Individal FREEDOM...!!?

Question

My boyfriend and I are currently in a long-distance relationship...we don't see each-other for months and months and I miss him badly as you can imagine! I text and call him everyday becuase I miss him but he takes it the wrong way and thinks I'm calling him just to check up on him and so we end up arguing! I understand he likes his freedom but I find it hard not to contact him everyday.... any suggestions on what to do to give him that freedom?

Answer 1

Try and resist, boys/men are all the same he might say that but if you don't call him for like a week he will be the one calling you and worrying about you and wanting to call you more often ;).

Answer 2

It's easier than it sounds. During the week have a turn around call night. You call one night and him the other. If it's his turn to call and he's caught up, he sends a txt saying he's busy and vise- versa. Weekends are different. If you call and he's busy, you both understand that the conversation will be short and sweet. If he doesn't contact you, control yourself and don't break the rules. It's a matter of trust and he will let you know what's going on. Don't judge on your terms, understand him on his.

Now be strong, start a love diary so that when you don't hear you can write down all the things you were hoping to chat about.

Cheers ;)

Answer 3

I find it interesting, the words that people us and he difference between in what they say and what they mean.

> any suggestions on what to do to give him that freedom <

'Give him that freedom' !

Is freedom yours to give? When was it removed? Was there some agreement mutually made about this Freedom REMOVED ?

If you find id HARD to not contact him, then you can maybe imagine how HARD it is to perhaps feel imprisoned by the needs of another 1

I'm not saying you are wrong to feel that way, but you might like to look at an effect of that 'need' ~ and that is the other person can feel 'entrapped by that neediness', as if they are the drug the other person needs to feed from.

It might seem right to you, it might seem loving and even romantic, but it can have an acid effect if you are not careful.

Just be careful.

Sash.

Answer 4

Missing someone is one thing, but you cannot go overboard.  Try spreading things out a little and when you do talk it will be a lot more special.