Inconsolable child.?

Question

I am a toddler teacher at a childcare center. One of my students is 2 and a half, and he is compleyely unable to calm himself down when he throws a tantrum. He goes as far as to hurt himself and headbutt me when I try to restrain him from banging his head on the floor/wall. The one thong that works (almost instantly) is his pacifier, but his parents prefer he doesn't use it. Any suggestions on how I can calm him when he is really out of control?

Answer 1

just give him the pacifier and dont mention it to the parents. you are only the babysitter. his parents will most likely have to teach him how to control his temper. sometime i think parents put it off on the childcare provider to teach children things.

Answer 2

Ask his parents how they console him when he gets this way. He is their child surely they can give you some ideas of what works at home. They need to break him of his pacifier completely if they do not want you giving it to him. If they give it to him at home and ask you to do the opposite when he is with you then that is just not going to work.

Answer 3

The poor child needs attention and love from an adult.

Answer 4

I have a little boy in my class who does the same thing and the parents have already taking the paci away so I restrain him the way his therapist told me to and I have to hold him there instill he calms down the first time I had to sit with him for 1 hour and the director had to come and watch my class for me but now he still gets mad and bangs his head and I tell him to go to time out and he goes

Answer 5

Give him his pacifier and a hug.  If the parents prefer he doesn't use it why is it even there?

I wonder if the parents are as attentive as they should be to this boy's needs. Poor thing.

Answer 6

This boy is used to being bribed! Maybe candies, soda, chips, etc! I'm only kidding! Time out and love!  My daughter gets her time out (if she resists I carry her to her time out spot) if she gets up I take her back. When she is done with her tantrum, I lower and speak about what happen at eye level. The point is to make her understand that what she did was unacceptable.  Many times she is also being a brat, for example *Please go get me your pijamas!* she will say *No!* so then I sweet talk to her *Baby, can you please go get me your cute little pijamas* and she will go, some people will get mad and scream, *I said to go get your pijamas!* but it almost never works! Take my advice and acustom it to this childs need, I'm positive it will work! Has worked with many kids I know! Good luck!

Answer 7

do you have a time out spot for bad kids? sit him in it when he does this. my 3 year old daughter started to hit herself when she would get mad so i started to punish her for it. she stopped it in 4 days and hasnt done it for 3 months now