In trying to convince my mom to homeschool me she always brings up college.?

Question

If you've saw some of my previous questions and answers here then you might know I'm having difficulty in trying to convince my parents to homeschool me. Well, not really convince, but make them see that homeschooling is whats best for me.

Every time I am discussing home schooling with my mother she says "What about college? You'll have to get up and go to a school there."

And see, that's not why I want to be homeschool. I don't want to be able to sleep in and whenever I want to and feel like it get up and do some learning. And I try to tell her that college is a bit different then regular school for me.. The students who are there actually WANT to learn unlike some of the kids who go to high school just because their parents make them.

She says nothing but I feel like she still doesn't agree with me.

Do I make sense?

Anyways, I'm having the most difficult time in becoming home schooled. What do I say to her? Any ideas? Any help at all is really appreciated.

Answer 1

You have some great points, and it sounds like she just doesn't WANT to understand homeschooling. I'm so sorry.

college *is* totally different than public school, has she been so that she knows that? I agree with whomever said that you really need to stop and listen to her reasoning, why does she not want to homeschool you? Often it's because parents believe that it's their time while kids are at school. If she works, then it might be that she's concerned you wouldn't be motivated enough to do it on your own.

All I can think is to continue respectful discussions, and then maybe over the summer do a practice homeschool. Find two or three books, work through them and show her that you can do this on your own.

Good luck, i think you have a lot ahead of you.

Answer 2

Your reasons make perfect sense to me. As a mother, I would listen to them!

Perhaps what you need to do is formulate a complete plan. Your mother is saying "no" because it's a quick answer and it's easier for HER if you go to school everyday. If you show the initiative to pull together all the information and present to her how it won't be a burden to her, you'll be more likely to win.

Answer 3

There are lots of kids in college, who don't know why they are there, are disruptive, whose parents are paying their way because it's the thing to do, etc. You have a very unrealistic idea of college, if you think it's exceptionally different from high school. So, in my opinion, your reasoning is not sound for wanting to be home schooled, and I think you have an ulterior motive. Since your mother knows you better than I do, she may be also feeling that there is an ulterior motive to what you are asking her to do. She may feel it's in your best interest to stick with school the way it is now. It sounds like your mother doesn't want to take on the burden of home schooling you. This is a huge thing to ask her to do. I wouldn't want to do it, myself. Is there an intermediate plan that would work for you two? Like, are you in a public school, and would going to a private school possibly reduce the number of students you have to deal with and make the learning environment more appealing to you?

Answer 4

i wish I could talk to her personally. I suggest you find the best time to discuss it without making her feel you are usurping her authority. As a mother also I don't want my child to tell me what to do specially on this very sensitive matter. If she doesn't like the idea who will help you with Home school. It is a partnership between you and mom and I don't think  it will be very easy for you if you insist . Anyway try to talk to her again with hugs and kisses and a promise that you will make it good at home or should i say far better than those kids in a traditional school. Maybe you can try to find clippings or stories of homeschoolers who are achievers.

Answer 5

All I can recommend is showing her the academic stats on homeschooling.  

http://www.hslda.org/docs/study/comp2001...

http://www.hslda.org/docs/study/rudner19...

http://www.hslda.org/research/ray2003/de...

http://www.hslda.org/docs/nche/000010/20...

http://www.hslda.org/docs/nche/000002/00...

Also, show her that you are not trying to be lazy by working hard on school right now, while still keeping the dialog going about homeschooling.  Show her that you are putting academics first.

Perhaps over the summer break, you could convince her to give homeschooling a try.. and if you give it all you've got and get a few months ahead by working during summer, maybe she'll look at things from your perspective.

Answer 6

It took me a while to convince my parents, too.

Ask her if you can do an online homeschool.  I'm with Alpha Omega Academy, and it's amazing.  They're accredited by two nationally recognized associations.  

They offer a college planner class, too.  They'll also send official transcripts to any colleges you plan to appy for.

Order a free packet from them, and just show your mom.

Best of luck.

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Answer 7

Ask her:

Why do you think I want to be homeschooled?

Listen and write it out, no matter how wrong it is.

Then ask her:

Why do you NOT want me to homeschool?

Listen to her and write it out, no matter how silly her reasons may seem.

Then ask her a final question:

Are you willing to really listen to my reasons for wanting to homeschool and why I think it would be good for me? Because what you've said here [point to the papers you've written her words down on] doesn't match up with how I see things.

If she's not really willing to listen, then that's it. You can't make somebody else listen--and the harder you try, the more likely they are to not listen. If she pretends she's listening but comes back to her viewpoint, then you say something like, "I'm feeling very frustrated. I had expected you to really understand what I'm saying and where I'm coming from, but I don't feel I am being understood." Then leave the ball in her court. If it really goes nowhere, try to find the book "Nonviolent Communication" by Marshall Rosenberg and try some of the techniques in there. (There is a website, too, but I don't know how much practical information is on it: http://www.cnvc.org/ .)

Btw, trying to make someone see your point of view is trying to convince them. :)

Answer 8

Oh yes college and homeschoolers.  Yes.  A lot of homeschoolers go to college by the time they are 15 or 16.  It is a great way to get the higher level math and science courses done without straining mother's brain.   Most community colleges take in the homeschoolers.  It's a great  tool for homeschoolers to take college classes.  (forget highschool-nobody actually learns there-go straight to college, much better)

Answer 9

This is just a suggestion, but, if you don't like the kids s******g around in class all of the time because they don't care about their work like you do, why don't you take AP and Honors classes?

This way, by your senior, and possibly even junior year you will be able to take college classes, paid for by the school and the kids in Advanced Placement and Honors classes are in the classes because they enjoy that subject and are serious about their grades.

Answer 10

If college is her current concern, than you need to address that. How do you think you can do that? Find proof that homeschoolers can get into college. Find proof that homeschoolers have achieved in college. Find proof that college students who have homeschooled do actually get up in the morning and go. You need to find proof that comes from a source that your mother will respect. "People on Yahoo Answers said that...." probably won't cut it. Do your research properly.