Insecurity problems?

Question

i have a boyfriend and every time he leaves to go on a vacation i feel so insecure that i feel i should leave him cuz he is usually always around me 24/7 and i feel like he is leaving me by going away for a few days. i feel like i should move on cuz i can't have him when i want him to keep a spark in our relationship. he notices that i am not all over him when he gets back because i feel this way and he is very confused and upset because i act like i am not interested anymore. how do i keep the spark and know that everything is still ok with us and that we do have a spark and care about eachother and not feel those bad feelings and insecurities? im not a control freak though. i do also enjoy my independance when he is gone and when he calls me when he gets home i feel that my independence is gone which is also why i have those feelings, but he is not a control freak either. i love him but i just don't know how to stop this situation of feeling this way. help!!

Answer 1

your relationship sounds very immature.

This is not a bad thing at all, i simply mean it sounds like you are very young and not yet emotionally mature to deal with the relationship you are in.

I'd suggest you enjoy yourself at the moment, be with your friends...get into a relationship like this when you are a bit older or a bit more emmotionally developed!

I was in something similar when i was younger and it wasn't worth the effort, when i got older and entered into more mature relationships i realised that it was not what i had needed! :)

Good luck!

Answer 2

trust me i have the same problem...and its even harder since mine is off in bootcamp and ait for 5 months...but here's a good way to fix your problem.

while he's gone try getting him to call or write letters to know what he's up to. if he feels like this is a waste of time while he's on vacay then let him have his space, but ask him to take loads of pics. that way when he gets back you can check out everything that happened while he was gone. this will give you a chance to bond over things he enjoyed doing.

Answer 3

get a life