Infetility what happens next?

Question

We have been told that my husband has abnormal shaped sperm. After researching and researching I have learnt that there's not much done to correct this.

I have problems with my periods, so i am also being investigated for infertility......HSG should be the end of the month (fingers crossed).

I have an appointment with the specialist in Jan, yep a long wait, NHS for you I'm afraid, anyway I am going out of my head. I literally think that I am going to loose it, whilst on the other hand my husband is calm and collective.

Am I right in thinking that for IVF and with my hubby's problem it's going to be difficult to have.

What other options are there???? even adoption is long and lengthy.

Has anyone know any one with the same problem? I have not meet any one who has a partner with the same problem as I and going throught the same.

I just want to know what the chances are of having our own baby successfully.

Thanx for any help given to us

Answer 1

I can honestly say that I adopted a beautiful healthy 2 day old from the state. He was in foster care....The adoption took 6 mos.......That was 5 years ago, and that beautiful healthy baby started kindergarten this year and is the light of my life. Adoption doesn't take as long as you think and sometimes even shorter then a pregnancy. If you and your husband discussed adoption I suggest that you do it. There are so many children waiting for a good home. I always tell my son he was "born of my heart" and "I could never love him any less!"

Answer 2

My ex had a low count, less than a million.  Half of that was deformed or dead, and two thirds of the remaining didn't move.  I also have endometriosis, PCOS and ovarian cysts.  The odds were definitely stacked up against us there.  We were NOT meant to have children together.  Ultimately I'm glad we didn't because he's now an EX, and for a very good reason.

Most IVF they just put the little swimmers in a dish and let them find their way to the prize.  There's IVF w/ ICSI which is where they actually insert them into the eggs.  Fertilization rates are higher, but his deformties could lead to birth defects or miscarriages.

You could try using a donor's sperm through IUI.  It's not nearly as difficult and costly as IVF and the child is biologically MORE yours than an adopted child (that's really important to some).  My doc said to expect at least 6 months of this treatment before seeing results because they start out with a low dose of meds so you don't wind up pregnant with 8 babies.  Still, that's far less expensive than 1 round of IVF.

Just some suggestions.

You could also look into state run foster care - adopting a child is usually MUCH quicker.  International adoption is costly, but sometimes faster than domestic.  Guatemala usually has a 5 month wait - not bad I guess.

Answer 3

My husband and I have a similar situation.  He has Certoli Only Cell Syndrome and Epidimitus (spelling?).  One or the other greatly impairs his ability to have a biological child, but both together make it impossible.  We are trying IUI.  We are using donor sperm and they place it directly into my uterus.  It's less expensive and less invasive than IVF.

We are also approved for adoption, but have been waiting two years with no luck.

Best of luck to you!

Answer 4

IVF will be the most likely treatment offered to you with this problem. all IVF attempts are really low. i understand what you mean about the NHS its a waste of time having them there cause they hardly help at all...

but hope you get some answers and the result you are looking for

good luck

Answer 5

NO ONE has a crystal ball capable of telling you the chances of having "your own" baby successfully.

Instead I'd urge you to address your emotional/psychological feelings. What if you were to live a life childfree? While it may not be the life you imagined, what advantages might there be? Perhaps your life path is destined to take you other places besides the pedestrian pursuits of parenthood? Embrace the alternatives. Please do not beat yourself up pining for what is out of your reach.

Adoption does not cure infertility, nor will someone else's baby or child fill the void that not having "your own" baby seems to be creating. Clearly adoption would be a second choice to you. Please do not flippantly consider that an option to building a family.

Best of luck to you on your journey.

Answer 6

My suggestion is to get on an adoption waiting list NOW so that you will have your name in there on that list ASAP since it will take a long time as you said. Then see if IVF will help you become a mother. Good luck to you and your family.

Answer 7

You could be offered IVF with ICSI which involves injecting the sperm directly into the egg - I believe that the best sperm are selected for this so this may be an option for you.  

I can understand the frustration about waiting times on the NHS - been 4 long years for us what with all the tests etc

Try a search on this website to find out other people's experiences: www.fertilityfriends.co.uk

Answer 8

Charliebeau has the best answer to your question.