In your opinion, are human beings meant to be married to only one person for a life time?

Question

Or did we start that ritual because we believe it to be 'moral'?

Answer 1

i believe in fate and soulmates

Answer 2

I don't believe that there is any controlling function telling us that we're "meant" to do anything. There are many cultures around the world throughout history that practice polyamory so it is a mistake to define standard Western view as a "moral" one. I would argue that so many people end up "cheating" on their partners implies that having only one partner might be the less natural. Marriage itself as a concept was created when humans were sitting around the campfires and living far shorter lives than people in modern developed countries do today. They married much earlier and while they might have lived monogamously for the rest of their lives, those lives tended to be much shorter than ours. We tend to get married much later after "trying out" various partners through the process of dating. Author Tom Robbins once described dating as "serial polygamy".

Answer 3

In my opinion, yes, humans are meant to be married to only one person for a lifetime.  Just because it's not always easy doesn't mean we weren't meant for it.

Answer 4

It depends. You should marry the person you love. If you find out you don't love the person you married then its okay to marry someone else. But, if you divorce the person you love just because things weren't perfect or you had a little fight then it is immoral.

Answer 5

In my opinion...NO, i have been married, and if i were to again then great, if not then thats great too, sometimes peoples perception of marriage means they have to stay married even though they are not happy, but in the end no one is happy because you have to follow your heart and if your hearts not in it then neither is your soul...i was going to stay with my ex for the kids, i came from a broken home and swore i would never put my kids through that...then i went through it and it is better the kids aren't growing up in a house full of hatred...my kids are alot happier now, still confused but they are not listening to dad fight every second with mummy and calling her names, and when my son who was 5 at the time comes running to mummy's defence, thats when i decided i cant stay for the kids!

:)  

Answer 6

Sticky question.  I believe that we have 'soulmates' and that we are meant to be married to one person for life; in tandem, marriage serves as a vital institution for regulating society.

Answer 7

King Solomon was a righteous ruler and had a thousand wives, why not. It isn't cheating as long as it is understood your heart is split and they are satiated with only a portion of it.

Answer 8

for sure.

one life one love.

Answer 9

I don't think so.  Over time individuals change as the world changes and experiences add up.  Even our values shift.  As life expantancy increases it is only natural that individuals should have three long-term relationships.  I have read that this is the way many will  live in the future.  Imagine a life expantancy of 150 and the ability to remain in good condition for much of that time.  

But for now, people are insecure, lazy, and selfish; so they seek to stay with one partner.  Yes, there are rare instances of finding a soulmate but for most of us, we resign ourselves and make the most of what we have.

Answer 10

No, I don't think it is something we are meant to do.  We are animals, and the only ones on the planet who attempt to mate for life.  I think it's something that society has told us we simply must do.

Answer 11

I don't think that humans were meant to be married. Bills and child support weren't originally part of the picture. Marriage is just a title, and it works for some people. I think that in our lifetimes we will only truly love one person, meaning that they love us back to the same extent and unconditionally, but only if we are lucky. Forever love isn't meant for some people, and marriage isn't meant for most.

Answer 12

It's a moral convention, but it works for some people.

Personally I don't think it's natural to be married to one person in a lifetime - that's just me. But I've met couples who seem so natural with each other that I believe they were meant to be together forever.

I also think divorce makes you a better mate - you face some hard truths about yourself when you go through a divorce. If you can learn from that you come out stronger and more secure.

Answer 13

Personally, no. The concept that humans are meant to be married to only one person for life differs based on religious morality.  

example: Mormon's practice polygamy, because they believe that it is moral.

Answer 14

I suppose marriage was originally a social custom intended for the sake of future family life, i.e. the children, and having stability in society. Fact is, there are many who are not so suited to the married state, whether male or female. It really depends on the individuals.

It would be nice to think that marriage is forever but in my opinion it should be based on the love between two people, not on society's expectations of an ideal, harmonious bond for all time. It is indeed a blessing if that does happen but life isn't perfect nor are human beings. People do change as they grow older and in some cases they may diverge and go separate ways due to different interests and values. But "Hats off!" to those who are unified in mind and heart and appreciate being together regardless of the many years that are counted up.

So we do the best we can as we navigate our ship through life's waters.  

Answer 15

Yes.  

The ritual was found to be 'sound' & 'healthy'  and hence it became a moral.