Insecure in relationship!?

Question

I love my boyfriend to pieces and I do trust him, but he has lots of pretty girl's as friends and although I know I am pretty as people always tell me, it still makes me insecure to think that he could find these girls more attractive than me! I wonder if he thinks he wishes he was with them and not me?

Also my friend who is quite a flirt was speaking to him when we were out clubbing and I felt like he fancied her. I don't let him know I am insecure, like when they were talking I just let them get on with it, and continue dancing with my other mates.

I don't know where this insecurity stems from, but I think because I have always been pretty and used to attention, when another pretty girl comes along I feel inadequate. I am a clever girl, and enjoy a laugh but I don't want these insecurities to affect my relationship. I mean I broke down crying last night just because my friend added him on facebook, I feel she will take him away from me! He is so good to me, but he makes it worse because he always thinks I am going to cheat on him because I am good looking and maybe this makes me act the same towards him!

Answer 1

one thing is clear by your view that you don't believe him, if you love him then try to believe him because love means faith on each other, and don't think about his friend these both are different, lover and friends both have an important role in our life we can't mix one with another, you can't seperate him from his friends for your love and if you will mix both of them then it is sure your relation would be affect by this.

try to believe him and tell him politly that u don't like this may be he will change his habbit of talking with other girls...........

Answer 2

When a guy says he thinks your cheating and says it a lot it's usually to blind you to the fact that he is the one that is cheating. One thing you should never do is act like your insecure about yourself and this is why? People are more attracted to others that are confident in themselves. Act like you could replace him in a heart beat if you wanted to instead of a holder on type of a person. That should make him desire you even more. If you go around and act like you can't live without him your placing too much power into his hands and he will think he can get away with anything including cheating on you. Guys that have clingy girlfriends often say to their buddies when they tell them they are cheating about it. And the first question from their buddies is "won't your girlfriend leave you if you get busted?" And the reply is Nah! She won't go anyway where she loves me too much! You need to stop his thinking like that about you. My dad and mom were having troubles in their marriage at one time. My dad had the hots for their best friend's wife. My mom figured it out and told him flat out that if he was going to cheat that she wasn't going to stand for it! She said if he wanted to go to tell her right now while she had her own good looks and could find someone else! Well my dad's attempt at an affair stopped cold and I'm happy to say that I took them out to dinner yesterday to celebrate they're 62 anniversary.

Answer 3

Another victim of monogamy. Too sad.

Answer 4

I think the only way you can solve this is by talking to each other about it. Trust is one of the most important parts of a relationship, and talking things through might help to alleviate both of your fears.

Answer 5

im very insecure as well... although i know i'm not unfortunate looking...

my boyfriend kissed my co worker and she's not prettier than me.. and that's being honest with you. ther's a ton of reazns why guys would cheat, but i think that you should definately tell ur bf how he makes you feel and tell him you love him very much... it's totally natural to be insecure and feel this way... although be a little bit careful with your friend gettin too close to him. you never know who could backstab you.

that's the lesson i learned. also, assure him of your love and that you'd never cheat on him... just talk... communication plays a big part in relationships....i've been in one fore 7 years and we're still working on

communication....

good luck..

Answer 6

I am sorry, i may sound mean but here it goes.

There you go, its hard being physically beautiful hey? Does he loves you for who you are or your looks? Thats what you have to be worried about, not if another more attractive girl would take him away. Would you want to be with someone who cares about looks. What happens if you ever had a huge scar on your face one day (i dont wish for that, just an example), will he still love you.

Looks arent everything, its time to grow up. There is more to life than these little dramas, which is not even worth your tears. Anyway, i am sorry if i sound mean, but that is infact the truth. Intelligence is more important and is very attractive too, not just looks.

All the best.