In the service and not sending $ for child. please help!

Question

my bf's baby mother is in the service and WE are taking care of her child but she is not sending any money to help us. my bf will not go to the military office to discuss this situation with her commander becuz he claims he will get her in trouble and he dont want to do that. now we r both struggling trying to take care of this 3RD child, and i have tried to talk to him about it, but he ignores me. Do u think there is something strange about him not doing what he needs to do to help US? can i do something by going to the office and discussing this matter? will that help in any way? PLEASE HELP!

Answer 1

well he wil not get her in any trouble by talking to her commander, however unless there is already a court order to pay child support there is no reason too. the commander can not do anything to make her pay. so you need to have him go to a child support agency they will start the case and yes will absolutely have her wages garnished ( military are the easiest people to get to pay regularly)  

Answer 2

You can always go through the American Red Cross

They will mediate between you, the commander and the baby's mother

and will give you $$, food and support if you need it. Every millitary installation has them, and they are there to help.

Answer 3

I can't answer for him as to why he made the decision not to go to her commander. But,this situation has to be taken care of by him. You have no legal standing in this situation. You are not the child's mother or his spouse. Going to her commander yourself will be useless because of this.

If he doesn't have a child support order,he needs to get one. If he does,he has to go to her commander and report that the order isn't being followed.

In all honesty,you sound a little bitter about having to take care of his child. This isn't the child's fault and I hope that they are not feeling the tension this is obviously causing.

He has to step up and do what is right to make sure his child is supported by both parents.

Answer 4

You can report her but sounds like that would p**s him off. Ask him to seek full custody. The courts will decide a payment based on both parents income. They'll take it right out of her checks before she even see's them.

Answer 5

Generally, child support issues must be dealt with via a civilian court. Contact a lawyer and find out all the different avenues you have for making her pay child support.

Answer 6

no court order, the military will do nothing.

you need a court Order for child support, period.  Only with a CO will the military garnish her pay.  

you are nobody and the military won't even talk to you on the phone about it,let alone allow you on base.