Insecurities... How do we deal with them???

Question

I know it all boils down to acceptance but how???

Or does it???

HELP???

LOL

Answer 1

no i don't agree, don't ignore them face up to them ask your self why you feel this way, be honest get to know your self its the best way

Answer 2

Befriend them. Relish them as you do the rest of your relationship with you. Moreover, discover every single side of them and learn everything you can about them. Then grow into them. Make them grow to be as positive and organically part of you as the less insecure stuff.

Then no one can knock you down.

Answer 3

i dont know at all, sugar

Answer 4

The desire for security is the opposite of security.  For what gives you security can be taken away there for it is not total security it has its vulnerability.

It is not about acceptance, its about thought and self awareness.

All problems are created, psychologically and inwardly by thought.

Is not the movement of time, psychologically, the movement of thought?  So thought is time and time is fear – obviously.

There is no thinker, only conditioned thinking.

How does thinking arise?  There is perception, contact, sensation and then thought, based on memory.  Thought creates the thinker, it is the thinking process that brings the thinker into being.  Thought comes first, and later the thinker, it is not the other way round.

The way of thinking must wholly cease, for it breeds confusion and misery.  There is no better or nobler way of thinking.  All thinking is conditioned.

Life begins where thought ends.

Psycological time is invented by thought.

The origin of thinking is experience.

One of the reasons of conflict is duality.  Thought is the self, thought is the word that identifies itself as the ‘me’ and at whatever level the self is placed, high or low, it is still within the field of thought.

Thought cannot penetrate into the unknown, and so it can never discover or experience reality.

Phycological time is invented by thought.

Thought has created the me.  When the moment of thought stops there is no me.

Is there a thinker without thought?

The content of consciousness being all things put together by thought.

All forms of thinking are conditioned.

The very recognition prevents the experiencing.

Thought is the result of your conditioning, thought is the response of your memory.

Thought is always a fragment because thought is the outcome of the past and the past is a fragment of the total time.

There is contradiction and conflict between what is and what should be.

We have to find if there is action which is not the product of thought.

To look with thought and to look without thought are two different things.

Seeing without thought does not put the brain to sleep, on the contrary it is fully awake, attentive, without friction and pain.

There is no thinker, only conditioned thinking.

Our problems are created, psychologically and inwardly, by thought.

To find yourself, think for yourself.

Understanding of the self is a surer road to truth than a profound seeking after knowledge or an ideology.

If you look at what you are actually are and understand it, then in that very understanding there is transformation.

We shape clay into a pot, but it is the emptiness inside that holds whatever we want.

Would we have any problems if the self were absent?

Beauty is where you are not; the essence of beauty is the absence of the self.

What happens when you are ambitious?

You are thinking about yourself, are you not?

Why don’t you start with what you are and not with what you should be?  Without understanding what you are, merely to try to change it into what you think you should be has no meaning.

If you don’t understand your own thinking, which is self-knowledge, whatever you think has very little meaning.

Where the self is, love is not.

Without first knowing yourself, how can you know what is true?  Illusion is inevitable without self-knowledge.

The  greater the outward show, the greater the inward poverty.

The myth, the ideal, is unreal, it is a self-projected escape, it has no actuality.  The actual is what you are.  What you are is much more important than what you should be.

You can understand what is, but you cannot understand what should be.

You do not want to see or know what is happening within yourself.  You disregard the inner and hope to build the outer, yet the inner is always overcoming the outer.  The outer cannot last without the fullness of the inner, but the fullness of the inner is not the repetitious sensation of organized religion nor the accumulation of facts called knowledge.

You must know yourself as you are, not as you wish to be which is merely an ideal and therefore fictitious, unreal, it is only that which is that can be transformed, not that which you wish to be.

If you don’t compare yourself with another, you will be what you are.

Without understanding, sorrow will continue.  Sorrow ends only through self knowledge, the awareness of every thought and feeling, every movement of the conscious and that which is hidden.

If you care so much about what others say about you, you will continue to fool yourself and lie to them.

If you listen to that flattery with complete attention, neither liking nor disliking, listen to it completely, wholly, then an image is not formed, you do not call him your friend, and alternatively, the person who insults you, you do not call him your enemy.

Even as a great rock is not shaken by the wind, the wise person is not shaken by praise or blame.

Without first knowing yourself, how can you know what is true?  Illusion is inevitable without self-knowledge.

The very conception that self-knowledge is difficult to aquire is a hinderence to self-knowledge.

If there is no experiencer is there an experience.

To bring about order outside, there must first be order within.

We react to physical dangers but not to psychological dangers, which are much more devastating.

Because we are inwardly empty, dull, mediocre, we use our relationships and our social reforms as a means of escaping from ourselves.

Self knowledge is not an end in itself.  Is there a source to the stream?

Obviously, if I do not understand myself, the whole of relationship is one of confusion in ever-widening circles.

Without self-knowledge what you think is not true.

Without understanding yourself you cannot understand reality.

The ending of sorrow comes with self-knowledge, out of that self knowledge there is passion.

When we say “I must get rid of desire” who is the entity that is trying to get rid of something?  Is it not that entity also the outcome of desire.  

Without understanding yourself, whatever you do will inevitably bring about confusion and sorrow.

One can be a light to oneself only when there is no self.

Attatchment is the me, if there is no attatchment there is no me.

Its only when we see something totally that we understand it, we cannot see it totally if there is self-centered activity that guides, shapes our actions and thoughts.

Do I know that I an a good person?  If I know it, would I be a good person?

Answer 5

depends what youre insecure about. if you know you will be happier once those insecurities have been improved, then improve them, but if they cant be improved it is enivitable that you would except them eventually, so the sooner the better.

alot of the time, a person will never be happy with themselves. they will pick out all mistakes in themselves and these kinds of people should work for acceptance.

Answer 6

Pick yourself up brush yourself down and get on with it.  If people can't accept you for who you are or what you look like then there really not worth knowing.

Answer 7

Insecurities are very hard to master. No matter what, you can't control what your mind worries/thinks about. Instead of trying to make them go away, you should just learn how to ignore them and not let them affect your relationships/daily life.

Answer 8

suicide, it's the best way (my brother made me say it!)

Answer 9

It is acceptance - learning to live with your insecurities and working on them daily is a positive though long term (for me) exercise.

The positive aspect is knowing you are actively carrying out a daily routine of self improvement - no pain no gain.

Good luck mate..

Answer 10

You deal with them by working through them everyday and not letting them get the best of you. Everyone has them.  It's just a matter of acceptance and knowing your doing the best you possibly can in each day to day moment. xx

Answer 11

We don't really but it shows that we are working, emotional human beings! :-)

Answer 12

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