Insecure or a shrewd spouse?

Question

I watched my cousin rummage through her husbands phone, then checked his voice mail messages. I asked her why she was doing that and she told me she had to keep an eye on him. I asked if she trusted him and she said yes. I asked why she was being so invasive. She told me that's what she has to do as a wife...she has to make sure he's doing right by her. She has other measures of checking up on him but I can't type all of that.

This is just an example of how jealous people can be. What is the point of this emotion? Where does it get you besides hurt and disappointed (if they are guilty), and where does it get you if your spouse is not guilty? Do you worry about how they feel?

I'm just curious...

Answer 1

There is a reason she is doing this instinct must tell her she cant trust him  , so in her case if shes listening to her gut feelings which my guess is she is , good on her i say shrewd , to many stds out there not to be carefull.

Answer 2

I felt I had no reason to check up on my husband until he had an affair but if she has no red flags then I, too, feel this is way to invasive. Maybe she is guilty of something!

edit: What's with "Mercy's" response? Did I miss something. Are we being played with this question?

Answer 3

im guilty of being a snoop my husband has never given me any reason to think that he was cheating on me BUT when i was growing up my dad used to cheat on my mom just about every other night so i learned that no matter how long or how strong a relationship is there is always temptation out there and its up to your signifigant other to be faithful and snooping isnt a good thing i felt really guilty because he has nothing to hide its just my insecurities