We decided not to circumcise my son for various reasons. We are comfortable and happy with our decision, so this isn't about that.
First, some background on uncircumcised penises (since a lot of people are uninformed). The f******n should never be forced back. There is a protective membrane under it that will dissolve on it's own, usually by age 5 (but sometimes not until age 14). The tip of the f******n on an infant is only large enough to allow for the passage of urine. Eventually, the child can pull the f******n back. He should be the first person to do this, and it should not be painful.
Our son is now 3 months old. He had a catheter inserted today for an (unrelated) medical procedure. The doctor forced back his f******n, which tore both the membrane and the f******n. He then scraped away the smegma (a natural occurring antibacterial wax that prevents infection, should be left alone until the f******n retracts naturally). He brought us back to the room, showed us what he had done, and lectured us on how we should have been doing this all along.
He was very very wrong.
I pointed out the tiny rip in the f******n, and the doctor had to consult another doctor. He returned and told us that we need to leave the f******n alone.
Our son is now in a great deal of pain. Depending on how his p***s heals, the tears may cause adhesions to form which will result in him needing surgery when he reaches puberty. The formation of scar tissue will might also result in surgery. Breaking the membrane put him at a high risk of infection.
I'm very angry, and I feel like I failed to protect my child. I never would have imagined that I should have had to inform a doctor not to touch his f******n.
We are giving our son liquid tylenol (double checked the dosage with his primary care doctor), and warm baths. What else can we do? Has this happened to anyone?
Would you seek legal action? I don't want a huge lawsuit. I don't want compensation. But I am so angry I can hardly see straight. I don't think this was fair to my son. What would you do?
Here is more information on what happened: http://www.nocirc.org/publish/6pam.pdf
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