In what way women respect men?

Question

Women demand men to respect them and I appreciate that. So, I assume women too must be respecting men.

Women: please provide one specific example regarding how do you respect men around you.

Don't state examples of men in your family. Please provide examples outside your family as women expect respect from men outside their family also.

Answer 1

I care about the men in my life - friends, colleagues, relatives - and I care how they feel.  I try to avoid thinking of men in terms of stereotypes and instead I try to find out how individual men feel about things, and take account of their feelings.  

I avoid saying things that put down all men, and when other women say disparaging things about all men I usually challenge them.  For example, a woman complained to me recently that her colleague was lazy and didn't tidy up and she said, "typical man" and I said that not all men are lazy or untidy.  It's a bit of a boring example, but at least it's specific.

I think men disrespect women when they sexualise women.  For example, the recent question here about the man who put up a bikini calendar at work.  That's disrespectful to women because it sexualises the workplace environment.  Many things that 'normal' men consider just a bit of fun can be very disrespectful to the women around them.  Women don't usually want s*x to be an issue when they're at work.

Answer 2

I think a general rule is to treat others the way you'd like to be treated.

If someone is disrespectful towards me, be it man or woman, why should I treat them any differently in turn?

Answer 3

The guys I work with are awesome, so I ensure that I'm at work on time to allow the guy working before me enough time to beat traffic and get home. I get pass down; I contribute to the team by making sure that I assist in what ever projects we're assigned to some way some how. I offer suggestions and give opinions (while respecting theirs), and after a hard days work, we go out and grab some steamed crabs and a few beers where I'll pay for one round, and someone else will pay for the next. There have been times where someone was too drunk to drive home, so I'll drive his car for him to keep him from getting behind the wheel drunk.

I've never too pushy (but I make sure I'm heard). I pay attention to what's going on (but I will share a joke or two with the guys), and I treat them the same way they want me to treat them. Respectful, and as a co-worker. I never use my s*x as an excuse for not being able to lift heavy equipment, instead I ask for assistance, and I assist those who need help as well (those equipment bays can get pretty heavy with all the machinery). I stay on top of the latest software and programming languages to give my team the edge it needs to stay competitive within our contract.  And as a matter a fact, I'm standing in for a friend on the night shift, so that he can spend time with his family, because he’s done the same for me. Respect between men and women should be a give and take (you give what you get).

Answer 4

Off the top of my head I thought of not complaining about them; encouraging them and believing in them. Being strong when they need it.

Answer 5

I have had several male bosses who I respected a lot, they were a pleasure to work for, mainly because they treated me the same as they treated their male co workers.

Three of my best friends are men, I respect their intellect, humour and the qualities which make them special human beings, the main one being that they treat me as an equal, the fact that we are of different gender does not affect how we treat each other. Two of these men I have known for decades.  So I suppose my answer is that I respect men who treat me as a fellow human being not in some special way because I am female.

Answer 6

I respect a man's right to be free, his right to vote, his right to not be raped in marriage, his right to drive, his right not to be beaten by his domestic partner, his right to go to school, his right to have a bank account, his right to own a business, his right to hold public office, his right to lead / manage when and if he is qualified, his right to enter any profession he is qualified to enter, his right to use credit cards, his right to equal pay, his right to work, his right to chose to stay home, his right not to have s*x if he does not want to have s*x, his right not to have children if he does not want children and assumes responsibility for knowing where his p***s is at all times, his right to be supported in common courtesy, etc.  

Answer 7

I treat normal men how I treat normal women.  I believe when I am out that I do tend to follow the german philosophy of minding my own business. I open doors for people in need of a door being opened, I talk nicely to people, if asked for directions I tell them, if someone is short a few cents I give them some, I see someone drop something I give it back to them even if it is out of my way, you know normal manners.  Of course I am even polite to abnormal people... I never run up and kick the leerier in the balls.... isn't that nice of me?  However I do get a mean look on my face and ignore them... had to mention that... lol.

As for how normal men disrespect women I am not sure... Do you consider men who leer normal because I don't.  I have never seen a normal man disrespect women... I have seen the abnormal loser disrespect women though.

Answer 8

I have more male friends than women because I know my male friends will be honest with me without competition or jealousy. Men get more accomplished because once they have made a decision, they stick together. Women, on the other hand, make a decision and then stab each other in the back if it serves their interest or gets them what they want. I work at a female prison as a mental health counselor and I see it every day. If procedures get changed in the prison system, it is usually because the male inmates make a decision and don't budge from it and they don't turn on each other.  

By the way I am a female.

Answer 9

First, I'm a woman, though I am using my fiance's account.  As for the question:I respect any man who will go miles from home to fight in an asinine war for my rights.  I respect the men who support the women no matter what choice is made about an unplanned child.  I respect the man who will take in a homeless mother with two young children (yes, this happened; I was three).  I hope this helps!

Answer 10

i dont kill them 4 being a lazy ***hole

Answer 11

I maintain a professional attitude with the men I work with, even the ones I don't like.  I open doors for men and offer assistance to men in need of help.  I treat my male friends to drinks or offer to treat them when we go to dinner.  I am a good hostess when I have a man at my house, be he my friend or lover.  I treat men with the same respect that I do to women as I feel all people are deserving of respect.

Answer 12

How do I respect men?  Well, for starters, I do not assume they are weak, stupid or need protecting when I first meet them.  I include them in conversations, acknowledge them as equal workers, consider them human beings and not something lesser.  I would never dream of owning a man and will defend their rights politically and morally.  I support them when they're following their dreams, and I am conscious of their comfort and avoid making it a hostile environment for them to be in.

It is simply acknowledging them as human beings.  That's the respect I give and that's the respect I expect whenever I meet somebody new.

"Normal" men disrespect women by treating them as different creatures.  In my experience, it's the odd ones out who considered me their "Butt Buddy" after only a few hours of intense Magic the Gathering duels.  Most men are embarassed to speak in front of me as they would their "guys" (until they get to know me).  They automatically assume I will be offended by comments made about sexual experiences, preferences, and are taken aback to learn I know something about mathematics, cars and sports.  They become especially unhinged when they learn I throw LAN parties on all three new generation gaming consoles and the classic PC (my baby).

I find this very disrespectful, since all women are seperate beings.  You cannot assume I am just like your girlfriend - I can promise you, I am not... and I am not a Unicorn dabbling in the forests of horses.  There are much more like me then you'd ever even begin to imagine.

Also, nobody demands that they be respected FOR their gender.  They demand to be respected DESPITE their gender.

Answer 13

They don't. Men have been raised to cater to woman. In my opinion most men are suckers for feeling sorry for woman because a woman would backstab a man with no remorse where as men always get sucked in to there i'm so helpless and inocent role.

Answer 14

Exactly the same way I respect women. I listen to their opinions, I don't insult them, I hold open doors for them, pick up and return things they've dropped, I'm polite if I speak to them, I move out of their way when they need to go past, I help them if they ask.... etc. You know, normal manners. Exactly when did respecting other people become a gender issue? By which I mean, why should the respect you give to one gender be different to another? I don't differentiate.