Inconsiderate moocher, please help!?

Question

Ok so here is the situation. I live with my boyfriend of 4 years, and my daughter. He is her dad, and we live on our own. Well his best friend comes over everynight. He eats our food to the point there is none. He cusses, and plays the xbox 360 I'm not joking probably 18 hours a day. I have told him to get out, I have talked to the office and everybody tells me it's Tyler's friend and he can be there since Tyler is on the lease. Well I'm on the lease too. I work until 7pm, and Tyler has to be there at 6, we work at the same place. I asked him when he got to work if Jayla was at the babysitters, and he said no his friend was watching her. Work wouldn't let me go early, and when I got home and ran in our place was trashed.

I splurge occasionally on a bottle of nice alcohol to make mixed drinks with so me and Tyler can kick back when Jayla goes to my mom's. 3 of my full bottles are gone!

What do I do? I can't even come out in my own living room because he won't shut the heck up. I have no friends to stay with and nowhere to go.

What do I do. Being assertive doesn't do anything, I have tried talking to Tyler, and I have no money to escape my lease and don't feel I should have to. I have told him so many times to go, and he just says, Tyler is letting me be here.

How lazy can you be? I'm 22 and work full time, why can't he. There is no reason he can't work full time and have his own place.

Noone can do anything, the office, the police. I need some advice. I do not want to hear I'm enabling him because I tell him all the time to get out. I have tried hiding food, and cutting off the xbox.

I need some good advice. PLEASE! I have reached my peak, and feel like I'm in my body doing 150 mph with no brakes.

Answer 1

Lock up you liquor and beer. Lock up you food and other

drinks. Maybe give your boyfriend an ultimatum. Either the

friend goes or I go with my daughter.

Don't listen to his "poor me" stories it's time for you

to put you foot down and tell the guy to get the f@%k out.

If he has any belongings, pack them up and put them

outside nearby so when he comes back from wherever

he would probably get the message.

If you're really the sadistic type which I hope you aren't,

you can say something like. I wonder if he ever did or

said anything to my son or daughter.

I have seen people do some serious stuff to get rid

of someone who becomes a nuisance, right down to

accusing them of something they didn't do and the

police wind up arresting them.

Sanity must be preserved.

Answer 2

Easy cut off the water and electric if it is in your name, and if you need to take a shower rent a cheap hotel room or what ever and go clean up. No electric he should be out in hours trust me.

Answer 3

And why is Tyler not making him leave?  It's his friend.  He should want some alone time with you, not with his lazy friend.  Tyler might be on the lease but so are you and you have the right to not have folks in your house if you don't want it.  Call the police if you really want him gone.  Noone has the legal right to be in a house unless they are on the lease regardless of who invited him.

Answer 4

Every boyfriend in the world has a friend like this.  If you ever dump this bf , the next one will have the same thing.  Would you consider a life of celibacy and no men? Consider it. /

Answer 5

The real problem is with the boyfriend.  Tyler may like having his friend around, and is purposely ignoring the friend's selfish and immature habits.  He is endangering his daughter by letting someone so irresponsible babysit her.  

Tyler is the enabler here, and you need to discuss the matter with him.  If you can come to an agreement together, then you have a united front to keep the moocher out.

Meanwhile, go to the hardware store and get a new deadbolt.  Give a set of keys to your boyfriend, yourself, and the apartment manager.  Give the manager strict instructions that he is legally not allowed to open your door to anyone who is not on your lease - the lessee must be physically present to monitor the guest's behavior.  It's a liability issue for both you the lessee and the apartment manager.

Also, simply unplug the Xbox or the joystick and take it with you when you leave for work.  Remove the temptation for him to visit.

Answer 6

file a restraining order against him.  then get on your boyfriend for not standing up for you.  there is no reason for your boyfriend allowing this to happen.