In relationships do you ever mind some silence from your partner does love suffer as a result?

Question

Why is it that Women need and want Men to listen to ‘them’ so much, I don’t mind a few days of silence, do you?

What is the driving NEED to have men listen?

(Made up example, NOT A REAL SITUATION!! Ok i could have taken place with some other Guy, i think)

I come home settle to watch the discovery channel, about the discovery of the origin of the universe, & my woman insist I turn the TV off, as she wants to TALK

For the next 2, 3, or 4 hour, so I have to be nodding, and pretending I’m listening with interests to how some woman she thinks “is a right cow” is spreading this or that, or the S****y, S****y girl at work that needs to learn a lesion, etc etc

What is all that?

Please someone explain it, can you? PLEASE!!!

Answer 1

There comes times that we do it so that you know where we are coming from; talking is our strength; it's strengthens the ties of communication.  To answer your base question, though I am a woman, I love silence just as much as the next person.  Actually, truth be told I thrive on it; I need it for contemplation; something of which I do quite often.

Answer 2

Interesting Q

am just looking here.

Answer 3

is she the first person she sees when she comes home from work? shes just letting off some steam, chill. Ur doing alright nodding and smiling away while still watching your show in the background. Why not have her a nice bath run for when she gets back and you can be in peace while she has her bath, and she might even ring one of her girlfriend while shes relaxing and let off her steam to her!!

Answer 4

Women like to talk cuz if things stay in our head too long it stresses us out. Men sit there is silence thinking until they know how to cope with something. when we've got it off our chest by talking we can forget about it. Also we like the people we love to validate our feelings so that we know we arent alone and someone, our lovely fellas, understand and support us.

Answer 5

I know exactly what you mean, I often wish my wife would shut her gob and get back into the kitchen where she belongs.

However I have mastered the art of looking like I am listening- just grunt every now and again, women want to do all the talking anyway.

Answer 6

I don't even bother listening to what women have to say, the best technique is to probably not stay in the same house as your woman\girlfriend if that is possible, get yourself a bachelor apartment with a single bed that way she won't be able to crash at your place.

make up fictional meetings or appointments whenever she wants to come over to talk about something thats bothering her.

Answer 7

i don't. i like my own company. it took quite awhile to get used to living with my partner after being used to living on my own or in a houseshare (where i at least had my own room)

my partner's the same, so we both appreciate the other's need for space

and neither of us are big talkers

i would've told her you needed some time to yourself, but maybe you could talk about what is worrying her over dinner? or something like that, put some time aside

Answer 8

Although I am not a big "talker" I do understand what you are talking about. When my husband gets home from work the last thing I want to do to him is bombard him with nonsensical chatter and complaining. He needs down time. We actually talk on the phone during the day more then we talk when he is home. To be honest I just dont have that much to say most of the time. I am content just cuddling and holding hands. You dont have to consently be jabbering. Women just feel the need to verbally exspressevery little thing that comes to mind. Why? I dont know. But if I want to rant and rave I usually call my best friend. I dont want to load my husband down with that.

Answer 9

What kind of air headed bimbos are you dating ???

lol...sorry am just going by your example...the made up one...

...if I was your g/f and you want to watch discovery channel...lol...be my guest ... I will be chatting away on yahoo messenger...lol...

...oh yes ... did I mention that I usually only wear panties and a top while chatting on yahoo messenger ???

...lets see how long it will take you till you want to discover my channel...lol...

...and BTW ... no need to talk ... just get on with it...

seriously ... conversation between partners is important but as with everything else in this World there is the time and place for it...