties need to remember two things:

Men: don't be rude and then excuse the behavior as honesty.

Women: don't ask questions you don't want answered. You know which ones I mean.

Honesty is an important component in a healthy relationship. The problem is that it can be twisted to the purposes of psychological dances people perform with each other.

Example: A summer theatre program I used to attend in high school was putting on their last show at their old location. This was the location I grew up with and I felt a sentimental attachment to it. So despite the fact that the show was Joseph and the Amazing Technicolored Dreamcoat (not my favorite show) I decided to attend.

I asked my boyfriend if he wanted to come with me. He said, "you know, I do respect the fact that you've got an attachment to the place but I don't, and I hate that show. I'd really rather not go."

Fair enough. No problem at all. If he'd gone he'd have been miserable and resented me asking him. That's not a good lookout for a relationship surviving. But he was honest.

Now, if he had said, "No! That show's terrible and it's dumb that you're so in love with your old high school drama lessons" Or something like that and covered his **** with "Sorry, just being honest... that would be a problem.

Answer 6

I think honesty is important but how many people can handle the truth? Sometimes if a guy is honest he gets trampled on how he felt. I've noticed that with my friends.

Like if a girl says "be honest am I fat?" And she is and the guy is honest and says "yes." He is doomed.

Sometimes people need to tell white lies to avoid hurting someone. Honestly I will just tell you how I felt if you asked me a question like that.  

Answer 7

That depends on the woman. Not all women are cutsy little angels who love the truth. Some are sad, corrupt, and wallow in lies.

Some women actually do want a guy to truly be honest with her about everything, and vice-versa. That is a strong woman with a strong man. Many women, people in general however, will say they want the truth but when you actually see how they behave in relationships, both people are constantly lying about something to each other because it's easier to avoid true feelings and live in an almost pretend relationship. I know a few people who are in relationships and are never really truthful with each other.

I remember having a conversation about how the one who is more alpha in the relationship usually is more controlling, and this couple I was with almost jumped out of there seat, the women saying bitterly, "well, OUR relationship is equal!" And the guy saying "I'm not controlling!". The conversation wasn't even about them and they superisingly had that reaction. I work with the guy as he is the most controlling guy on earth in everyway, and his girlfriend is lazy and timid, never makes decisions. They clearly felt guilty about it, and lie to each other about how "equal" things are between them when it's faaaaaaaaaaaaaar from it.

Some women (people) do love the lies and would rather live by it.

Answer 8

Would the relationship survive if he lied about what he felt and needed or wanted?  No.

Yes women are interested in open relationships, most women eat that stuff up.

Answer 9

of course we are...the relationship probably would survive better that way...

Answer 10

This is a tricky question.  People always say they want the truth, but then get angry if you tell it.  I think that 1) You have to establish a trusting, loving relationship in which truths can be expressed; 2) Doing so depends on both partners (what truths they are ready for or interested in hearing);  3) You can divulge truths in a loving, appropriate, constructive way or you can do it in a hurtful, thoughtless way (imagine which method lends itself to building a stronger relationship).  I think, for example, that if the truth is that one partner wants to explore the possibility of an open relationship, it would be something to first have a casual conversation about to see where the other person stands before saying, "hey, I am totally into this...what'd'ya think?"  I, personally, feel that there is information that one does not need to share with a significant other (like if they think someone else is smokin' hot and fantasize nightly about having s*x with them - that's their business, but I don't need to know it).  While some people might not mind that, they might be put off by another truth.  I don't think there is anything wrong with talking about anything...it's just a conversation.  But many people are put off by certain topics.  You need to establish that with your partner(s).  Each person will vary and have different tolerances for subject matter.  It's like a treasure hunt!  You get to explore the inner workings of your partner's mind!  Additionally, I think it's important to recognize the difference between total and brutal honesty and being honest about the things that really matter to a person.

Answer 11

It would be the only kind of man I would be interested in.  Alas, I am past the age to be looking for a man now.  It takes a level of maturity to see a good man for what he is and unfortunately, as they say, youth is usually wasted on the young.

Answer 12

Most women claim to want the truth but they simply want to be told what they want to hear. It's sad but true; it takes a special kind of woman where you can be completely honest with.  

Answer 13

if she asks do you miss me or do you love me and your answer is no be prepared to get a smack

Answer 14

Sure. Then I can be honest about all things, and tell him what I want.

Answer 15

I would want a man who is honest and tells me what he thinks, feels, needs and wants.  

The only time a relationship can't survive honesty is if the couple is completely mismatched because one or both of them were deceptive in the beginning.

If both people in a relationship aren't honest then their needs will definitely go unfulfilled and that is not  the least bit helpful in building a healthy, long term relationship.

If you are talking about small issues such as when she is wearing something that isn't attractive, I still prefer honesty.  The delivery is important though ..no one likes to be insulted.

If I asked my ex-husband if he liked a particular outfit he would tactfully respond, "It doesn't flatter your figure" or "It doesn't accentuate your beauty." or even a simple "The other outfit looked better."   I appreciated his honesty.  One can be honest without being cruel.